The problem with this universally accepted principle is that we actually don't know what we are talking about. It seems that what we are asked is to be selfless, to give up our selves, our self-interest.
Selfless can mean two things, both are a crime, a sin 1 , a horrible thing giving you a horrible life:
- 1. We now have and know no self. This is a widespread phenomenon 2 in this day and age, and I was a victim of this phenomenon for many decades.
I literally did not know what I liked, what I wanted, what turned me on, what floated my boat, what I was excited about, what would have I wanted.
I knew fairly well what I didn't like, but just like with everything, there are a thousand ways to miss the bulls eye, but only one way to hit it.
Knowing who you are, what you want, what turns you on, what ticks you off, what your preferences are, what your values are is mandatory, if you want to be on the path to become a human being.
Without that you are just unconscious sheep. 3
- 2. Giving up your own life, on your own life, on your own interest, on your own enjoyment, on your own fulfillment... for others' life, interest, enjoyment, fulfillment, whatever...
You cannot be a human being giving away your own life: it is against your nature, you are suppressing your nature, and anything suppressed will get its due: you either will go crazy, sick, or raging angry at the most inopportune times.
It is only your ego, the one that says: "but I am good..." enjoys it.
Human Being, (not just by looks and physiology, but by consciousness,) a Human Being, takes 100% responsibility for his physiology, for his needs, and takes care of those, without abusing anyone, without taking away anything that belongs to someone else.
A real Human Being does not suppress: instead uses his intelligence to express the needs, fulfill the need at appropriate times and in appropriate places.
You need to own that you are built on animal body, and consciousness, nothing will change that.
Making your nature wrong kills you, kills your body, kills your spirituality, but feeds your ego.
Unless you are Self-ish, your life won't matter. Your self-expression will be pretentious and fake, or non-existent. Your creative powers will be un-expressed, unused, or frittered away.
Now, let me talk about something that no one talks about: another price of suppression: ego.
Ego, in its eagerness to make you special, make you successful, is doing a horrible number on you.
All Soul Corrections deal with this very issue: I am going to explain it here.
Desire to receive for the self alone is what modern psychology calls ego. Ego desire. Being right, making the other wrong, dominating, avoiding domination, avoiding responsibility, and all the other ego moves. 4
Instead of being Self-ish, (knowing who you are, knowing what is your unique expression, knowing what you need and what you want, without EVER violating another's right for the same) you have suppressed Self-ishness, and now you feel justified to trample on other people's rights, interfere with their lives, or withhold what you would naturally give them.
I can see this clearly in conversations, namely in all podcasts, all Playground partner calls... It is so obvious to me, so invisible to the offending person.
Most of your life is about gaining power over others... a clear violation of the base law which is: you can have anything you want without taking away another's right for self-determination, for fulfilling their purpose, to earn their living, to live in peace and happiness.
Your main ambition in life seems to be making people miserable, upset, feel bad about themselves, get sick, lose the will to live.
I mean it. This is your main occupation, your main, albeit hidden purpose in life, unless you are Self-ish.
When you are Self-ish, you are busy creating, you are busy Self-expressing, or just living.
People suffer servitude, or animosity around you, and you pretend that you have nothing to do with it.
You won't really do anything else, lest they have some fun, some benefit, feel like they can just live their lives. No, you won't allow that!
Let me give you a recent example:
I have recently released a revolutionary audio recording, called Harmonize The Planet. Originally it was meant, like the name suggests, for harmonizing the planet. I asked people to join in and I was collecting a "donation" to be able to make a difference in the world.
Making a difference in the world is something very important to me, given that humanity has accelerated the pace with which it is destroying life on the planet. And there are not a lot of people whose activity can make a difference in that arena. I was excited that I could create something, and I thought that people will be excited to be able to contribute. After all this is OUR planet. And I supposed that my readership consisted of high-minded people.
Then something unexpected happened: the audio turned out to be doing two other things, on the level of the individual, things I didn't know it would do or even could do..
- It turned out to be an effective antidote for the common anguish and anxiety... Trust me, I had tried everything before, and nothing worked like this audio.
- The second thing that it does is even more valuable. You see, to go to the next evolutionary level, humans need to use the mind as a tool, instead of being used by the mind... like puppets.
People use their minds to understand things, to listen, to see, to see what they feel. The mind is not a suitable tool for that, so people are completely cut off from reality, and the culprit is the predominance of the mind.
This audio, The Harmonizer, shuts up the mind. It creates a welcome pause, a silence, in which the Beyond can talk to you, in which you can contemplate who you are, in which you can feel your feelings, listen to your inner guidance, hear what others are saying, or just rest.
The audio cost a pittance, but only my students were buying it.
When I muscle tested why other readers don't buy it, I got that people resent that they have to pay for others' benefit. They'd rather stay anguished, or riddled with a busy mind, lest others benefit from what they are doing.
Now, whether they are thinking of their mother-in-law, their "best" friend, I don't know. I know one thing: if it benefits another, as well as them, they don't want it.
Here is another example:
Some 25 years ago I had a lover. Every time I wanted to have sex, he refused. He said he felt used. He said that I was asking for it because it was good for me.
What he could not see, did not see, is that he, a man, always enjoyed sex, whether I did or not. But he preferred that he was the only one enjoying it.
Somehow it made him feel better if he was the only beneficiary of the "act."
The people that say: no, "I won't buy the Harmonize The Planet audio, because it also helps others," are just like this one-time boy friend of mine.
A direct result of pretending all your life to be generous and selfless... while you withhold yourself and wish everyone dead around you, so you can finally have your day.
PS: Misery loves company, the crab bucket are examples of desire to receive for the self alone. Each soul correction has their unique way of sucking the life out of life... maybe I should write an article about that. Do you know what is your soul-correction?