What is real? What is made up? How can you tell?

I have read all the One minute books... I saw that the One Minute Manager touched on my Achilles' Heel...

Each of these One minute books teaches some attitude, or a thing to do, that makes you and the people you work with happier, more productive, etc.

Except...

Occam's razor says: everything should be as simple as it can be but not simpler.

Pop psychology is simplistic. You find yourself nodding vigorously as you read it. But when it comes to doing it... oops. You cannot do it.

The One Minute manager's job is to catch people doing the right things.

Most people cannot. Most people keep their eyes on what you do wrong, what they do wrong... what needs to be fixed. But most importantly they cannot see what is. Continue reading "What is real? What is made up? How can you tell?"

The mind is the stupid part of you…

Your mind, your stupid part, has no direct knowledge about reality. It has no concern, no regard to reality... It has in it what the memes have programmed it to have... 1% reality, 99% b.s. And your mind is, therefore, your worst friend. It is killing YOU and it is killing your life... sometimes slowly, sometimes really fast. 1

Every Tuesday I read my email to find my weekly horoscope, and here it goes... again. Setting a context for my life, a context I could have never dreamed up myself... Rob Brezsny and his weekly horoscopes I would not want to miss. Continue reading "The mind is the stupid part of you…"

How old is your child self that is running your life to the ground?

What is an adult, what is a child... and does your ego-state (Child, Parent, Adult) influence how much money you have, how much love you have, how healthy you are? 1

In the starting point measurements I measure (#19) To what degree you have access to your adult capacities. 2 or asked in another way, how much does your adult run your life? The more adult the more results...

And how much is the child running your life, how much is it running your life to the ground?

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Can you predict the future? Can you pick the next big winner?

My last article, the shotgun method has missed its target... few even understood what the heck I was talking about.

Regardless, I am continuing on the theme, because this is one of the stumbling block for most of you... so although you don't know what is eating your lunch... although you have no idea how you are screwing up, I do, and I am here to help you till you get it. I already have a third article in the pipeline... ;-/

About a month ago I finally and suddenly got ready to pick a marketing mentor. Terry Dean is his name... and as soon as I can afford it, I'll also book one-on-one coaching with him. It's expensive... Continue reading "Can you predict the future? Can you pick the next big winner?"

You are in the bull’s ear… You live in the bull’s ear

Parents want to help, but instead they push you deeper into the bull's ear.

The expression, came from a student's father, 1 you are in the bull's ear, is a great distinction. It is not American, and because it is alien sounding, almost nonsensical, it can wake you up. 2
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Should you become a client? Would I even accept you as a client?

For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.

I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.

I had no idea how I "accomplished" that... in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.

What wasn't clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My "To what degree you think of yourself:" starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.

Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt...

What I didn't know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.

A customer who is not happy is a drag on an provider, and not worth the little (or even a lot of) money they pay.

I was that kind of customer...
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Reframing: is losing weight hard? is it hard work? or is it something else?

 

I went grocery shopping today on my own. I was carrying some 20 lbs of groceries up the steps to get home. 1

I ran into Leo, my musician friend. I explained to him that carrying those 20 lbs of groceries illustrated to me what it was like to climb the steps a year ago, when I was about 20 lbs heavier. In 18 months I shed 40 lbs.

He said: Losing 40 pounds is hard work.

I said "no it isn't..." He wanted to know how, and I told him that is what I get paid the big bucks for. He laughed, but it got me thinking. Continue reading "Reframing: is losing weight hard? is it hard work? or is it something else?"

How to access the invisible so you can have more power in your life?

It's Saturday. The only reason I know it is Saturday because tomorrow I'll have the first session of Version 2 of the muscle testing course.

And I am afraid. Normal. Anything new, anything threatening with unexpected unknowns creates fear. Normal.

So I stayed in semi-sleep mode an hour longer than my normal getup time... Looking.

I looked at all the relevant invisible elements of my life, to see where I can influence this fear... and how. Not that fear is bad... but I prefer life with less fear. Continue reading "How to access the invisible so you can have more power in your life?"

Success secret: experimentation

If you find that your life, your oceanliner that is stuck in a tight bay isn't turning around, this article will teach you something that the knowing of can make a difference.

Remember, when life isn't working as you expected, there is something that you didn't know... and it is always in the invisible realm of reality... And so is with this one.

As I said before, ess, evolutionary stable strategy, is where humanity finds itself, where you personally find yourself, and when you muscle test anything, it is ess, aka the selfish gene is what answers your question... unless you muscletest while connected to a higher-than-the-genes consciousness.

OK, that was quite a mouthful. Sorry about that...

Wherever you are in life, in any area of your life, you are in ess. In ess your actions, your ideas, your advisement will come from a "source" that wants to maintain that ess... If you are fat... then maintain being fat. If you are inactive, then maintain inactivity. If you are always engaging in bombastic dreams, then maintain that... engaging in bombastic dreams.

If you act in life like you already know what you need to know, then ess wants to maintain that. If you read, then maintain reading, if you don't, then maintain not reading. Continue reading "Success secret: experimentation"

Updated: How to turn an oceanliner around in a tight bay… or how should you go from where you are to where you want to be, emotionally and all ways

how do you turn around a big ship in a harbor? trimtabbing to the rescueUPDATE: I wrote this article in 2007... when I did a lot of business training, business coaching... So please consider that some of what I say in this article is outdated in that regard.

I ended my core group training, and as it seems I now have some energy to coach.

Instantly three "associates" called, on the same day, and I accepted all three for some friendly coaching: just for the fun of it.

Who or what kind of people are people I like to coach:

  1. They need to have a business already. That shows courage and direction. That shows that they are above 95% of humanity, maybe even more. They are up to something and therefore the coaching can have a direction.
  2. They need to need the coaching, and they need to know it. They need to request it and make a commitment to take the steps I recommend. Rare indeed.

One of these people probably won't have a big enough commitment and will be "fired" by me.

Another one of these people is probably going to want to quit when the going gets tough or make me do his work... I'll probably fire him.

The third guy will succeed, beyond his wildest dreams.

How do I know it? Because when I shared with him the article I wrote some three years ago on the method of turning a big ship around in a tight bay, he cried. I mean wept...

Then he found the video below: and sent it to me. He was "touched, moved and inspired."

He will take actions, even though it is his son's birthday and Easter all at the same time. Even though he has a wife with "good ideas" to keep him busy and off-track... 🙁

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