Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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Let’s build a high vibration person. let’s build a skill, let’s build some skills
I am starting a new series that also shows a new direction I am taking my teaching/coaching practice.
Continue reading “Let’s build a high vibration person. Where shall we start?”
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Simple answer: You lack skills and capacities…
You can boil water, make coffee in the coffee maker. Drive a car, open your smartphone… You are not quite hopeless… or are you? Not quite hapless either… or are you?
One of the measurements in the Starting Point Measurements is your vocabulary: how well do you actually know, how accurately know what words mean…
Here we look into words (distinctions) that define your ability to live a good life… skills, competencies, abilities and such. Continue reading “How to get out of the rut you are in? Get unstuck…”
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This morning I have been experiencing an emotional roller coaster… as I am cycling through tens of people as I accidentally connect to them. Some gurus, Murakami, his wife, a marketing guru, my next door neighbor, my brother, some students, a site visitor from Hungary, my architecture school friend.
I can feel my face, my mouth… and I can recognize the micro expressions and identify them.
And then, of course, the emotions of my own reaction to their internal state… judgment, compassion, pity, sympathy…
I could write an article, a whole article, about each of them, but I’ll write about a word that screwed up countless lives… and probably still is.
As you know, a large period of my life I was an architect. Architecture school, in Hungary, is something you choose after high school, and it’s a five year study, every person takes the exact same classes.
The favorite or dreaded word of an architecture student was ‘talented’ or ‘not talented’.
Continue reading “Are you talented? Is talent wasted on you?”
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Talking about flying isn’t. Everyone can talk about flying, but only flying is flying… and most people who talk about flying are giving lip service to flying. It takes real skill to fly… Bummer, eh?
Most every course, workshop, book, workbook, even one-on-one coaching, consulting, leave you with no skills. They teach you knowledge… about. Information. Having an idea about how to do something, maybe some even do it for you, but guess what? Next time you need to do something, or something changes, you are sh!t out of luck: you have to hire them again.
My goal has always been to leave you with all the power, and having the skill to do what you need to do is having all the power. Continue reading “Skill? Talking about flying isn’t…”
There is another reason you want to learn as many skills as you can: in today’s competitive environment, with eight billion people, it is hard to stand out. And if you don’t stand out then you are competing with everyone… and that, my friend, is not a good thing, unless you are satisfied with crumbs.
Now, that is a tall order, when there are eight billion people on the planet… and many of them are probably smarter than you are… And yet you want to get as close to that idea, being the only one who does what you do, as close you can….
So how is that possible? By coloring over the lines… not inside.
We are all trained as kids to color within the lines… But…
Everyone can have one thing they do well. Many people do two things well. Some people do three or more things well. Most people don’t do anything well.
Only a few people think of combining what they do well into a unique skill-set. They have the mindset of either/or… doing either one or the other.
Continue reading “How to gain an unfair advantage in life?”
My estimate is that this global epidemic came just at the right time to show you that you have been swimming naked.
About 99% of humanity.
My students are not exceptions to this. The only difference, as far as I can see, is they took heed from me… on a Talk to me webinar a week ago, and some of them at least are using this time to double up on becoming worth a damn and be able to become more in spite of the trouble the world is in. Thank you for that, guys.
You have no skills, you are depending on bosses, depending on someone else provide you with a livelihood. Continue reading “You got bigger problems than I can solve, and you best move on”
“It’s easier to evaluate your results through drunken delusion than to gaze soberly in the mirror and face the truth.”
I had a conversation yesterday with one of my clients, and as it is predictable in many conversations, weight came up.
Weight is a universal source of grief, effort, disappointment, and self-hate.
But why would that be so?
I can recall, in my life, four “campaigns” to regain control over my body.
The most recent one is successful and is going to last. The previous ones included one or two elements that were not sustainable. for example the first time I was on a starvation diet, and I maintained it for 10 years, until I came to the United States, where the plenty beat me on my a**. Continue reading “When all your efforts result in no learning”
I realized today that I am still at the beginning phases of my “entrepreneurial” journey… meaning: I am not a seasoned entrepreneur.
Why that would be, you ask?
Today I had an insight. Everyone talks about knowing, maybe even knowing how to do something, but hardly anyone talks about building skills, the building blocks of a successful life.
There is a what to do… and then there is a how to do it… and they all look magical and at least foggy for most people… Continue reading “What does skill-building do to you, beyond building skills?”
