How to become someone who can make good decisions that really serve you?

Is it worth it? Is it worth the bother, the effort, the work? Will it get me finally what I want?

One of the reasons people don't like to try new things is because they cannot judge whether they can do it or not. Whether it will be easy or not. Whether it will be pleasant and enjoyable or not.

How come? Why is it so difficult? Life is complex, and most of us have no tolerance for complexity. Complexity, ambivalence, ambiguity are normal, but the capacity to hold them becomes available to you in only at a certain brain development age... If you got stuck in young child brain development, that is most people, you have never developed the capacity.

Can you develop this capacity now? Of course you can. What is preventing you from doing it? Your low TLB number... you are a Twitchy Little Bastard... and you can't deal with complexity, confusion, or looking long enough to actually see something.

Some of my students, when they learned about my habit of looking long and more than just once... as a way to deal with my dyslexia, have started to practice the same... and their ability to hold controversy and ambivalence has increased... because of that practice. But if you fancy yourself smart, quick, etc. Looking long and hard is going to be difficult, because your precious "I" will tell you that only stupid people look long and hard.

Actually the opposite is true: your precious "I" is deceiving you and keeping you... eh... stupid. In the stupid as the stupid does sense. Continue reading "How to become someone who can make good decisions that really serve you?"

Updated: Truth value… let’s talk about truth value

beauty-vs-intelligence-23-638During the summer of 1966 I ran into a girl I knew from elementary school. Turns out she applied and was accepted to the same school I was going to start in that September.

We were having a chat. I remember thinking to myself: Compared to her I know everything... why am I going to school?

We both graduated. I am sure she still thinks she knows everything. My experience is that I know less and less as time goes by.

Whether you can identify with my 19 year old person, or my 69 year old person, and to what degree will be important, so jot it down.

This article will attempt to answer truth value.
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The fear of trusting… This is why you can’t ask and won’t get help from above

fear-trust-2Update: Now that many of my students have managed to enter father-child, the only place where real love can be experienced... some of them get scared. The voice, IT, is telling them that they will not be loved, if they stay on that high place....

This article, hopefully, is going to be useful... if for no other reason, is to see that TRUST is countered by FEAR, and that the VOICE is on the side of FEAR.

One of the hard wired characteristic of a human is the insistence on making their own decisions.

But, we often don't have the tools, the knowledge, the means to make sound decisions, and yet... we keep on insisting.

The seed level of this characteristic is the fear to trust. Anyone, any time, anywhere. We don't even trust ourselves, but we trust others even less.

It's a learned behavior. We learned that people have hidden agendas, that people are not honest, their real intentions and their pretend intentions are not the same... so they can't be trusted.
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Does your vibration depend only on you? Does your integrity depend only on your actions? Does your money depend only on your actions?

I just had a profound realization: To the degree I deal with people whose actions lack integrity, to the same degree I lack integrity myself.

You are not only a sum total of your closest five people, your "originating" or "sourcing" circle. You are actually the same as the lowest of them in spiritual sense.

Your financial integrity, your earning power, your deserving factor, your happiness, your weight, your health, your mindset, all depend more on your friends than on yourself. Who you surround yourself with have more power in your life than you, yourself. Continue reading "Does your vibration depend only on you? Does your integrity depend only on your actions? Does your money depend only on your actions?"

What does that nice cup of coffee or tea have to do with your TLB, your ability to have a Self?

More about your TLB... how much voice do YOU have in the chorus of the voices that live in your head?

It's Thursday morning, and I am starting a new experiment.

Yesterday I discovered that I have no idea what it is like to eat when you have an appetite. I observed myself, and I solely eat, have been eating, for taste. Texture. The mouthfeel.

But my physiology wants me to eat for appetite. 1 Bummer, I don't know the first thing about appetite... 🙁

I look at different languages to get a clue... In Hungarian appetite, the word, says "the desire to eat". Hm. In other languages there are appetizers... that make that desire to eat bigger, or maybe to wake up the dormant desire? Continue reading "What does that nice cup of coffee or tea have to do with your TLB, your ability to have a Self?"

What can you do, what must you do to benefit from the teachings of the “Law of Attraction”, of “The Power of your Mind”, and Natalie Ledwell’s Mind Movies?

If you read yesterday's article on coherence, my 21 hour (so far) experiment of playing the Coherence Generator... (new name old audio) I can promise you that it is nothing short of miraculous.

Creativity, innovation, growth, learning, takes a lot of coherent energy. When your energies are incoherent, you are troubled, are in a hurry, or are afraid, creativity is impossible.

Just imagine yourself a juggler... because that is what creativity is: being able to keep and move around multiple objects in the air at the same time, so you can see new connections. Really...

Most people can't keep one thought in the air for longer than seconds... unless they fixate on it... fixating means: all other flying objects fall... So most people have no experience in creativity, because they are mostly incoherent.

And just like with water turning from incoherent to coherent only at a certain vibrational level (frequency?) you also need to raise your vibration to a certain level to become creative. Temporarily, at least. Continue reading "What can you do, what must you do to benefit from the teachings of the “Law of Attraction”, of “The Power of your Mind”, and Natalie Ledwell’s Mind Movies?"

From time to time I get incoherent.

heart coherence Coherence is when all your energies, all your fibers share the same direction and the same rhythm.

Much like having a six-horse carriage, and the horses pull in the same direction.

Incoherence is like herding cats... hopeless.

I am rarely incoherent. And when I am: I am acutely aware of it. Very unpleasant.

The truth is: I used to be incoherent most of the time.

What is the cause of incoherence? I think, for me, too many choices. And an inability or unwillingness to narrow them down, and maybe choose. Continue reading "From time to time I get incoherent."

The only way to affect real change is to change the root cause of what you want to change.

the three great mysteries of life

The Three Great Mysteries: air to a bird, water to a fish, mankind to himself
~ Hindu Proverb

We live in an age where, we could say, are poised to move our inquiry into areas where it could make a difference. Not yet... obviously.]

I say in every area of the mystery that we call life and Universe.

In health. In well-being. In climate change and caring for our planet. In evolution, genetics, and feeding all these people. In psychology. In human growth and self-actualization.

We are still on the surface, and everything you buy, everything you read, everything you can think is still not cause, and doing it won't make a difference... except...

Some ideas, some theories are closer to the source than others. Continue reading "The only way to affect real change is to change the root cause of what you want to change."

Silencing your mind-chatter. The counter-intuitive path. Teaching pigs to fly

if someone else did it, your can do it tooToday I am tired. I am in and out of bed, I need my rest.

Why am I so tired? I lead a session of the From Upset To Communication course/workshop, an experimental course with no curriculum, except my commitment to take you to a place of living in the flow.

It is possible. I did it. But not with what you already have.

People, maybe you, my students, hope that we can have a life like that, without some pain, maybe a lot of pain.

What is the pain about? Well, it is the pain of loss.
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How your health number, the number of spiritual capacities, and your earning power are connected?

Warning: read the footnotes!

One of my students in my coaching program taught me something today that I could not see before.

Every student of mine has had one or more health consultations with me, where I muscle tested their supplementation, their eating style and the foods that work best for their body. 1

They also had to set up their water energizer system.

This particular student had her session a long time ago (in October of last year), but she didn't make the changes I suggested. She kept emailing me with her doubts: can I trust that these are the foods I can eat? Continue reading "How your health number, the number of spiritual capacities, and your earning power are connected?"