Everyone says that, everyone gains hope from it... But few actually know what the heck they are talking about.
Most people want to create stuff, or love, or a thin body, or riches, a prosperous business without doing the work it takes.
They make collages. They talk in the mirror. They create mind-movies, blah blah blah.
Many go to energy practitioners or healers... because their creation method doesn't work... they believe they have abundance blockages, or maybe energetic strings, or whatever people can dream up and sell on the bazaar of the interweb...
20 years ago I had my first entrepreneur value profile done.
It was some 30 pages long... too much English. But somewhere it said something like: You don't work well THROUGH others...
A year or two worth of training later I got my certification to become a value profile consultant. Then I learned to see all that the 30 page said in English (meaning lots of words) at a glance on a grid.
My starting point measurements report is a lot like that grid. It is more meant for the coach/consultant to know how to guide you, than for you to enjoy reading to indulge your delusional self. Your delusional self loves the many words... I have watched people get all excited about the book "The Life You Were Meant to Live"... because they picked out the words they liked... No growth.
The more someone is determined to remain the same, the more they like that book...
You look around. Everyone seems to have it better than you. They laugh, they hug, they walk hand in hand, kiss... or have friends who like them... but you? If feels like you have no one, no one cares about you, no one responds well to you... You are not getting enough "strokes"... from others.
A "stroke" (in Transactional Analysis) is a unit of social transaction. A hug. A nod. A smile. A hello, a thank you, a "how are you?", or an f... you.... these are all social transactions. The more strokes you get the less your spine will shrivel up on you...
Every generation is more entitled than the previous one. Why? Let me explain...
If appreciative is the opposite of entitled... does that mean that all those people who are not appreciative are entitled?
Entitled 1 is a worldview. It is a ground-of-being phenomenon, invisible, like the floor. An unexamined truth. To you. But for the other, it is quite obvious... 2
So how do you know that you are not appreciative? that you are entitled?
This is how:
Even when you thank someone, they frown...
You may even be diligent in thanking someone, you may even feel a stab of thankfulness, but those thanks are the waves on the waters, not the bottom of the sea... The bottom of your sea is entitlement.
I am re-reading one of my favorite fiction books, Reamde by Neal Stephenson.
The book is slower than it was the first time. I saw only about 5% of it for the first time... But who I am and what I can see have changed subtly... I have two distinctions that I didn't have when I first read it. I'll share those two distinctions.
There are two characters in the book that manifest those two distinctions, Zula and Sokolov.
Honoring the timeless, what will never change... is one of the distinctions, and spending no, or only little time thinking of themselves.
Now, why these characters in a novel are worth reading is this: the normal person is not like them. They are someone to model after.