What is an adult, what is a child... and does your ego-state (Child, Parent, Adult) influence how much money you have, how much love you have, how healthy you are? 1
In the starting point measurements I measure (#19) To what degree you have access to your adult capacities. 2 or asked in another way, how much does your adult run your life? The more adult the more results...
And how much is the child running your life, how much is it running your life to the ground?
For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.
I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.
I had no idea how I "accomplished" that... in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.
What wasn't clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My "To what degree you think of yourself:" starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.
Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt...
What I didn't know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.
A customer who is not happy is a drag on an provider, and not worth the little (or even a lot of) money they pay.
I am going to quote an email from Tai Lopez, because it is so useful.
He talks about a conversation with the founder of Quest bars... A protein bar I would never touch... but the guy is smart, at least what he says here is very smart, and I wish I had said what he said: (I got stuck at a few sentences, so I changed them around hoping they make more sense that way)
When I asked him what was ONE lesson he learned while scaling his business at a rate of 57,000% in just 3 years, this is what he told me:
Just for clarification: the Matrix is the same as the Chicken Coop in the novel, White Tiger...
As a mad scientist, my job is to distinguish the "things" that are in your way of direction, in your way of clarity, and to devise ways for you to go around them or through them. 1
One tool that has proven invaluable is isolation. Isolating what you want to see. Seeing it by itself. So you can see it for what it is, in all its glory...
In nature, to our eyes, things are grouped, things are undifferentiated and solid.
Your language supports that too... everything is the same as everything else, except not always. 2 That is how we see. We don't see boundaries, we don't separate out what we want to see, we always see things together. We say: it IS... but there is no "it" and therefore there is no "is". If we said: It seems that ... then we would be closer to reality... but we don't say that. That would require humility. Continue reading "The Matrix… one method of the Matrix is confusion…"