Your mind, your stupid part, has no direct knowledge about reality. It has no concern, no regard to reality... It has in it what the memes have programmed it to have... 1% reality, 99% b.s. And your mind is, therefore, your worst friend. It is killing YOU and it is killing your life... sometimes slowly, sometimes really fast. 1
Statistics show that nearly 100% of the population is addicted to the approval of others, yet few of us are aware of it. And for average person with modest goals, it doesn't really matter.
The problem arises when an ambitious person decides to build a career, business or pursue dream that requires substantial exposure to rejection. Studies show that over 80% of these people abandon their ambition within the first 12 months due to the pain of daily disapproval.
If you want to grow as a person, or grow anything worth growing, you need energy. Lots of it. Continuously.
Physical law says that systems, unless they are very highly organized closed systems, like the brain, will fall apart with time (entropy)... Your life is NOT highly organized, because it is not a closed system. So in order for it to stay organized and effective, it needs a ton of energy to be injected, continually.
Left alone, your life starts falling apart. This is what happens during holidays and vacations.
Injecting energy into your life is going to be a crucial distinction you need to learn.
Whoever thought that the well-meaning positive thinking will become a prison and a sentence to a 'no joy life' for most who become a "practitioner" of it, about 80% of humanity at this time.
Whether you know it or not, your powers of comprehension depend on your powers of distinguishing.
In the old est training, the trainers came to the room on the first day blasting: "for you Everything is the same as everything else ... except not always" and they were as accurate as accurate they would be today: you can't tell your ass from your elbow.
This is true for everybody, including yours truly... the difference is only in degrees. No one is exempt from it.
The capacity to see differences clearly is called astuteness. The capacity to tell apart similar things, to name them and claim them.
When a crocodile slams its jaws shut, the energy it summons is powerful. But when the beast opens its jaws, the force it exerts is weak.
That's because the muscles used to close the mouth are much more robust than the muscles used to open.
I'm wondering if an analogous story might be told about you these days. Are you more prone to close down than to open up?
Is it easier for you to resist, avoid, and say no than it is to be receptive, extend a welcome, and say yes?
If so, please consider cultivating a better balance. You need both capacities running at full strength in the coming days.
Humans shy away from commitments: Jaws open... allowing. Why?
Because commitment feels like bondage, like voluntary enslavement, like saying a lot of no's to a lot of nice things... the end of a life of liberty. Life opening up, and you need to stay open. Continue reading "Commitment… the c-word"