What is more painful? The discomfort of finding yourself out, warts and all, or the pain of a life of not moving?
Most teachers, most gurus, let you remain the way you are (excellent business strategy,by the way, your misery remains, and you are hooked for life), and for that you are so grateful that you pay them money and more money. You spend your time with them. because it is so soothing… (but so are alcohol and drugs!).
After all spending time with someone who seemingly accepts you, seemingly approves of you, (or take drugs or alcohol) is temporary heaven, right?