I woke up disgruntled... almost ready to go into devastation (which is my "home page") but it all changed as I sat down and began to write. What was going to be a rant, became a celebration.
I guess I wasn't stuck with or invested in resisting being someone who rants when I feel beaten, or slighted, or hurt... It seems that I accepted, embraced, and it got out of my face... All unconscious competence, by the way. I didn't have to sit around and analyze it... it just happened. ...and I could look and see the whole picture... as much as I can see from it.
This is exactly what I teach in the Playground... this is the goal: unconscious competence in getting unstuck, and being able to see the whole reality, with all its beauty and all its ugliness.
Go beyond where you normally stop... But where? How? Show me the path...
A big winter storm is moving across America (I hear Europe isn't doing better) and people are holding their breaths... Waiting for Godot or waiting for death... hoping...
How you do anything is how you do everything. If a snow storm makes you hold your breath, how do you think you are when you are trying to face yourself? Hold your breath... of course. You cannot face the tiger... because you don't like to feel bad... anything bad.
The-powers-that-be teach you to keep your face to the light and avoid the darkness surrounding it. It eventually evolved to a slogan: Think Positive.
Result: a sissy humanity that is drowning in misery.
There are two kinds of lights: one light is like the Sun, life-giving and one light is like a fluorescent light or a candle... lets you see around you, but that's it. It won't give you satisfaction, it won't give you anything... it's small. Continue reading "Bloodless, tearless transformation"
Here is one... what makes it stand out is the passion, and the using of sound effects... her own voice, really authentic... I really loved it.
But what makes it really my favorite, that my clients and students who have been in a quandary about who they are... are starting to see the importance of recognizing the pattern this TED talk introduces: how you make up a new identity that is wholly inauthentic to you.
I am on a roll... I will be watching, and posting if I find the TED talk useful.
Two things about this coming TED talk: the more views a talk has, the more the talker speaks the common man's language, beliefs, and stuff... words that are inaccurate.
Regardless, this is a good talk. Not excellent, but good, and worth your time.
I always check if my female students will relate to it... and if it is a yes, I'll post it.
Yesterday I found a quote that shook me to my core... So I want to start with that. You could say: that quote accurately expresses my attitude about life... and I am moved by that
It is 60% truth value, not because 40% of it is not true, but because it doesn't quite distinguish the path, doesn't look at the invisible dynamics of life it a way, that people can catch themselves as they make themselves miserable...
It is never circumstances, nor other people that make you miserable, it is your inability: lack of distinctions, to see exactly what creates your attitude and behavior.
You can't catch what you can't see! And lack of distinction is the cause of it.
Distinction is the ability to tell two things apart, even if and when they are very similar.
Share your incidents, success incidents with giving the fireplace wood before you expect/receive heat
It puzzles me to no end how difficult it is for humans to grok principles.
Principles are timeless, culture-free truths... the kind that is true everywhere... and has been true forever.
Rules, hypotheses, theories are cultural, dated, and rarely even true in the environment where they are first invented.
Like democracy... or what is right and what is wrong... and 97% of what you read in "informative" articles, courses, books, on the internet.
They may even hint on the some principle, like Michael Gladwell's books, or the Grit book, or many others... hint... hinting is not saying! They don't quite know what the principle is, or it may not be politically correct in this day and age. Or not sexy. Or won't sell books.
Just observe your refusal to consider any true principle... and you'll get why those articles and those "authors" put their emphasis on sexy... because you won't read it unless it is innocuous (not considered harmful or offensive) and in some ways tells you that you are greater than you are... Continue reading "Learn the art of life-altering sharing"