Two rules of engagement and a condition…

two rules of engagementEver since last Saturday I have been observing myself putting myself down, devaluing myself. Telling people I am not such a good coach, etc. etc. etc.

I know what happened. I know exactly.

I watched this guy’s videos, I read his testimonials, I heard his superior facility to guide people and take them where he wanted them to go. I watched his 24/7 tireless enthusiasm to turn marginally interested people into fans. And I compared.

I compared.
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Choice is: selecting freely, AFTER consideration.

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Choice is: selecting freely, AFTER consideration.

Matsa asks: hmm, it’s puzzling – if you never choose X, didn’t you, in fact, chose Y?

My answer: are you referring to choosing sexual preference? Most people have the choice made for them, societally and biologically…

99.99% of people never actually choose consciously, instead allow something else to choose for them: how they feel, their urges, society, the other, etc.

The best example for choiceless choice is: choosing your mother… choosing your life to be the way your life is. It is weird for people. They resist how it is… but there is no other choice.

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Let’s talk about sexual preference

chose to be straightTwice in my life I had a choice to choose being attracted to women… I mean mainly.

The first time the choice was made for me: when the woman found out that I had no history of being attracted to women, she said: “I won’t do that to you.” I was about 22.

The second time I found myself turned on by a woman dancing, and I clearly saw a choice. I saw that I could choose to pursue that, but with that I would choose a life of hiding, a life of not fitting in, a hard life. I chose not to go for it.

As a sex therapist, coach, I talk to a lot of people.

I don’t buy that you are born gay. You are born normal, but are turned at some point.
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Judgment: What is judgment? what is it really? The whole picture…


Update: When we are on a lower level of consciousness, we think it is all about us. What we do, what other people say, our results… everything. So our “self” is always in danger of falling off its pedestal, and we feel that with it we die.

The reason: we can’t tell, we don’t even think, that we and our actions are not the same. We can’t see that we do something, and the results of those actions don’t change who we are… there is no real connection. The results are the results, you are you, no connection. Continue reading “Judgment: What is judgment? what is it really? The whole picture…”

Should you be on Facebook? Does it raise your vibration?

FACEBOookEvery once in a while I check my facebook page. I have little hopes that I will get anyone from there purchase anything from me…

Today I got an email from Facebook that one of my last posts, The Grand Delusion article gets shared more than my other posts, and so I should throw some money at it, so they show it more than just about 2% of my members… lol. 2%…

OK, I’ll bite, I thought and said, ok promote it for 20 dollars. A few hours later I got another email:

“One or more of the posts you promoted don’t meet our guidelines and have been disapproved.

Your ad wasn’t approved because it uses profane, vulgar, or threatening language, or insults, harasses, or demeans people, or addresses age, gender, race, physical condition, sexual preference, or generates high negative feedback.”

I had to laugh. I never thought about myself that way, but I mean to defame products that earned their fame by defrauding, misleading people. And I bet that those product owners, teaches, healers, consider my articles insults… harasses, and such. I guess, unintentionally…
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