Any occurrence of not understanding something begins the process. Continue reading “Life is unnecessarily hard for us. How do I know?”
And as is usual for me, I am seeing something that Tai is not saying, and I kind of have been seeing, but not really. In the corner of my eyes.
- The whole program, the 67 steps, is based on a few quotes: “but is he worth a damn?”
- And the one by Charlie Munger: “In life, to get what you want you, need to deserve what you want.”
- And the third: “there are only three types of people: people who make things happen, people who watch things happen, and people who ask: what the heck happened?” Continue reading “Your deserving factor, your earning factor… How much do you deserve? How much have you earned? Are you worth a damn?”
You cannot even repeat the sentence…
You cannot do what it explained to do…
It doesn’t do what you were told it would do…
It happens all the time… and it leaves you puzzled, dumbfounded…
If that is you, you MAY belong here. MAY… Continue reading “If it looks easy, and yet…”
If appreciative is the opposite of entitled… does that mean that all those people who are not appreciative are entitled?
So how do you know that you are not appreciative? that you are entitled?
This is how:
- Even when you thank someone, they frown…
- You may even be diligent in thanking someone, you may even feel a stab of thankfulness, but those thanks are the waves on the waters, not the bottom of the sea… The bottom of your sea is entitlement.
One of the distinctions, fields: what field is this interaction which we learned about a year ago, is closely related to Transactional Analysis ego states… very educational… Continue reading “How old is your child self that is running your life”
I don’t know what that means… but I know that I talk to people a lot… in my head. I have long conversations with them.
So when I find out that they don’t know about it: I am surprised.
It is nearly impossible to have an authentic conversation with someone after I already had the same conversation WITH THEM in my head.
So many things never get said. Continue reading “I talk to people a lot… in my head. I have long conversations with them”
Yesterday I was on a group coaching call where a so-called energy practitioner… Continue reading “What is the negative energy you are trying to eliminate?”
… if you are willing to look and see what is so about you and your life.
The truth. Naked. Ugly. Often shameful.
Here is a correspondence I had with a client today:
She said: “I’m interested in changing my context since it’s part of what keeps me stuck.”
“… answering the questions: what am I doing? Why am I doing it?
Unless you have done the work of identifying what you have been doing, and why you have been doing it, no way you can shift the context. You cannot catch what you can’t see. And you cannot change what you can’t catch.” Continue reading “Everything you ever wanted is available to you, if…”
I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.
I had no idea how I “accomplished” that… in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.
What wasn’t clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My “To what degree you think of yourself:” starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.
Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt…
What I didn’t know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.
A customer who is not happy is a drag on an provider, and not worth the little (or even a lot of) money they pay.
I was that kind of customer…
Continue reading “Should you become a client? Would I even accept you as a client?”
Your starting point measurements tell me the whole story that you are.
And the picture of putting all those starting point measurements also tells me how humanity as a whole is doing.
Pitiful. But why?
Most people think that what they do when they are at their best, when they go to church in their best church-going outfit, is who they are.
Or the all smiles pictures they post on social media.
What you do, who you are, what you listen to 90% of the time gives you the Continue reading “Your life-success score is low… how do you raise it?”