UPDATE: I have some underachiever friends and students. I suspect that they may have dyslexia. It just occurred to me... after two excruciatingly difficult conversations in a row... where the partners in the conversation felt stuck, dense, and their level of comprehension is low.
Both are men, both are making a living in their own business, both shy away from learning anything new.
It is one of the worst things for me when I try to teach someone something that they need, and they nod and yes me to death, only to do the opposite or nothing.
Every human wants to make a difference, wants to matter, more than anything, and this flies in the face of that...
If you are here, reading this blog, you have a complaint about life... something you'd like to fix. Even if you are pretending that you are "just" curious... all humans living on Planet Earth have something they don't like and they'd like to fix it.
That is the first inclination of everyone. You have an itch: scratch it. Have a problem? Find a solution.
Solution is a code word for fixing.
But we all face a problem, like the dog who scratched his skin so now it is raw and is going to get infected.
The solution is the next problem, usually bigger than the original problem.