The three R-s… or how the bad news is a godsend and can be the beginning of something great

On my way home, climbing the long steps off Euclid Avenue, I was listening to Step 21 of the 67 Steps. It's about a superpower of being able to get into a relationship with people because you can recognize how their machine works, and because therefore you can speak their language.

Everything comes to you through people... and you cannot get more abundance than what your skills with people allow you to have.

I have been resigned about my ability to get better at dealing with people. Resigned means: I have a fixed mindset about it, that says: it may be possible for you, but it's impossible for me.

But being resigned doesn't mean I have given up. I haven't. But every time I read someone's stuff, or watch someone's stuff who is good at it, and maybe that is their superpower, I resent them. I do. Not nice, I know, but it's how it is.

It goes hand in glove with resignation. Continue reading "The three R-s… or how the bad news is a godsend and can be the beginning of something great"

How To proactively beat the top regrets of the dying? Part 2

top regrets of the dyingHow To proactively beat the top regrets of the dying?

Yesterday I gave you an exercise to imagine yourself on your deathbed.

Many people get all emotional about that: so it may not have worked for you. I love that exercise, but here is another exercise:

Imagine that you are on the riverside fishing. You see that the line is tout, the rod is trembling, so you do what fishermen do, and you pull out a fish.

As you take the hook out of the fish's mouth the fish starts to talk. It says: My good man (or woman, if you are a woman), please release me back into the water and I will reward you handsomely: I will fulfill three wishes for you.

You are surprised, you question your sanity for a little bit, so you throw the fish back, after all any wish should be more valuable than the 3-4 bucks this fish is worth when you cook it. Continue reading "How To proactively beat the top regrets of the dying? Part 2"

Top Five Regrets of the Dying and how to beat them

Top Five Regrets of the Dying and how to beat them

  • 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  • 2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
  • 3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
  • 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  • 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

These are the top five regrets of the dying, and here is how to beat having these regrets, or any other

I have read articles about dying and I have read poems written by old-old people expressing their regrets. They are in death's anteroom, and the view of their life and themselves is special from there: they are to the side and slightly elevated position from where they can both feel and see. Continue reading "Top Five Regrets of the Dying and how to beat them"