What is a soul-mate? Who is your soul-mate? Are they unconditionally nice-nice, or accepting?

One of my students is asking a really good question.

She has two friends whose soul correction is Forget Thyself... and she has a good relationship with me... and I have that same soul correction.

She asks:

Sophie, after I read your last article I checked my last 2 friends' soul corrections. My one friend who pushed me to a certain level had a soul correction Forget Thyself. My friend now, whom I met this year, also has a soul correction Forget Thyself. Interesting. Do we get attracted to certain soul corrections or maybe we get along better with some soul corrections that matches our soul correction?

The answer is not that simple.

  • We know that we have two selves. One self doesn't change. We can call it the soul. Or the Self. Or whatever you want to call it, it is unchanging. It is the same in you, it is the same in me... it is, maybe, the Self of what's possible for the human species...
  • Obviously your other self is far from that, it is changing, it is reactive, put together, selfish, and complaining, and haughty, and bossy... all the things you see everywhere.

You are BEING that other self.

Soul correction is the soul's attempt to bring that public and not so high minded other self up to its own level.

According to my muscle test, a perfect soul correction never happened in history before. Some low mindedness always snuck in to spoil the deal... My favorite character, in this regard, is Moses, Moshe Avenu, who, at the end of his long and amazing life, could not resist begging the Creator to let him enter the Promised Land, even though their deal was: you won't. Your job is to lead them there, and die.

If there were such a thing as gilgul , reincarnation of the soul, I probably would be a reincarnation of Moses, given what my work is: leading a handful of you to the Promised Land, but being too old to enter myself with you. I find it very funny, lol.

OK, my personal stuff aside, back to how you choose partners, friends, spouses. Is there anything guiding it?

The Choice that is guided by your lower self

According to Landmark Education, your racket chooses your partner's racket. Your racket, the sneaky little lower self complaining that "the world isn't making it happy" part of you.

And that seems to be one choice... the choice that firmly keeps you stuck and anchored in your lower self.

Spouses... lovers... yeah... I'll give you some examples a little later, but I want to distinguished the second choice:

The choice that is guided by the soul.

Growth happens only when you can see that you need to grow, because the opposite is ugly. Really... Ugly, unpleasant, distasteful, disgust are guiding feelings, pushing you higher on the scale of beingness, which we call soul correction.

A friend who was chosen by the soul, is irritating, somewhat.

They will either push you: friction, or show the same ugly behavior your soul wants you to correct.

Without that, without them doing whatever low-minded thing you are doing, you are not aware that you are doing it.

Almost all of my students chose me as a teacher from the urging of the soul.

I cause friction. I won't let you get away with the behavior or attitude you need to correct, and I will be blunt about it.

Some escape, and return to the friends that match their little lower self complaining that the world isn't making it happy... your lower self. They have given up on soul correction... for now. Hopefully they will get disgusted soon enough.

Your ability to take friction depends on your pain-tolerance, on the strength of your inner desire to become all you can become, your TLB.

As you take the friction, you act on it, as you consider it the best thing that can happen to you, better than sliced bread, your vibration grows, and your two selves grow closer.

You have first moments, then minutes, then hours that you love yourself, and you love your life.

You need friction to grow... in everything.

Now, let's look at your family. You know you chose your spouse, but do you choose your parents? Siblings?

I am not sure. To me they all seem to be the crabs in the bucket that keep you from escaping the bucket, keep you in misery... but did you really choose them?

If your lower self chose your spouse for the express purpose to allow you to be comfortable as the little clod of ailments that claims that they want to be happy, they are now part of the whole family, and part of the crab bucket, in league with your parents, siblings, and your in-laws.

I haven't seen anyone whose soul has chosen their spouse, but it is not impossible.

We call that choice: soul-mate. Soul mate provides the friction you both need to grow.

Spouses provide the smoothness and comfort that is like the bed in the morning: feels soft and comfortable... so you don't get up to do what you said you would do.

Now, famous last words: if you have a self-deluding type of soul correction,

...like the student who asked the question, you'll see only what you want to see, and will feel very self-satisfied and happy with yourself.

But don't go that fast, suspect that the lower self is sneaky, and is a shape-shifter, it is the trickster...

Ask for your vibration number, and get knocked conscious, awake, aware, please.

The reality of your low number can wake you up...

You see that my job, being the ultimate soul mate is to knock you conscious... I am a natural at it... lol.

Opinion? How should you hear what someone says?

What is the difference between an opinion 1 and an assessment, an observation, a statement, a theory, a hypothesis?

Many people use one word for many different things...

I have this "friend" who climbs the same steps I climb, except that he climbs it seven times each time, I climb it once or twice. He is a little younger than me.

I am fond of him: he is one of the handful of people I regularly talk to, eye to eye.

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The Wise, the Foolish, and the Evil test

necessary-endingsThe personality test that tells you if you can grow, and if you can benefit from working with me.

I have been at my wits' end for years now.

Today I found out what was missing...

Remember the wise saying: when something is not working, there is something you don't know.

More often than not, what you don't know is a distinction... and it was definitely true in my case.

I have been making the mistake of coaching and dealing with my people as if they were me... like me... similar to me.

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The most difficult capacity to master brings the most benefits… of course

validation invalidation bilocation capacityAccording to Malcolm Gladwell: life skills, social skills, winning skills you learn through living with people who use them.

My mother didn't have them, and my brothers, especially my younger brother didn't get them...

I did get some from my father: my father came from deep... his mother died of starvation, he was bounced between families, autodidact: getting an education without going to school, walking from one country to the other to save his skin...

I didn't see any of that. What I saw was him spending almost all his time writing or reading, and advancing himself.

Others, the rest of the family, could watch senseless TV... he wasn't pulled by that: he knew what he wanted, and it seems that he knew that TV won't get him there.

If you ever wondered how come I could pull myself away from family and society's pleasures: I saw it done, and I knew it can be done. I never saw that my father suffered any ill effects from it. 1
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What Is The Difference Between A Highly Intelligent Person And A ‘Normal’ Person? Can Intelligence Be Activated?

unconditional love allows you to break the chains that keep you down, keep you a slave

Does the intelligent person have more brain cells?

The difference is to what degree they use what they have. Or how they use it... or for what...

It is said, that most people use 2-3 percent of their brain. That statement is not entirely true, they use more, but not for thinking.

The rest of the brain is used for fear based negative thoughts. Or to mill water... Ponder stuff that doesn't matter, fret, worry, explain in your head... yeah, the stuff your mind is busy with.
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Soul Correction and sexuality

natural selection vs. interference with natureSoul Correction and sexuality

This topic is just beginning to emerge for me, so expect some changes, and wild turns, and summary statements reversed... but yet it is worth exploring, it is worth to take this winding road to discover the connection, and do some soul-searching as to what I really hold true, and also to meditate what the "Original Design" holds as ideal blueprint for a human... Big task, but I am up or it.

I am going to examine it through three soul correction archetypes, for now, Forget Thyself, (34) Soul Mates, (28) and Sexual Energy (35).

I am starting to see enough of these to be able to say something that may make a difference. I am also tempted to pull in "Speak Your Mind" (25)... we'll see. Don't hold your breath.

OK, let's begin... big sigh, fear, oh, what the heck, the worst can ever be is the article won't be publishable, lol.

OK, First let's look what's this sexual energy is... well, from its name it should be clear: it is an energy. It is a drive.
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Vibrational Reviews: Raymon Grace: Energizing Your Water, Kute Blackson, And On Emptiness That Fills Your Core, And How Do The Activators Work

raymon grace water dvdVibrational Reviews: Raymon Grace: energizing your water, Kute Blackson, and the emptiness that fills your core

Yesterday I received a DVD of Raymon Grace (personal vibration: 170) from one of the students, so I can test it.

Raymon Grace

Now, I hate to admit, I am not sure what to make of what I experienced.

I put a pitcher of water in front of the monitor, as instructed. The water's vibration was 190... it was already purified. Then I poured out of the pitcher about 1/4 glass into a glass and held it high.
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Want to Beat Fear? Here is your Secret: Because Of Great Love One Is Courageous

because of great love one is courageous

Because Of Great Love One Is Courageous (Lao Tzu)

I am starting a 3-session exploratory course next Thursday. It's called HeartConnection Meditation.

The goal is to get to a combination of methods to awaken courage.

What we, human beings, experience when courage is needed is fear. And we concentrate on the fear, either by talking about it, or by hiding it. But either way it occupies our entire field of (inner) vision.

When you ask a student what it is that they have the biggest issue with, they say fear.

So I asked the Creator what was the Seat of Courage, and I got the surprising answer: the heart.

But heart is known to be the center of love... Is it possible that we suffer from lack of love and that is what we experience as fear?

Osho thinks so. Obviously Lao Tzu thought so. And if I had the time, I could, probably, find thousands of other authors and teachers that think so.

So we are suffering from lack of love.


I have the Unconditional Love Activator, and lots of people bought it. But many, when they realized that they need to listen to it, moreover they need to learn how to connect so they can get the activator, about 40% said in their head, I imagine, to heck with it.

And if you looked at that activator, it only activates one side of love: the side of being loved.

So I have my task cut out for me: in a humanity that can't love, I need to implant the capacity to love, invent practices to cause the actual feeling of love, and cause it such that it is strong enough to cause courage.

Looks like a steep mountain to climb, if you ask me.

But it's possible.

Entrepreneurs have the love of business, dealing, creating new stuff. Musicians have the love of music, although not all musicians.

I grew up feeling unloved. But I had love. Love is what goes through you. It comes from you to whatever you send it to.

I loved my kitty: our cleaning lady hated the poop under the furniture: she threw her off the balcony, straight into the jaws of a dog. I loved the bird that we nurtured back to life. He used to participate in our Sunday dinners on the top of my Dad's head. I loved that we let him go to live his life wild. He used to come back, at least once a day, to stay in touch. I still have tears in my eyes as I write this.
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Updated: Soul Correction #28: Soul Mate

soul mates soaring together in a synergistic fashion

Soul Correction #28: SOUL MATE

Update: Having worked with two more soul mate people, I am seeing something additional: you cannot find your soul mate if you have a preconceived notion of what that looks like.

But if this is your soul correction, then no one is good enough for you, because you have an expectation, an agenda, and everyone will fall short. Even you will fall short of your expectations of how YOU should be.

Your job is to start to get real, start to stop interacting with shoulds and such...

Ultimately you are setting people up to fail... and it is unconscious.

There is more... but I cannot access it right now... I'll add to this when I can verbalize it.

Looking for the perfect date, the ideal mate, true friends, loyal associates, or the right business partner?

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What Is The Vibration That The Map Of Consciousness Measures And What Is The Vibration That The Gurus Are Talking About? What Are You Raising When You Raise Your Vibration?

the number that indicates your vibrational frequency: what does it mean? What Is The Vibration That The Map Of Consciousness Measures And What Is The Vibration That The Gurus Are Talking About?

What Is Vibration? What Do The Numbers Mean? How Do You Raise Your Vibration? Is The Guru Of Your Choice A Vampire, A Cult Leader, A Slave-Driver? You'll Find Out Inside...

This issue is fraught with controversies. So let's take a look. The truth will set you free, but it will first piss you off!
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