Updated: What is an emotional detox? What is emotional healing? Introducing HOE long range

emotional detoxBefore you can go up, You need to go down! Just like in building a house. Because unless you clear off the “stuff” and then dig deep to know what’s under the top soil, your house will be warped and collapse in a hurry, often while you are building it.

For most of you this is really bad news, because you are hellbent to stay phony happy, phony loving, phony well… delusionally high self-esteem-ed, and you are unwilling to even look at what is real. But what’s real is real, and if you ignore it it will bite you in the a-s-s. No compassion, no looking, just continuing what isn’t working, and never will is stupid… Here, I said it.

Or maybe you know you are miserable, and you will take on the task of digging deep, to the bottom of the foundation… and what you find there isn’t pretty… and it isn’t. It violates your standards, it violates your better self… and even though I teach you to bring self-compassion to the looking, so you can build an healthy self on top of this new foundation… what was seen cannot be unseen… and it is toxic… that’s why you’ve been miserable.
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The attitude of high self-esteem, does it help you or hinder you? Here is your answer…

the price of high self-esteem is anxietyHigh self-esteem can be expressed in the picture of the cat looking in the mirror seeing herself as a lion. But is she? No. Therefore, any time she is just a cat, doing what cats do, she will feel bad about herself, because she isn’t living up to her own self-image of a roaring lion. She won’t be happy just being a cat, she won’t take correction, she’ll argue with you to death that she is OK, she doesn’t need to change, that she is a perfect lion.

That cat is you, my dear. Result: everything you try to change your life fails, because in order to change you need to allow yourself to not be perfect. In order to be trained, you need to empty your mind of everything that’s there, and declare yourself ignorant.
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