Updated: How to turn an oceanliner around in a tight bay… or how should you go from where you are to where you want to be, emotionally and all ways

how do you turn around a big ship in a harbor? trimtabbing to the rescueUPDATE: I wrote this article in 2007... when I did a lot of business training, business coaching... So please consider that some of what I say in this article is outdated in that regard.

I ended my core group training, and as it seems I now have some energy to coach.

Instantly three "associates" called, on the same day, and I accepted all three for some friendly coaching: just for the fun of it.

Who or what kind of people are people I like to coach:

  1. They need to have a business already. That shows courage and direction. That shows that they are above 95% of humanity, maybe even more. They are up to something and therefore the coaching can have a direction.
  2. They need to need the coaching, and they need to know it. They need to request it and make a commitment to take the steps I recommend. Rare indeed.

One of these people probably won't have a big enough commitment and will be "fired" by me.

Another one of these people is probably going to want to quit when the going gets tough or make me do his work... I'll probably fire him.

The third guy will succeed, beyond his wildest dreams.

How do I know it? Because when I shared with him the article I wrote some three years ago on the method of turning a big ship around in a tight bay, he cried. I mean wept...

Then he found the video below: and sent it to me. He was "touched, moved and inspired."

He will take actions, even though it is his son's birthday and Easter all at the same time. Even though he has a wife with "good ideas" to keep him busy and off-track... 🙁

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Can you change? Will you be able to change, even if you never could?

This article is a stream of consciousness... Beware, it is like poetry... you have to feel it, you can't explain it.

Cultural memes, media bias, tell us that change is fast and dramatic.

So when you consider your own change, that is what you are planning for, or that is what you resist.Even if not changing means staying at a place where you don't enjoy being. But of the two bad things: dramatic change or staying miserable, staying miserable is still more attractive, because at least you know that place.

But cultural memes, media bias, are lies.

Actually, all memes are lies. It was, maybe, someone's truth, but it is not THE TRUTH.

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Weight, relationship, money you desire… are you stuck in these areas?

What does it take to attract your desire?

In January, people make resolutions, that address some of their deepest desires.

Weight, relationship and money are the three most frequent wishes, and most of them never go anywhere, no change, and yet another year makes hope lost a little bit more, confidence lost a little bit more, self-esteem lost a little bit more.

Why would this be?

There are many reasons, but I'd like to address one: it takes several inner and outer changes to bring about the capacity to change any of the three main areas.

And because we weren't told how to change our inner world, little by little, one tiny change at a time, we never actually do it, and unless your inner world, your being changes, your outer world, your weight, your relationships, your money situation can't change.

Examples to this what happens when there are sudden and unprepared-for changes that came from the outside.
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