When you are not well, you are in survival mode. You live in scarcity. Everything seems to be about you. And not much can change about your life… given the focus (me-me-me) and therefore the questions you ask.
In scarcity everything is an is, and the questions you ask are from that “is”. Everything needs to be fixed, and you can’t very well leave things alone: they are wrong, wrong, wrong. Ugh…
You ask why question. Why is this happening to me? Why are you treating me like this? Why can’t I blah blah blah… get rich, understand, be loved, get well… you know those whiny questions that don’t make a difference, they just make you feel even worse.
“They” teach you that you can change your mindset, that you can easily get out of the scarcity mindset, but they are lying. They ignore that your existence is based on your physical well-being (and vice versa!) and unless you get better, nothing will change.
Your whole being comes from your physiology, mostly from your digestive tract, and thus your eating. Bummer, eh?
When you are well, you can start to ask different questions
Continue reading “Abilities that are not available until your health number is above 30%”
The second part of the title, “except that not always” is doesn’t apply for at least 10% of you: you won’t even see the difference when I point it out.
The most frustrating thing is, that you are sure you are saying or understanding the right words… but you don’t. And you blame it on the speaker saying that what they said doesn’t work.
How do I know?
For most people, who become a student in my programs, this is the first hurdle to pass.
You come into my program with a 300 accurate vocabulary, and you only hear the words you think you know what they mean, but that is not what I said.
I only find out what you heard when you tell me my words back to me… wrong. inaccurate. different words. Different meaning. Or Tai’s words, if you are in the 67 steps coaching… Continue reading “For you everything is the same as everything else, except that not always…”
You’ll hate me for this… but hate me as much as you want, this is why: Your integrity is shot.
Without integrity nothing works. Sounds very general, and definitely doesn’t seem to have anything to do with you: you are always on time, you brush your teeth twice a day, you keep your diet, you don’t cheat on your spouse… so what am I talking about?
I’ll explain it in a little bit, but let me just say something more:
Whenever ANYTHING doesn’t work about my life, about any of my relationship, about my health, about my work, about my money, I automatically go to my integrity.
I say: what is the integrity issue that I have that this is what I see… the area not working.
The out-of-integrity can be in many different ways, so I have a checklist:
- have I been keeping my word? to myself, or to anyone…
- is anything hidden? half-truths? pretenses? misleading others? hidden agendas? false statements?
- have I skimped on any of my work, my diet, my exercise, my hygiene?
Continue reading “Why can’t you make things happen? Why can’t you make your life work…”
Warning: There is a similarity between grief and depression, similarity of symptoms.
Most people that think they are depressed aren’t… in fact they are grieving… Make sure you read my article on grieving. Thanks.
Imagine if you found out that all your hopes for a “normal” life are crushed. You are too old to get married, your way of communicating doesn’t attract the other sex anyway.
You just found out…
Continue reading “Depressed? Here is how to dig yourself out of depression… Updated”
Affirmations don’t work. Context works whether you want it or not. What’s the difference between an invented context and an affirmation?
“I’ve always been famous, it’s just no one knew it yet.” Lady Gaga
What’s the difference between you saying that sentence and Lady Gaga saying that sentence?
The difference is fundamental, and goes to the heart of the “human condition” and the quality of your life.
Human Being, as a species, is capable of self-direction, at least by design. Capable of self-evolvement, capable of using their WORD to create.
Whether Lady Gaga has this capacity, or this is just a bon mot… i.e. a clever saying, is immaterial.
Some people’s word matters (creates), and others’ word doesn’t.
Continue reading “Affirmations don’t work. Context works whether you want it or not. What’s the difference between an invented context and an affirmation?”