"What does it matter how many lovers you have if none of them gives you the universe?" French psychoanalyst Jacques Lacan posed that question. I invite you to put it at the top of your list of hot topics to meditate on. In doing so, I trust you won't use it as an excuse to disparage your companions for their inadequacies. Rather, I hope it will mobilize you to supercharge your intimate alliances; to deepen your awareness of the synergistic beauty you could create together; to heighten your ability to be given the universe by those whose fates are interwoven with yours.
In the current live course, from Upset to Communication we have come to the last of the four non-elevated fields of communication, Admirer-admired. My horoscope, above, for the coming week reflects that.
One of my students has already sent me her collage. It has given me a glimpse into her internal conversations that is deeper than I have ever seen... and I have known her for almost six years now.
Collages, where you go through pictures in magazines, or memes on the internet, are the best way to reveal to yourself your relationship, opinion, attitude about the world, about others, about yourself, about effort, ambition, etc.
Tons of people come to my site to read my valuation of many gurus' vibration. When they are done, they choose... How they choose, what they choose says everything about them, not about the guru, not about the method, not about the modality... but about them.
It tells ME what life-philosophy they subscribe to, by what ideology they live their lives. And also how happy they are...
Some ideologies are life affirming, others aren't.
The first thinking brain, the mind, that is in cahoots with the selfish gene creates a life of reactivity, full of fear, full of anxiety, full of sharp turns and devastating jerks. I've lived there... and I hated it.
The second thinking brain, the one that evaluates, reasons, figures stuff out, is slow and plodding, and hard work. Creates real solutions, keeps you out of trouble... but not really fun.
And then there is the third thinking brain... the work of thinking is done in the background, on the back burner, while the foreground is silent, resting, or busy learning something new..
That is where I live now.
I am getting a few questions about that, and I decided to tell you as much as I can see... the mechanism is largely hidden from my view... It is in the background...
I'll use myself, and clients' and students' stuff as illustrations...
First off, let me set something straight: mind has nothing to do with attention. Thought has nothing to do with attention.
Attention is an energy, and it's NOT operated by the mind or your thoughts. Not and never...
Never mistake mindlessness for mindfulness. "We have to move from passive absorption to active awareness. We have to engage."
Everybody wants a silent mind. So much so that they consider being unconscious a blissful state. But going unconscious, being unconscious, is not the purpose of training yourself to have control over your mind...
Spirituality, finding your way, finding your self, the path to living a life worth living use different tools from science, schools, the mind, and ordinary thinking.
Not just different tools, but tools used differently.
If you haven't found what you are seeking... if your seeking has taken you on a wild goose chase only to find nothing of value for yourself... then you owe it to yourself to learn to use the tools and to use them in new ways.
When your life is about you... when your life is about others... when your life is about ideas.. these are different sizes of a life you can have. In this article we'll examine the effects of these levels on your peace of mind, level of fulfillment, the quality of your life.
We'll start with me... and my experience.
In 1988 January 1, around 3 minutes after the ball dropped on Times Square, I declared something that ultimately turned my life around.