Whatever works… Or how to go from surviving life to real living by expanding your horizons to the big picture

the-big-pictureYou can't argue with results... yet, we (you and I) catch ourselves not ever looking at the results, instead we look at something else...

When I poke into what that is, invariably I find that we pass a systemic judgment on some step in the process towards success, and that derails us from success.

What is a systemic judgment? It is one of the ways we look at value. It is a two-prong approach to life, a specific filter through which only the cultural aspects of a value show up, good or bad, useful or useless, black or white, moral or immoral, right or wrong.

It doesn't matter whether we look at ourselves, at other people or things... we seem to be stuck on this low-level of systemic judgment, and no success, no nurturing, no love, no appreciation, no fulfillment. Those live on the intrinsic level. Also no money, no results... and those live on the extrinsic level.

Extrinsic deals with the world, and specifically the exchange between people. When you live in the world with people, if your well-being, and survival, the quality of life depends on people, and that is everyone, then it is silly to look at values through the systemic lens: it will be both misleading and irrelevant.
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Stuff I want you to see: The Guru Myth, Its Destructive Power and A Cure.

Sophie's notes: I do not necessarily agree with a lot what's written in this article, yet it's a good piece of writing, and I want you to read it.

I will add some notes when I have time... And some vibrational measurements of the people he mentions... Patience, it's coming.

The Guru Myth, Its Destructive Power and A Cure. (Now w/Videos!)

Julian Walker

Via Julian Walker 1 on Feb 28, 2012

The Word and The Myth.

The word "guru" has taken on a life of its own in Western pop culture. The media and advertising talk about "stock gurus," "marketing gurus," sports gurus" and on and on – the characterization being someone who has a particular insight into their chosen field and is trusted by others as being able to solve certain problems or provide a highly effective strategy on how to be successful.

We know of course that the word originates in India and simply means "teacher." In India one’s schoolteacher, dance instructor, parent – really anyone in an authoritative or instructive role might be considered your guru in their particular domain.

But when the word is used in a spiritual context it has a very specific meaning and is located within a very particular Hindu belief system. A guru in this sense is a cut above ordinary human beings. What distinguishes the guru from us mere mortals is that they are "enlightened" or "self-realized."

Basically the claim is that there are certain very special people who have crossed a very specific threshold in their spiritual awareness – and they know the ultimate truth about the nature of reality.

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What is the Self? Part 4: Validation/Invalidation

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How many times has it happened that you were looking to others to know what you feel? To know what to think? To know how to react?

The laugh-track machines are used exactly for that reason: people who have no sense of self, they will take cue, and laugh when the machine laughs.

Because we never really got present to who we are, what we hold true, what is important to us, because we were indoctrinated early on to think, feel, hold true, and say yes to what other people wanted us to, and because the reward was attention, food, hugs, atta' girl, or nice gifts, we lost and dug under our natural likes and dislikes, our natural aspirations, our real feelings.

We toed the line 1 of "me-too's" and mimicked, parroted, and tried to feel what they felt.
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What is your WHY to become successful? What is your REASON and PURPOSE to raise your vibration?

without a big enough why, life is like herding cats

Get a big enough reason WHY, so you can be in action and achieve results

Most people that sit on the fence, or sit on the sidelines wishing they could be somewhere else, enjoying the fruits of their labor, have a few characteristics to share, in addition to sharing the attitude: "this isn't it". Whatever that "this" is, it isn't it. Neither is how they feel about themselves, nor is the weather. The whole gamut.

The question I set out for myself to answer: what is it that makes these people not successful, not acting, not accomplishing much of anything, not attaining the fruits of their labor even when they do act?

  1. If they don't act, they beat themselves up for not acting, for being indecisive, fearful, overly cautious. They call what stops them fear of failure, but they are wrong: that is not what stops them. We'll see later what it is.
  2. They don't have a vision, neither short term, nor long term. When I ask them what they want, they don't know. They know what they want, what they want to get done. They may have a vague direction, but there is nothing more to it.

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What is Abundance?

Let me set up this article for you, so you get how I got to where I got to:

1. I am a movie buff. I know movies, I understand movies, and people love to follow my recommendations. I find hidden gems, And I find the hidden gem in movies most people miss.

2. I have a report, Effortless Abundance and an Avatar State audio that I'd like you to have, so I wanted to write an article to promote it. As usual, the gestation period for an article is quite long: I have been carrying this one in my belly for quite some time.

3. I have been pondering the difference between individual and personality

4. I have been receiving angry emails from a person that can't accept that you need extrinsic values in life in addition to intrinsic... he is really angry. I only read every 15th or so of the emails, but the depth of his anguish reaches me whenever I see his name. Poor kid.

5. Ever since I published the article on moochers I've been watching people's reluctance to produce or even to commit to any results.

As you can see, writing an article is not a two-bit thing, even if it comes out, occasionally, two-bit sounding.

OK, now, here is the meat...

Gloomy SundayThere is a movie I have already written about, before I started this site, yourvibration.com. The movie is Gloomy Sunday, a Hungarian movie, made in 1999.

The story is about three people, two men and a woman. The woman loves both men. Both men die, one commits suicide, the other perishes in a concentration camp for Jews. The woman, some 40 years later, poisons the German that deceived her and deported her lover.

I cry every time I think of that movie. And ever since I first saw it, some two years ago, I cry every time I think of it, the victory of the final act of revenge.
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Intrinsic Values and Your Vibrational Frequency

intrinsic values are like a diamond's facetsIn the All-That-Is vibration, which is the highest accessible to human beings, you'll find all the intrinsic values, just like in a perfectly polished diamond, all facets of the diamond reflect the perfection of the whole.

What can raise your vibration? The mirror effect

In this article, we'll need to distinguish three things:

1. what are intrinsic values
2. what you complain about others shows something fundamental about you
3. what you are, you attract

What are intrinsic values?

Intrinsic values (I use this as an ethical term) are the many qualities, capacities and feelings one would strive for, although they do not produce or provide anything tangible and fly in the face of self-interest.
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Who am I and what gives me the right to write about Kabbalah

kabbalahchick is Sophie Benshitta, aka Maven SophieGood question, right? You were just about asking that... Gotcha!

OK, simple question, simple answer.

First I tell you what I am not:

  • I am not a Kabbalist. Kabbalists study, practice, and teach Kabbalah full time, for many many years. It could be even said that being a Kabbalist is like an insider... you need to be appointed.
  • I am not a teacher of Kabbalah
  • I am not a guru
  • I am not someone who knows a lot about Kabbalah but doesn't live it.

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Do You Think You Can Tell WHAT You See?

Most of us are sure we can. We make decisions based on what we see, and our decisions and actions take us to live the life we live.

Most of us live a life of quiet desperation. It was true at the turn of the last century, and it is true now.

There was a discipline and coaching paradigm I studied and used about 9 years ago. It is based on axiology, the Nobel Prize nominated work of Robert Hartman.

Axiology is the study of value or quality. It is the science that deals with what is good and what is not. Beyond and independent of subjective judgment.

The test (Value Profile) we ran in axiology had 4 parameters by which we could map out the potential for success of any individual.

One of them relates to the title. The parameter is called "clarity".
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