Emotional Intelligence: learning what feelings are, what feelings do will help you live life as a human, instead of a puppet

Yesterday I was on the phone with a client.

Her soul correction is Fear/Fearless. In the conversation it was becoming obvious that she had read "Feelings" the book I have been so excited about. So the conversation was on a more even footing that most of my conversations: she has been paying attention and recognizing at least some of the dynamics the feelings have, and has been managing her fear quite well.

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You have always wanted to get out of your head. You tried meditation, drugs, to no avail. Because the way out of the head is through the feelings... the body, where you feel the feelings. Your control center. Overriding the mind nearly 100% of the time.

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Let’s talk about sexual preference

Twice in my life I had a choice to choose being attracted to women... I mean mainly.

The first time the choice was made for me: when the woman found out that I had no history of being attracted to women, she said: "I won't do that to you." I was about 22.

The second time I found myself turned on by a woman dancing, and I clearly saw a choice. I saw that I could choose to pursue that, but with that I would choose a life of hiding, a life of not fitting in, a hard life. I chose not to go for it.

As a sex therapist, coach, I talk to a lot of people.

I don't buy that you are born gay. You are born normal, but are turned at some point.
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