Every generation is more entitled than the previous one. Why? Let me explain...
If appreciative is the opposite of entitled... does that mean that all those people who are not appreciative are entitled?
Entitled 1 is a worldview. It is a ground-of-being phenomenon, invisible, like the floor. An unexamined truth. To you. But for the other, it is quite obvious... 1
So how do you know that you are not appreciative? that you are entitled?
This is how:
Even when you thank someone, they frown...
You may even be diligent in thanking someone, you may even feel a stab of thankfulness, but those thanks are the waves on the waters, not the bottom of the sea... The bottom of your sea is entitlement.
We don't know what it looks like to be good, to be kind, to be independent, to be happy, etc.
I wrote recently about my quest to become a kind person.
I am 70 years old. Why now? why so late in life?
When I look back at my childhood, when I look at my brothers, their wives, I see no kindness. EVER.
I am now able to be kind except right now, today... I am irritated, and out of balance... I don't want to share the "story", but please know that there are innate capacities and learned capacities. I will never be as patient as a saint... especially when I am out of balance... Kindness and patience are intimately connected.
As we saw, the two capacities, humility: (saying: I don't know), and seeing the big picture/looking at the thing inside the big picture, are the most predictive of people who can and will correct their faulty mental picture of reality.
Of these humility is primary.
Humility is what gets us out of our head, and makes us look again.
The mood of this: maybe I didn't see it right!
We all know people who didn't look twice, and walked into a trap, walked into disaster with their heads high, no idea that the trap is there.