If your life feels like a roller coaster ride… If all your attempts at improving your life make it worse…

Cone vision can be wide and narrow, or Short and long... This distinction was driven up today by a student question: He watched the movie "The Founder" about Ray Kroc of MacDonald's fame.

I haven't watched the movie, but in it, according to the student, Ray Kroc was offered the chance to sell franchises to the MacDonald method of making and selling food. To the student's sensibilities: Ray Kroc was shortchanged: the deal was not a win-win. And having to always be in an obvious win-win is one of his preferences... and therein lies his no success... Let me talk about what is happening in a long article.

Everything you see can be looked at many ways. In this article I will talk about seeing inside the visible.
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If I see you as beautiful… will you start to see yourself as beautiful?

happy-babyIf I see you as beautiful... will you see yourself as beautiful?
If I see you as magnificent, great, awesome... will you see yourself like I do?

Muscle test and my experience says: no.

The most beautiful women spend hours in front of the mirror staring at their imperfections... trying to hide them.

There are also beautiful women who can say: so what. They are in search of some other imperfection.

We know ourselves intimately, and rare is the person who can leave it alone... who can refrain bemoaning their faults, and stop trying to fix themselves while keeping up appearances.
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How to be with The things you can’t be with, you can’t accept

dwelling-on-the-negativeI got a really great question yesterday from a student.

He asks: Is it possible to be with what you can't accept, killing, rape, and such? And how do you do it without jeopardizing your personal values, your personal integrity, and at the same time still be able to be happy and not be mired in the dark energies of hatred?

This is a really great question. After all isn't the world REALLY divided to right and wrong? Good or bad? And wouldn't it put you on the side of bad and wrong if you accepted what you don't agree with, what you don't like, what you abhor?

The answer to the question, as almost always, is hidden in the question.

It takes a shift of vantage point.
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Develop the capacity and the skill to take criticism, correction, judgment and opinion like a Man (meaning a human being)

stress-of-lifeOne of the capacities that you want to activate and develop is the capacity and the skill to take criticism, correction, judgment and opinion like a Man (meaning a human being).

One of my students violated copyright recently, and I sent her an email

...you have a profound disregard to my intellectual property. I did not sell you the right to do this. So please don't do it again, and don't pride yourself on how crafty you are. Stop gutting, combining, etc. the audios you bought the right to use, but not the right to gut them, recombine them. You don't own them, I do.

Then, inadvertently, I stayed connected to her... not a pleasant experience.

She went into anger and belligerence first. Then was ruminating about it, looking up excuses, justifications, etc.

Then came anguish, shame, guilt...
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