Meeting others’ expectation of you: the need and the controversy: how it has lead you to be the way you are
This is a very important article. If you just read one article, this is it. Without getting this, what I am showing here, you can’t and won’t be able to fulfill your destiny as a human.
This morning I looked up the expression “eager beaver” in Hungarian. And cried again. This time without tears. This time, not for myself. This time for humanity. This article is what you can get when you cry with your eyes open…
To belong to the cool guys, you needed to, at least, pretend, that work, school work, reading, learning, achieving are not important to you.
It is pretending that you don’t care.
The cool guys are losers. In life. But they look good.
Being eager in response to an inner or outer need, is considered uncool.
The ground of your being is the dominant way you be… to which you return, like returning home.
Religion, spiritual teachers have been duping you. They say that the ground of your being is “being a spiritual being, having a human experience.” That is horse shit, and largely the reason no one has been able to carve out an enjoyable life with that principle.
Some issues cannot be fixed. One such issue is your identity, the identity you built and have been polishing. The ground of your being. The dance floor of your life.
When I ask you what you are most proud of about yourself, we get into the neighborhood of your identity.
I am most famous for my ability to distinguish. Distinguishing is a rare capacity, the ability to tell the forest from the tree. It is solidly based on the ability to peel off layers so one can get to the root… and often below the level that used to be considered the root. Layer below layer below layer.