How realistic are your expectations? of yourself, of your life, of your brain, or your vibration…

can you raise your iq?I wrote this article almost five years ago.

Since then I have done a lot of work in the area of intelligence. This article is a lot more mainstream (meaning: wrong) than I like it, so I am in the middle of writing yet another article.

The new article will take out the mystery, why you aren't able to accomplish what is within your power to accomplish... And what to do so that you can.

By the way, the mainstream lies are in the illustrations... Can you catch them? (Hint: fixed mindset?)

OK, here is the original article: This article will burst your bubble... so if you are not interested, don't read it. Just leave now, while you are ahead... Now, I said. I don't want hate mail... OK?

I had an interesting coaching session yesterday. I spoke words I thought were dangerous and inflammatory. Turned out that instead they inspired. I am still stunned...
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Many of you don’t have a Self… here is how to find your Self

We all have two selves. One is real, the other is made up.

The bigger the distance between the two, the less authentic, the less happy we are.

When you love yourself: you love your life... said in another way: when the two selves are in harmony, you love your life.

The soul's (the real self) job is to cause character, the soul's job is to help you find out who you are. The Self. The person you are...

Many of you have not managed to distinguish a Self from all the ideas of who you should be, who you want to be, who you fancy yourself being... The precious I, the delusional self.

A Self is your "I" that is independent and defensible from other people's opinion, and from even your own opinion of you... when you make mistakes.

I know this is a mouthful, so let me elaborate:
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Are feelings and emotions the same? Telling them apart will make you a happier, more accomplished person!

Why all techniques of increasing Emotional Intelligence are b.s. and not effecting the level of happiness, the level of well-being of people who practice it.

Same is true about the Emotional Guidance System of Abraham/ Hicks... b.s. and ineffective. Why? Because they are trying to change the fruits instead of the roots... Putting makeup on syphilitic lesions. 1 Or pimples, if you are squeamish...

Feelings are clean. They do four simple things. Make you go for it, make you stop, direct you towards pleasure and away from pain... They are the seed level. The foundation. 2Feelings are what guides you as an organism to feed yourself, to procreate, to stay safe, or to fight. To have a community to belong to, and to have enough information so you know what to do[/note.]

Emotions are a construct on the top of them, created by words, created by marker feelings, and are a veritable mess.
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The three levels of value: an amazing process to fall in love with yourself

intrinsic-versus-extrinsic-motivating-lasting-change-in-health-behaviors-2-638In this article I'll teach you something that has the potential to turn you into a happy, joyful person. No kidding.

Also, it can serve as the bridge between human and human being...

From that you can guess: the distinctions in this article are advanced.

At present, if you are a "normal" human, you are judging yourself and others. You are miserable, wretched, prone to get happy, get sad, get depressed at the drop of a hat.

I assert that you are judgmental, because distinctions are missing, and there is nothing wrong with you. Or them...

You are judgmental. You can't help it. You may try to control yourself, suppress it, but it isn't going anywhere. It is there. It's vicious. You judge yourself as much as you judge others. This is how you learned to be by modeling your parents, your teachers, your bosses, your church, your politicians.

Download the pdf version of this article at the end of the article
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Resistance, ego, and meaning… the dynamics of your suffering, and misery explained

laugh with them at yourselfFeedback is a 13th floor (Tree of Life) phenomenon...

If someone mocks you, laugh with them. It is obvious that humans, on the current level of evolution, live in comparison. I am better, smarter, richer, etc. than you/others.

So they mock you, judge you, try to change you. Normal.

You allow your ego to resist: you suffer. You allow your ego to fight back: you suffer.

The best way to deal with it is to laugh with them, agree with them. It takes the wind out of their sail.

All pain, all suffering comes from from your resistance, is the feeling of your own resistance. Continue reading "Resistance, ego, and meaning… the dynamics of your suffering, and misery explained"

From time to time I get incoherent.

heart coherence Coherence is when all your energies, all your fibers share the same direction and the same rhythm.

Much like having a six-horse carriage, and the horses pull in the same direction.

Incoherence is like herding cats... hopeless.

I am rarely incoherent. And when I am: I am acutely aware of it. Very unpleasant.

The truth is: I used to be incoherent most of the time.

What is the cause of incoherence? I think, for me, too many choices. And an inability or unwillingness to narrow them down, and maybe choose. Continue reading "From time to time I get incoherent."

Your deserving factor, your earning factor… How much do you deserve? How much have you earned? Are you worth a damn?

The 67 steps... does doing the 67 steps make you deserving? And if yes, why and how?

I am listening to step 1 of the 67 steps again. The seventh time? Eighth time? I have lost track.

And as is usual for me, I am seeing something that Tai is not saying, and I kind of have been seeing, but not really. In the corner of my eyes.

The whole program, the 67 steps, is based on a few quotes: "but is he worth a damn?"

Or the one by Charlie Munger: "In life, to get what you want you, need to deserve what you want."

And the third: "there are only three types of people: people who make things happen, people who watch things happen, and people who ask: what the heck happened?" Continue reading "Your deserving factor, your earning factor… How much do you deserve? How much have you earned? Are you worth a damn?"

Weird is the necessary ingredient to getting a cult following

I spend some of my "entertainment credits" to shore up my cultural understanding of the country I live in, the United States. It is still study... it is still doing my work.

I read books you had to read in high school, and I find that they are really good books.
I watch shows that you watched, read nursery rhymes.

I am watching Twin Peaks.

It's a cult classic, and I am learning a lot from it.

I learn that to be a cult movie, it has to be consistently weird. Like The Big Lebowski or really many of the Coen Brothers movies. The movie, Being John Malkovich.

But Twin Peaks takes it to a whole new level of weird. I am not talking of the surreal elements, those are just silly props. I am talking about people being themselves. Stupid, naive, self-centered, living in their made up universe... illustrations to "you live in a world of your own design", having very little of your map of reality and reality have in common... all very funny and all very commonplace... but here made weird, so you can see it.

Through adding weirdness it is now clearly visible, that most things we watch have a soothing, unreal corrective lens on them, because I have a hunch that Twin Peaks' representation of reality, the reality of human behavior, is closer to how it is.
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When the mind takes over perception: you see only what the mind allows you to see

perspective-3This is a four years old article. I am rewriting it to include fixed mindset, the distinction from Carol Dweck's book, Mindset.

When the mind takes over your perception you see what your mind wants to see.

We have all experienced how the mind tricks us into believing that something other than what's happening is happening.

When you are dizzy, sea-sick or drunk: the room seems to be spinning. When someone tells you skinny is good, you start liking skinny. When someone tells you you are ugly, you start seeing ugly.

Here are some examples:

1. You are not allowed to see what your mind doesn't allow you to see...

...this is why Japanese soldiers could not see, till the end, that they were beaten.

drowned-japanese-soldiers

More than that: Japanese soldiers enlisted into the Japanese navy, but never considered that they should learn to swim: the option that their vessel would sink never occurred to them: after all their emperor was invincible. They would not even make any moves to get a life preserver when they were under attack: their mind told them that nothing can, nothing could happen to them... and they died by drowning... victims of the mind hiding reality from them.

You are that Japanese soldier, you just don't know it.
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It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble, It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so

It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble, It's what you know for sure that just ain't so"It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble, It's what you know for sure that just ain't so".
~ from the movie "The Big Short"

Why is it that people don't like this quote? Can you guess?

I see it all the time. People are quite certain that what they know is true, and are puzzled by the fact that they don't feel good about themselves, about their place in the world, about their lives.

This includes smart people, and this includes people who are not that sophisticated.

We, as a species, are full of knowledge that just isn't so. And when we build theories, actions, futures, arguments on those untruths, then things don't work. Continue reading "It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble, It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so"