In this article we’ll look at intelligence, but we could also look at the character, the attitude, the moral fortitude of the selves… but because I look at the world through the frame of smart and stupid, and only secondarily through loyal/disloyal, I’ll write this article on the intelligence level of your two selves.
Growth, real growth, change, real change is only discernible over time… and this article shows how much I have changed in these three years.
So I am going to edit it, to reflect my state today…
Most people are afraid to make a mistake. They are paralyzed, or procrastinate… and in the end often don’t take any action… and hate themselves for it.
I used to be one of these people.
Most of my clients are like this too.
In this article I will attempt to teach something I myself needed to learn and then master.
Continue reading “Self-trust, or what causes you to do nothing with your life?”
What is good: the definition
The first question that you should ask when I suggest you become a better human being, is “what do you mean: better?”
So far I have never had anyone ask that question. Why is that? Because we live our lives based on assumptions.
One assumption is that we fully understand the meaning of the words we hear.
As a foreigner I learned every single word. And struggled mightily with five-dollar words that describe a better human being.
I came to the USA when I was 38 years old. I had 29 years of academic study under my belt. I had read thousands of books. I had watched hundreds of movies. I spoke 4 languages fluently, and 3 more badly. Continue reading “Will Practicing Compassion Make You A Better Human Being?”
Do you live powerfully? If the answer is yes, then I can tell you that you have a strong self-esteem.
What is your self-worth?
And I don’t mean how much you want to make an hour, a day, a week, or a year. What you want has nothing to do with self-worth!
Self-worth also has nothing to do with what you know, what you can do, what other people think you can do or can’t do. Self-worth is how much you think, deep inside, when the chips are down, when life looks hopeless, how much do you think you are worth then? Continue reading “Living powerfully, what will it take to defy the odds?”
What does it take to attract your desire?
In January, people make resolutions, that address some of their deepest desires.
Weight, relationship and money are the three most frequent wishes, and most of them never go anywhere, no change, and yet another year makes hope lost a little bit more, confidence lost a little bit more, self-esteem lost a little bit more.
Why would this be?
There are many reasons, but I’d like to address one: it takes several inner and outer changes to bring about the capacity to change any of the three main areas.
And because we weren’t told how to change our inner world, little by little, one tiny change at a time, we never actually do it, and unless your inner world, your being changes, your outer world, your weight, your relationships, your money situation can’t change.
Examples to this what happens when there are sudden and unprepared-for changes that came from the outside.
Continue reading “Weight, relationship, money you desire… are you stuck in these areas?”
Regrets, I’ve had a few … .How many of us are stuck in ruts because we cling to past slights, traumas, missed opportunities, and betrayals? The best way to let go and move forward is to acknowledge and accept those negative things you did (or had done to you) as steps on the path that brought you to where you need to be today.
Today, recall the pain of your past. Allow yourself to get to the point where you can accept that they were blessings; the perfect things that helped you build a new you. If you can release your grip on the anger, sadness, and regret, then it will be easier to spot the Light in the darkness. (quoted from daily kabbalah tuneup)
Interesting that this would come up just now.
I am working with a client/friend, let’s call her DD. She has been doing great. She has gotten in touch with the light in herself and her power to choose.
She is severely overweight and it’s effecting her overall health, but effects more than anything, her self image. Continue reading “Regrets, Resentments, and other vicious Life-Killers”