It doesn’t matter what you know, it only matters what you do

I am still in the middle of finding all the ways I screw myself.

I am seeing something that, of course, I am not alone with. I am soo proud of what I know… but, of course, in life the only thing that matters is what you do. What you actually do. Not what you can do, not what you plan on doing, but what you do.

In games, at work, in your growth… Bummer.

I know so much… but it is all mind candy, unless what I do comes from that knowledge.

Some more than 50 years ago… yeah, I know, most people weren’t even born yet, I had a chance to learn this, but I didn’t.

Budapest, 1969. I was sitting in the department head’s office with two other students. Architecture school. Structural calculations exam…. called Statika in Hungarian. Continue reading “It doesn’t matter what you know, it only matters what you do”

What is responsible for the increased rates of pancreas and ovarian issues that I see?

That’s a great question, if I can answer it… right?

If… I said. Not ‘when’.

From business point of view, ask any hospital, it is good news. You have trouble… I make money. But that is not how it is for me.

So the purpose of the question, from my personal point of view, is to see if it is preventable… the trouble.

As my usual method, this will be meandering… if you don’t want to follow, I sympathize with you.

OK, before I continue, I want to explain something:

Most people think that what prevents them from capitalizing on their knowledge in this world is that they don’t know how to teach what they know. Continue reading “What is responsible for the increased rates of pancreas and ovarian issues that I see?”

What irks me most about entrepreneur wannabes today? Or, by the same token, guru wannabes?

First things first: who is an entrepreneur?

The most important characteristic of an entrepreneur is the fact that they take on something. Voluntarily. Mostly to take something from A to B, from state A to state B… because they say B is better.

So Edmund, the Count of Monte Christo was an entrepreneur, if I remember the story I read when I was around 10. He dug himself out of a prison on an island. He gets and find some hidden treasure, and avenges the wrongs done to him. Continue reading “What irks me most about entrepreneur wannabes today? Or, by the same token, guru wannabes?”

Revealing some secrets… secrets you probably don’t expect…

The secret why you are poor, struggle financially and emotionally

I would have never known, hadn’t I signed up with a dude about a year and a half ago… take his advice to heart about a year ago, and observe some struggling and unhappy (flat?) people this past year… latest a few minutes ago.

I was on a call learning some technical stuff useful in running my business. At the end of the call the dude took his time to promote some ‘change your life’ online summit, a multi speaker event going often for days… So I butted in, and ask if the speakers are selling their stuff…

He protested, saying that this is a do-gooding event… I said: if you have something that makes people’s life better, and you are not offering it, you are a criminal. Evil, stingy… a criminal.

He protested. Found out in what he said that his definition of selling is pushing something at you that you don’t want.
Continue reading “Revealing some secrets… secrets you probably don’t expect…”

Thoughtful, a new way to live. Is that the same as mindfulness?

Most of life you can live thoughtlessly.

What you call thinking is not… not thinking for the most part. It is having thoughts… outside of your conscious control.

In fact you are milling water… with no result: water doesn’t need milling.

Thoughtful doesn’t mean serious thinking either. It is a meditative-like state, where you allow things to be seen and influence you wider than you normally look.

In fact, when I observe myself, there is no LOOKING… there is almost only being present… like you would be just listening in to other people talking… talking about what interests you. You wouldn’t interrupt them, but from time to time you’d suggest, maybe, that they stay on topic. Continue reading “Thoughtful, a new way to live. Is that the same as mindfulness?”

Your unholy triad of Bach Energies or the jaws of death

The middle question of the Bach Diagnostic Profile is, cleverly hidden in the middle. 1

Why cleverly? because unless you hide it, more of the same will come up… but in the middle it somehow brings up an honesty I didn’t expect.

I spent months with my students inquiring into their ITCH – their fundamental NEED – in different courses… and yet, the middle question answer eluded me, and now it is here, and with a pang of disappointment I admit that it an eye opener.

And the way this has been playing out: you have to go down a path that will take you to a dead end, and try and try again, give up, before you accidentally go down the path that takes you to the resolution.

This is the case in many things, in solitaire , my Freecell playing is a good example. I replay every game until I win it. And this way I can own up to my false starts, my automatic behavior, my narrow cone of vision, my haste, and all the other behaviors that are on the side of undesirable of the ledger.

Business moves, friendship moves, relationship moves, storylines, jokes… all can be done that they fall flat or produce an outcome that if you shuffled the order of things would be totally different.

Humbling, for me, because I am OK being humble. Even though my main move in Bach Energy language is gentian: losing hope in a jiffy, I recover fast and try and try again.

But humble is not everybody’s pie… humble pie… lol.

If you need to be perfect to love yourself, a mistake you make, a false start you have, a going down the wrong tunnel will send you into despair. And it is hard to recover from that despair.

A few days ago I wrote about tada… a short little celebration of some small success.

And here I am again, seeing that depending on what you say you need to be to be OK, a million tada’s may not compensate for a mistake you make, a blunder, an big or even tiny failing, if you say, who you need to be is perfect.

How many percentage of humanity says, in their heart of hearts, that they need to be perfect to deserve to live? 70% says Source. Holly sh*t! Perfect as in not being different from others, therefore acceptable.

The other widely professed need is to be special/different.

And mistakes are an opportunity for a ‘special/different’ type of person… They are an opportunity instead of a death threat.

30% of humanity secretly wants to be special. Treated as special. So tada is for them.

But what can I say to my ‘want to be perfect’ students? What would release them from living in the jaws of imminent death?

This is going to be my next item to put on my reticular activator… the one I probably can never solve consciously… so I need my unconscious consciousness to work on it. I muscle test: does it know? yes. So I just have to wait so consciousness can figure out how to clue me in. Because at this stage I am clueless.

Now, one would say, hey Sophie, you just gave the whole Bach Profile thing away!

But that is not the case.

All three items are crucial… but the most crucial is your linchpin as that is as varied as people are…

Mine is 43. Touch me not.

I shut down. I take myself away.

I observed this several times this week. When I could not shine, because [blah blah blah… fill in the blank here, mostly because people can’t see my brilliance… lol] then the first thought I have is: let me get out of here!

I have largely stopped ‘getting out of there’, but I still have to go through the emotional turmoil of the ‘Touch me not’ energy.

But I used to pull out, quit, break up, run away, or do my favorite way: ‘get sick’.

If you look at my life, you could tell my life story through the hundreds, I am not exaggerating, hundreds of instances of me quitting by getting sick.

Life doesn’t tolerate that behavior very well, so until I learned to quickly go through the emotions but not act on it, I could not be successful at anything… because everything needs you to stick with it. F… right?

So finding out the unholy triad that keeps you and your life ‘not that great’ is a definite good step: you can tame the shrew.

My hunch is: the middle one you can’t tame. My hunch is that it is hardcoded in your DNA. And if it is, your access to a life that you want is through the first question and the last question.

Here are the three questions again:

1. The first Bach energy that tests yes is the typical reaction you have to the world not giving you what you want.

2. The second Bach energy, right underneath the complaint, is what you try to be but not successful at.

3. And the third Bach energy is your linchpin.

But how do you tame the shrew? should you be asking now.

I will give you a marshal arts type of advice: you roll with the punches. You punch and you roll… Roll out of the way of the energy.

You don’t know how to do it?

I observe my coach with curiosity. He wants to be perfect. Any remark he gets that suggest that he is not perfect, he gets angry, he attacks… while he is also rolling… the rolling takes the energy out of the attack… and the next moment he is up again and he is jovial again. He avoided the jaws of death, again. The rolling dissipated the energy.

Of course one way would be is to not resist the punch… the aikido method… you use it to win. But it is the ‘special’ people’s way…

Want to get your unholy triad… that if you can tame it you can start getting successful at life?

Find out what you are up against…
PS: this week I did some experimenting. I ate, for three days, bread again. Why? I dunnooo… lol.

So by last night I was hurting everywhere. I asked Source: Am I sick? Yes. Can I get better? yes. I gave myself healing energy for a while before I could even fall asleep.

I feel almost normal by now. But my bathroom experience this morning told a whole different story. I also needed minerals… especially Copper.

If you eat according to your list, you almost never have to take any supplements, because what depletes you is food that the body needs to deplete to prevent from killing you.

My family can’t handle carbs… bread is carb! So if we want to live, we either need copper daily or we can abstain from carbs. Three days won’t kill me, but I learned my lesson, again. and Source says it will take me two weeks to get where I was before I ate the bread.

And you see, that is rolling with the punches. I did what I did, I now do the work of cleaning up the mess I caused, and ‘water under the bridge’ I don’t bother with it any longer. I don’t suffer. I don’t blame myself, or life, or fate.

Get your Bach diagnostic profile… really. You’ll thank me for it later.

The ‘hidden’ attitude that eats your lunch… leaving you clueless as if to why

Yesterday I was on a group coaching call where people had a chance to get on the ‘hot seat’, meaning they could lay out their issue and get coaching.

This is a business coaching group I am a part of.

A woman, beautiful, long raven hair asked to be on the hot seat. Spoke of some plans to increase her company’s revenue, and the suggestions came in, flying, from both the coach and the participants.

No one heard, no one saw, no one realized that the woman was in ‘needy’… Even though her voice, her words told everybody that her current revenue is now not enough to pay all the expenses…

An aside: The three most important needy issues that cross my desk are money, health and love. And none of your efforts can bring any results until you realize that you are needy… and learn how to get out of needy: real or imagined.

This is how you get into vibrational alignment with what you want. Money, health and love run from needy

So I opened my microphone and suggested that she first handles the need: increase the revenues from existing clients… so she can get out of needy, the real… and then she can faced the imaginary need… but that is for another coaching call… lol.

I could feel the room (zoom call) go cold, and resistant. Resentful.

It is much more fun to play the big project game than making sure that what you have is healthy, and your bills are paid.

Even the leader, who teaches and lives by: break the model before you break out of the model… meaning: max it out… make sure your core business pays all your bills before you add anything fancy, anything extracurricular…

Even him joined into the chorus of suggestions for windfall project ideas.

And the woman, long hair, beautiful, at some point acknowledged my contribution, but took it to the mind. She said: I can see that I am in scarcity mode… I need to get into abundance mode. Ugh, that is not what I said!

No. You can’t get into abundance mode unless you have actually taken care of what there is to take care of so you don’t need anything… instead of pretending that you don’t.

Needing anything, excludes you from abundance. You have two paths when you are in ‘needy’.

  • 1. if it is a made up need, a want, admit that you don’t need what you say you need, what you feel you need… so you can let go of it.
  • 2. if it is a real need: you need to do what there is to do to fill that need, so it goes away.

I successfully emerged from a long stretch of needy. The need was real: I lived from hand to mouth, rent date to rent date.

When I got ready to confront that I have to do something to get out of it, that no one is coming to rescue, least of all my mother, I got out of needy in a short few months.

Getting out of needy, the attitude was harder… I needed to get that no one owed me anything. I don’t do anything unless I am paid in advance. I don’t do anything for money I wouldn’t do for free (meaning I love it and the money is just gravy). So no one owed me, or owes me anything… That insight got me out of needy.

If you think life, people owe you anything, you will be in needy… so you need to change your mind about much.

Needy, the attitude, will kill your dreams, your happiness, and your integrity. Needy, the attitude is the soil from which poisonous results come from.

The attitude is more important in your results than your actions… it has more weight, in fact it may have all the weight.

Why is the attitude more important than what you actually do?

In the integrity statement it becomes explicit that all of the actions, doing the right things, doing them in time, doing them well, etc. don’t matter, unless the attitude you do them with, your seed level is ’empowering’.

What is empowering? you should ask.

Anything that makes the spirit fly… or want to fly, if it is not ready to fly yet.

This is why any effective leader, salesman, teacher, stops before they do what they do, lead, sell, or teach, stops and adjust their attitude. If and when they don’t, their results are not forthcoming… or literally toxic and destructive.

Any time you open your mouth say something… you are a leader… check your default attitude at the door.

Any action coming from an attitude that is not empowering to you, is going to be bearing toxic fruit.

One of the most frequent attitudes that go unnoticed and therefore ignored is neediness. We could even call it ‘wantiness’ if there were a word like that in the English language.

As you know I have created a ‘program’ where I have the privilege to observe and measure a group of people who attempt to do what they think will raise their vibration, change their relationship to reality, so they can live without flinching, without seeing wrong, and without seeing right.

That was a mouthful, right? Let me break it down… sorry.

I turned on a spiritual (DNA) capacity for a group of people, the capacity of nothing wrong/nothing to fix.

When that capacity is active, the activated DNA makes you see that life is just life, things are just things, without meaning, without drama, without making you better, worse, smart or stupid.

If there is a meaning there: it came from you. You added that. It is not part of the thing.

Things are whatever they are.

In Aristotle’s words, A is A.

But for people who don’t have that capacity active, A is never really A. A is not how it should be. Or A is not right. or A shouldn’t be A. Or A is better/worse than something else.

Homo Sapiens, out of the box, cannot see that A is A. And therefore they spend their life fighting A, rebelling about A, resisting A, complaining about A, suffering about A. Resigned about A.

This is why Thoreau said: the masses of humanity live in quiet desperation.

Having the capacity activated, allows you to eventually allow A to be A. That is a huge step, in evolutionary terms, towards the Original Design, towards becoming a Human Being. Until then you are homo sapiens, a lower species.

But seeing is not easy, and seeing is not instant.

Only about 10 people on earth today have that capacity active, have that ability to see A as A, and not as something that should be different.

And with the campaigning and the fragmentation of society, it is getting worse.

This is the environment in which  I task my people to co-create with the capacity, and learn to see in a new way. Not to think. Thinking doesn’t help. You can think something that you don’t actually see, and it actually lowers your vibration: you are a liar… You are lying.

So your attitude is crucial… and unless you attend to it, the exercise backfires…

So let me get back to attitudes.

I said one of the most frequent attitudes that I see is needy. It says: I need to get this right or I am stupid, or wasting my time, or will suffer, or whatever.

It is subtle, and therefore most people miss it. We could even say, that 99.99% of people miss it, even if they know about needy… even if they know that they tend to have that attitude.

Attitude is your relationship to what you are facing. In the case of my group: your relationship to the exercise, to the result you want to produce, to the person who asked you to do it, to yourself.

In the new Bach diagnostic profile, to my surprise, I have seen attitudes I didn’t know were there. Not MY attitudes, the person’s attitudes.

Here is an example: a student of mine who alternates between cocky and deflated (flat) has an attitude that had been able to remain invisible, yet active, the attitude that ‘I should be perfect‘.

And because he can’t, because there is no such thing, perfection is made up, he becomes either delusional and therefore cocky, or deflated, because what a ‘perfect person‘ would get, he didn’t.

Only if and when he starts letting go of the need to be perfect… and can be just normal, will he be able to produce a life he can love.

But normal is an insult for someone who should be perfect… can you see that? Had you told Jesus, or Mohamed, or their followers that the dude was just a dude, you would offend them, and maybe get killed… because to the ‘perfect one‘ and his true believers it’s an insult.

By the way, soul correction here is very important: some soul corrections are more ‘perfect’ than others. It turns out that both my coaches are of the most ‘perfect’ soul correction, and they get offended really fast. Really really fast. And attack. Feel attacked. Ugh.

When your actions need to prove that you are perfect, then you are angry most of the time. How is that for a life? People are tiptoeing around you afraid of your flair ups…

No chance for happiness…

And in the DNA activation game you will be upset, and more upset, because your numbers don’t agree with your need to be perfect. Double whammy.

Another student, after she saw that her results dropped since the day before, wrote to me complaining that she doesn’t understand how that is possible, as she is doing all the work she knows to do…

I suggested that she finds out her attitude that ate her lunch by asking for her Bach diagnostic profile.

Why didn’t I just tell her? Two reasons:

  • 1. I don’t know. I have to sit with it… a simple diagnostic like that can take me as long as 30 minutes of sitting in deep contemplation. It is the best hidden attitude you have
  • 2. Giving away what she can get only by using my brilliance is a slap on Source’s face…

Do you want to find out what is the attitude that prevents your actions from being effective in life, and producing the results you hoped to produce? In money, health, love, fulfillment?

The Bach diagnostic profile is a great way to find out. I know you think you already know… but likely that you don’t… If you did, you would be out there producing the results you want… not reading this article.

Find out what you are up against…