How present are you? the common notion and the reality of being present

There is a video at the end of this post to test how present you are...

When I tell people to be present, or to get out of their mind, they understand it this way:

Be present to everything around you. The beauty, the ugliness, the sun, the wind, people.

Or alternatively, while doing guided meditation, pay attention to what the guide, the leader of the meditation tells you to pay attention to, your breathing, relaxing, whatever.

This type of notion seems to make it wrong when you are paying attention to what you are doing, thinking (as in problem solving), etc. Because you are present to one thing and one thing only.
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Bloodless, tearless transformation: is it possible?

A big winter storm is moving across America (I hear Europe isn't doing better) and people are holding their breaths... Waiting for Godot or waiting for death... hoping...

The-powers-that-be teach you to keep your face to the light and avoid the darkness surrounding it. It eventually evolved to a slogan: Think Positive.

Result: a sissy humanity that is drowning in misery.

There are two kinds of lights: one light is like the Sun, life-giving and one light is like a fluorescent light or a candle... lets you see around you, but that's it. It won't give you satisfaction, it won't give you anything... it's small.
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This is, still, my favorite TED talk… Amazing TED talks to enrich your concept of emotions, feelings, and self-image

Here is one... what makes it stand out is the passion, and the using of sound effects... her own voice, really authentic... I really loved it.

But what makes it really my favorite, that my clients and students who have been in a quandary about who they are... are starting to see the importance of recognizing the pattern this TED talk introduces: how you make up a new identity that is wholly inauthentic to you.

I am on a roll... I will be watching, and posting if I find the TED talk useful.

Two things about this coming TED talk: the more views a talk has, the more the talker speaks the common man's language, beliefs, and stuff... words that are inaccurate.

Regardless, this is a good talk. Not excellent, but good, and worth your time.

I always check if my female students will relate to it... and if it is a yes, I'll post it.

This one passed the test... Even if you never got anything I said in The Playground, you'll benefit from this one... so please watch it. It can change your life, and start you on the path to what you always wanted: freedom, easy, power... Continue reading "This is, still, my favorite TED talk… Amazing TED talks to enrich your concept of emotions, feelings, and self-image"

I am starting to change my mind about Jordan Peterson. Here is a 60% truth value video

Yesterday I found a quote that shook me to my core... So I want to start with that. You could say: that quote accurately expresses my attitude about life... and I am moved by that

It is 60% truth value, not because 40% of it is not true, but because it doesn't quite distinguish the path, doesn't look at the invisible dynamics of life it a way, that people can catch themselves as they make themselves miserable...

It is never circumstances, nor other people that make you miserable, it is your inability: lack of distinctions, to see exactly what creates your attitude and behavior.

You can't catch what you can't see! And lack of distinction is the cause of it.

Distinction is the ability to tell two things apart, even if and when they are very similar.

Until you can... and to the degree that you can't... everything is the same for you as everything else... you are a bumbling idiot when it comes to life. Continue reading "I am starting to change my mind about Jordan Peterson. Here is a 60% truth value video"

What is evil… and who is evil? Is it what the bible teaches? And what is the state of evil in the world today?

It is, it has been hard to see, but I think I can see it now.

You want to get without giving. Anything, if possible, a thank you at most... so that

  • You shouldn't have to reciprocate
  • You shouldn't have to pay attention
  • You shouldn't have to do anything for what you want... especially not something that another person will or may benefit from

The worst of human nature is starting to take over...

You could call it stinginess... but I think we have gone past that stage... stingy was nice compared to... wait for it...

Circuitry: blocking even the chance of thinking about any energy going to the other... Block the flow...

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Learn the art of life-altering sharing

Share your incidents, success incidents with giving the fireplace wood before you expect/receive heat

It puzzles me to no end how difficult it is for humans to grok principles.

Principles are timeless, culture-free truths... the kind that is true everywhere... and has been true forever.

Rules, hypotheses, theories are cultural, dated, and rarely even true in the environment where they are first invented.

Like democracy... or what is right and what is wrong... and 97% of what you read in "informative" articles, courses, books, on the internet.

They may even hint on the some principle, like Michael Gladwell's books, or the Grit book, or many others... hint... hinting is not saying! They don't quite know what the principle is, or it may not be politically correct in this day and age. Or not sexy. Or won't sell books.

Just observe your refusal to consider any true principle... and you'll get why those articles and those "authors" put their emphasis on sexy... because you won't read it unless it is innocuous (not considered harmful or offensive) and in some ways tells you that you are greater than you are... Continue reading "Learn the art of life-altering sharing"

Indigo, shmindigo… about indigo children and humanity’s obsession of a “higher power” and a universe that makes sense

indigo childI think that most, or at least, many children are born with a much higher potential than what they will actually live out.

It's been that way from the beginning of time. Some of these children, like myself, are allowed to grow like a weed. Attention, the attention of the lesser ability adults that try to pass on their world view destroys the potential of these children.

  • It is said that we live in special times.
  • That nowadays more children than ever before are born with some additional strands of DNA...
  • That children retain their ability to see the invisible, hear the invisible, feel the invisible.

I don't think this is the case. I think that in every age people were born closer to what could be considered "the next evolution" but got reduced back to "normal" by their loving parents, by their caring teachers, or by a hostile society that doesn't tolerate being different.

Of course this day and age, where humanity has no power, no purpose, no individuality, we are trying to make ourselves more special by claiming that our children are special... after all they are OUR children.
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Guaranteed to make you feel happy: It’s all in a day’s work

It's all in a day's work

Of all the things I have ever said to myself, this is the most potent saying.

It has saved me from suffering, it has saved me from all the nasty feelings that plague humans nowadays: belligerence, entitledness, feeling slighted, frustration, anger, laziness, yearning, wanting, and more.

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Let’s distinguish some things that you didn’t know that you didn’t know

I have worked for myself for the past 40 years with a short, three-year stint working for the City of Jerusalem...

But even there, it was both clear and unclear to me that the number one skill to make a living is the ability to sell... in person, on the phone, on a video, or in writing.

In fact... it is not just a skill you need to make a living... it is a skill needed to make a life...

Because either you sell them... or they sell you....

I'd rather be the seller, thank you very much.

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Coherence: what is it and why you should strive to have it?

Coherence

I just moved my sites to a new, bigger server... made the jump after about eight months of waffling... I waffled because of the money, waffled because of the technical challenge, waffled because I didn't want to do it...

But on New Year's Eve I did it, and was bracing what was going to be a lot of work, but more importantly a rare occasion for me to face the tiger: I am not the smartest person on the planet.

Not even close.

I never was... by the way. But since i have repurposed my brain cells to do the inner work for seeing, I feel stupider, if that is even possible, than before. Continue reading "Coherence: what is it and why you should strive to have it?"