How to find your real self… instead of honoring your false self as yourself

As I have written before, the book I am reading now is the Metaskills.

The author is a designer, and looks at life through a designer's glasses.

The article "You live in a world of your own design" is one of the favorite articles on my site. People want to design their lives.

The popularity of the program, Mind Movies builds on that desire to design... but the requirements for design are not there, not there for 99.99% of humanity... What is there is something else, something that doesn't allow for design.

The basics of being a designer is what is most missing in life... if you really look, you can see it. Continue reading "How to find your real self… instead of honoring your false self as yourself"

5-ways-to-pinpoint-your-strengths so you can move towards the good life: success, health, happiness

who are you? imprisoned in who you are supposed to be?Politically correct living, living for someone else's sake robs you of seeing who you really are.

I am talking about everybody. Empaths are a special case... they really don't know much until they become conscious empaths.

Life cannot be lived authentically, unless you know who you are.

Authentic living means being the same inside and out. The more you are authentic, the higher your vibration.

So finding out who you are is mandatory if you want to be well, feel well, and do the best with what you got. This is what this article is helping you to do.
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Master your emotions by mastering the Amish Horse Training Method

If we didn't have words, we would have no emotions. All emotions come from words... some are yours, some are not...

The Amish Horse Training Method is to be able to hear all the words that create emotions... and hear them in a way, that gives you a choice to honor them or not, depending of the source of the words, the relevance of the words...

The Amish Horse Training Method returns you to the driving seat of your life...

Not surprisingly, for most students the first step towards mastery is mastering their attention. Unless you can control your attention, you are a putz... and are controlled by someone or something, but not you. And for you to be you, you need to call the shot.

The luckier students admit that they have a difficult time sticking with a book... because they can't pay attention to it, they can't understand, or they can't remember what they read. Or the do a narrative, argue with the book, agree, disagree... but have no idea what they actually read. They remember the arguing. Continue reading "Master your emotions by mastering the Amish Horse Training Method"

Choiceless freedom? Choiceless choice? Choiceless Awareness? Is Osho right about that?

I am reading Osho, specifically his collection of talks on freedom.

He didn't actually write any of his books, they are collections of his spontaneous daily talks in his ashrams to his devotees, answering questions.

One of the most intriguing concepts is this:

You want freedom. Freedom of choice.

And you find out that once you have chosen, anything, the scope of freedom gets reduced, diminished.

He suggests this experiment:

Stand up. Now raise one of your feet and stand on the other leg.
Now lift the other leg...

You can't, can you?

This is how choice and freedom are connected.
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What can you do, what must you do to benefit from the teachings of the “Law of Attraction”, of “The Power of your Mind”, and Natalie Ledwell’s Mind Movies?

If you read yesterday's article on coherence, my 21 hour (so far) experiment of playing the Coherence Generator... (new name old audio) I can promise you that it is nothing short of miraculous.

Creativity, innovation, growth, learning, takes a lot of coherent energy. When your energies are incoherent, you are troubled, are in a hurry, or are afraid, creativity is impossible.

Just imagine yourself a juggler... because that is what creativity is: being able to keep and move around multiple objects in the air at the same time, so you can see new connections. Really...

Most people can't keep one thought in the air for longer than seconds... unless they fixate on it... fixating means: all other flying objects fall... So most people have no experience in creativity, because they are mostly incoherent.

And just like with water turning from incoherent to coherent only at a certain vibrational level (frequency?) you also need to raise your vibration to a certain level to become creative. Temporarily, at least. Continue reading "What can you do, what must you do to benefit from the teachings of the “Law of Attraction”, of “The Power of your Mind”, and Natalie Ledwell’s Mind Movies?"

From time to time I get incoherent.

heart coherence Coherence is when all your energies, all your fibers share the same direction and the same rhythm.

Much like having a six-horse carriage, and the horses pull in the same direction.

Incoherence is like herding cats... hopeless.

I am rarely incoherent. And when I am: I am acutely aware of it. Very unpleasant.

The truth is: I used to be incoherent most of the time.

What is the cause of incoherence? I think, for me, too many choices. And an inability or unwillingness to narrow them down, and maybe choose. Continue reading "From time to time I get incoherent."

Updated: When you don’t hurry, time doesn’t hurry either. When you are prepared you can afford to not hurry

there is no hurry on the creative plane... hurry and mistakes go togetherI am updating this article I wrote four years ago, to include the distinction "fixed mindset".

An article I wrote about IQ and your inability to see higher than 1 degree above your level, and about 5 degrees below your level fell on dead silence. Hm, interesting. It seems to have violated something unsaid, and got caught in the filter the mind mounts to stop disturbing news to enter your consciousness.

I shared this with the woman who drives me to do my errands on every Tuesday, and watched her emotions (remember, I am a True Empath!)... the emotions were "holding your breath, playing possum: I am not even here... Nobody home, I didn't hear you..."

I pondered it until I saw it: we don't like our bubble burst. We want our self-image to stay the way it is, so all of life can stay the same.

This, in spite of all the wants to be more, live more, do more, have more. In spite of the desire to raise your vibration. Why? Because it's scary. It is scary to hear that our worst fears are true. Or maybe even worse than we feared them to be.
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But what about fear? What shall I do if I am afraid?

Alexander the Great supposedly said:

Through every generation of the human race there has been a constant war, a war with fear. Those who have the courage to conquer it are made free and those who are conquered by it are made to suffer until they have the courage to defeat it, or death takes them.

Now, looking at it from the viewpoint of the fixed mindset versus the growth mindset you can see that the fixed mindset provides a barrier that promises you to keep you safe.

In the fixed mindset nothing is supposed to change: if you are great you'll be celebrated, if you are stupid... well, the stupid should die... this was MY life principle for many decades... even if the stupid was me. Continue reading "But what about fear? What shall I do if I am afraid?"

Wrestling back the steering wheel of your life from ADD, frustration, depression, anger, and more

"It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings."

Of all the 10 starting point measurements, the most telling is your TLB score.

It tells me, and it tells you, how much discomfort you are able to experience and not run away mentally, emotionally, or physically. And therefore it tells you whether you can have the good life, health, wealth, love and fulfillment... or not.

Its activating mechanism is below your conscious awareness, and is quite habitual.

In modern parlance they call it "Attention Deficit"... but it's B.S.

As long as there is no structural difference between an ADD person's brain and a person who can stay planted... attentive, it is more a habit than a disease. Continue reading "Wrestling back the steering wheel of your life from ADD, frustration, depression, anger, and more"

The genius path to become a person with a Self

human success: living life on the tree of lifeBeing successful as a human

When you look at people, you notice that there are two different ways to be successful:

1. worldly success... and
2. successful as in well rounded, fulfilled, joyful, and loving life.

The two don't happen in the same person too often.

There are notable exceptions. Einstein was one of the exceptions. 1

Your vibration is a lot more correlated with the human success score than with worldly success score: fame, money, notoriety.

Obviously I train people in human success first, and worldly success second... and I have chosen, for myself, the same.

Why? Because no worldly success compensates for wretchedness.

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