You live in an illusion… like The Matrix… And you are not happy…

I had a webinar yesterday.

We spent some time on defining what must be present, what checkboxes you must tick for what you see to be reality.

It was a first for most people… Reality is one of those words: foggy, undefined… amorphous.

We came up with four criteria… and there could be more.

reality:

1. collective: everyone should be able to see it
2. there is only one reality and it’s the same for everyone
3. reality doesn’t change over time. The interpretation may, but what happened happened. Continue reading “You live in an illusion… like The Matrix… And you are not happy…”

What is wrong with right and wrong? Are two billion pages all mistaken?

First, let’s clarify what is the meaning of “wrong”…

Many people look at me dumbfounded. There are wrong things and there are right things… everybody knows that… so what can be wrong with what everybody knows? Right?

But you see,

If you want to look for what makes everybody miserable, you better look at what everybody says… and use it as a guidance… either to how to be miserable, or how to get clear of misery.

One thing everybody agrees upon is this: some things are right, most things are wrong and the wrong things need to be fixed, killed, stomped upon, suppressed. And it is very real… except… wrong is made up. Continue reading “What is wrong with right and wrong? Are two billion pages all mistaken?”

How to get out of the cave of your mind and start living in reality?

I just had an email conversation with a client. She wanted my review on a marketed healing program, and I reviewed it for her. The person doing it: personal vibration 100, truth value of that program: 3%

The things you are attracted to cater to where you are in your evolution as a human… They talk to your “identity”, to your world-view, to who you are.

If you are attracted to a 3% truth value program it is because your world-views truth value is about 3%, 97% not reality, not truth, 97% b.s. These programs sell like hotcakes… Because this is the level that most humans live on. Continue reading “How to get out of the cave of your mind and start living in reality?”

Reality… the pragmatic approach that removes the misery, the suffering, even frustration

Back in the early 70’s I had a live-in boy friend, who was a philosophy student. His father was a famous philosopher, was a Hegel expert.

Hegel, I hear, is one of the most impenetrable philosopher to me. The family, father and three sons, had regular philosophy lessons.

I am not interested in philosophy, not a debating/argumentative person, but lately I am encountering philosophical questions that are at the root of my teaching: teaching you to be in harmony with life, teaching you to live a happy life. 1

One of the most important questions here is what is reality, what is real, because all that unhappiness we experience comes from what is not real. Continue reading “Reality… the pragmatic approach that removes the misery, the suffering, even frustration”

Are you REALLY procrastinating? Podcast

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In this podcast episode I spend 90 minutes to disappear all your misconceptions about what is procrastination and return you to sanity.

You cannot solve a problem that is not real

We all have moments of brilliance and hours of stupidity, or some version of “not brilliant”

Some people take it in stride… this is how it is, no matter who you are. Einstein had moments of brilliance… and hours, days of stupidity too.

If life were not like that, brilliant/stupid alternating, there would be no life on the planet… we would all die of exhaustion.

Brilliance is not the only “peak experience” we all crave and wand to keep around all the time. So we are with pretty, and nice, and helpful, and all the other made up “solutions” to our failings… And, as I have said before, every solution is the beginning of a bigger problem.

I got raped because I was stupid, I said. Continue reading “You cannot solve a problem that is not real”

Why can’t you copy the same exact thing a billionaire does, and get the same result?

  • What is the difference between people who make a lot of money, and people who don’t,
  • people who have good family life, and people who don’t,
  • people who have good health and people who don’t?

I watched a video on which a dude played the same exact tunes on three different violins.

The link to the video was on Digg, and the editor said that they, in Digg’s office, didn’t hear much difference.

I did. One violin’s sound brought tears to my eyes… it was so incredibly resonant, and beautiful. 1

Continue reading “Why can’t you copy the same exact thing a billionaire does, and get the same result?”

The tyranny of the pursuit of happiness

More books are sold on happiness than maybe even on dieting… especially because 98% diet books’ hidden attraction is happiness.

Weird, eh?

I have read my share of the books on happiness, of all kinds of psychologies, philosophies, and just inane silliness in articles, TED talks, youtube videos…

In my humble opinion no one is willing to shout out that the emperor is naked. that our desire for happiness is what causes this sea of unhappiness we are all swimming in. Continue reading “The tyranny of the pursuit of happiness”

How do you change the past?

The full title of the Playground course is: Playground: it’s never too late to have a happy childhood.

Why is that significant? And what the heck does even mean?

The past is the past, and you cannot change it, they say, but if you look in history books, you’ll see that it does… depending on the point of view of the historian… 1

In the Playground we re-write your history. Not in a fancy, inventive, “you create your life” kind of way… we actually go back to the root incidents, and look at them through different filters, through learning about different invisible dynamics. Continue reading “How do you change the past?”

Why aren’t you happy most of the time?

It’s not what you could see, hope to see, it is what you actually see, consciously, that define your actions and therefore your results, your thoughts, your mood…

What you see is called “occurrence” and is made up of a little bit of reality, and an awful lot of words.

Words that explain, words that interpret, words that give meaning of what is actually happening: reality.

What is Reality? Collective hunch at best, but we can define it in a funky way: everything that a just arrived Martian can see! Then stick to that definition, like the seasoned umpire sticks to his… I’ll explain it later…

If I set out a caption contest, everyone would give me a different caption, depending on what they see. And you don’t see things as they are (reality), you see them as YOU are… full of meaning, interpretation, drama, emotions, full of hot air. Reality is simple, a woman standing by the railing of a bridge… or maybe a balcony. No words, no emotions.

This is the job the Playground is about… to carefully peel away the veils (words and marker feelings = emotions) YOU add to reality to make you, ahem… miserable, for the most part.

The three umpires story needs to be told again here…

Continue reading “Why aren’t you happy most of the time?”