When you are not well, you are in survival mode. You live in scarcity. Everything seems to be about you. And not much can change about your life... given the focus (me-me-me) and therefore the questions you ask.
In scarcity everything is an is, and the questions you ask are from that "is". Everything needs to be fixed, and you can't very well leave things alone: they are wrong, wrong, wrong. Ugh...
You ask why question. Why is this happening to me? Why are you treating me like this? Why can't I blah blah blah... get rich, understand, be loved, get well... you know those whiny questions that don't make a difference, they just make you feel even worse.
"They" teach you that you can change your mindset, that you can easily get out of the scarcity mindset, but they are lying. They ignore that your existence is based on your physical well-being (and vice versa!) and unless you get better, nothing will change.
Your whole being comes from your physiology, mostly from your digestive tract, and thus your eating. Bummer, eh?
When you are well, you can start to ask different questions
For years I've seen that humans, humanity, are stuck in a place where happiness is impossible, accomplishment is not predictable, and health is touch and go.
I've had big hopes, selfish hopes, that I will be the one to unstuck you.
Lots of other people have this hope... and the hopes remain hopes, because you have a vested interest to keep what keeps you stuck in place? If we knew what keeps you stuck, maybe we could unstuck you.
Cone vision can be wide and narrow, or Short and long... This distinction was driven up today by a student question: He watched the movie "The Founder" about Ray Kroc of MacDonald's fame.
I haven't watched the movie, but in it, according to the student, Ray Kroc was offered the chance to sell franchises to the MacDonald method of making and selling food. To the student's sensibilities: Ray Kroc was shortchanged: the deal was not a win-win. And having to always be in an obvious win-win is one of his preferences... and therein lies his no success... Let me talk about what is happening in a long article.
Can someone who listens to an audio, watches a video, reads a book, or even comes to one of my workshops, change?
Long sentence, eh? The answer to this question is this: it depends.
NO input can cause change by itself. The change comes from trying to apply what you read to yourself. Even if the application is just answering one question that requires you to look.
I am finding, that the program I so love, the 67 steps, is completely and absolutely wasted on you, unless you do the looking it takes to answer the one or two or three questions that come with each session.
Why? Because looking, attempting to answer the question, causes a state change. 1 The state inside which you listen is: I agree, I like it, I knew that, interesting, etc. Narrow cone of vision. Sitting in what you already know... undisturbed, untested. Sitting in who you already know yourself to be... undisturbed, untested.
Attempting to look to answer the question from your own life is where the magic happens. When you have to widen your cone of vision to include what you never look at.