I have had to deal with that for at least 40 years... But I think I finally can.
I realized the vast differences in my students in the 67 step coaching program. I realized that each and every one of them are on the level they are. Level of intelligence, level of awareness, level of education, knowledge, willingness, the number of capacities they have... and where they are can be considered by me as a place where they are, and not the wrong place.
I know this is quite a mouthful... and it's very difficult to translate it to a lower level language... In essence I said:
How does this work from my perspective? When you sign up to a coaching program, like the 67 step coaching, you will do all you can... or I'll throw you out.
But wherever you are is perfect for now.
If and when both you and I honor where you are at, we, together, can cause you to grow. Grow slowly, grow fast... it is unpredictable.
If you hang in there long enough, you can reach the sky of your existence.
As long as you do all you can do... because all you can do will change every day. And every day, all you can do is enough.
If you consistently do less than you can do... then you made a mistake, and it is not going to work for you.
Some days all you can do is let me know that you are sick, or you are too tired, or you are too busy.
And other days you'll be like whirlwind.
Only you know what is all you can do.
But just know: your job is to do all you can do, whatever that is.
My job is to spot you, make you look at things you didn't pay attention, guide you. Lovingly.
Or kick you out.
I am good at both.
How much time do you need? About an hour a day... You may have to steal that time from sleeping, goofing off, socializing.
All you can do is all you can do... and all you can do is enough.
It could also way: all you are willing to do is what you are willing to do... and what you are willing to do may not be enough.
The 67 step coaching is an intense spiritual practice for spiritual growth.
None of these attitudes need to apply