I have been noticing a strong reluctance of people to find out the truth about themselves.

self defeating attitudeI have been noticing a strong reluctance of people to find out the truth about themselves.

When they do, they are relieved... so it is before... when they don't know what's wrong with them.

There is, there are signals that you are not in perfect alignment with who you would need to be to be happy, to be fulfilled, to be healthy, vigorous, the world is my oyster kind of guy or gal.

And you hate it, because it niggles away on you, like the thought of getting a C diagnosis from a doctor, the diagnosis of almost certain death.

So you procrastinate. Continue reading "I have been noticing a strong reluctance of people to find out the truth about themselves."

Oy vey there she is, ranting again…

Sunday RantI have two recordable calls every Sunday. Recordable means: I can or could sell it for at least a hundred bucks... because in the right hands they are worth ten times more than that.

In the right hands.

There are few who have the right hands.

I like to work with people who can get, who will get, at least as much value as much money I charge, but I'd love to work with people who could and would get the full value... ten times more.

Keep on dreaming, Sophie, and I do.

I totally overextend myself every Friday/Saturday and Sunday, so on Mondays I am literally spent. This Monday wasn't an exception... Continue reading "Oy vey there she is, ranting again…"

Communication: Access to Power… Create with your WORD

my word is my bondWe had our last What's Missing workshop for the season yesterday.

What a learning experience it was! Again.

I found out that unbeknownst to me I was still hesitant to believe that I am going to live, that I am not on borrowed time, that if I save money, I'll have a chance to use it.

This, under the conscious awareness issue has been running my life for 72 years... I have never been able to save any real money... and now I see why. It is time to begin to manage this... so I can actually buy a car, now that I can drive again.

Teaching? Are you sure you taught? Continue reading "Communication: Access to Power… Create with your WORD"

You need to have it! or what keeps flat you on your arse

Darn, these power outages... I lost a whole article I didn't even name, let alone save. It was a stream of consciousness.... then oops, the power went out... and with it the article.

All right, the inspiration is gone... let me see if I can re-generate it.

OK here you go: I noticed that occasionally, when I play Freecell, I have a phenomenon that deserves talking about, analyzing, and see what it's all about.

I play Freecell when I need to puzzle something out, when I need to pay attention to a movie, a video, an audio, your partner calls... so I play a lot of Freecell. It keeps me sitting, lol, and it keeps my attention on you. Continue reading "You need to have it! or what keeps flat you on your arse"

Context is decisive. And yet 99% of humans cannot wrap their minds around the context.

Everyone says that, everyone gains hope from it... But few actually know what the heck they are talking about.

Most people want to create stuff, or love, or a thin body, or riches, a prosperous business without doing the work it takes.

They make collages. They talk in the mirror. They create mind-movies, blah blah blah.

Many go to energy practitioners or healers... because their creation method doesn't work... they believe they have abundance blockages, or maybe energetic strings, or whatever people can dream up and sell on the bazaar of the interweb...

But few if any address the real issue.

You create your own reality with the context. Good reality, bad reality, you create both. Boring reality? yep... you create it with the context. Continue reading "Context is decisive. And yet 99% of humans cannot wrap their minds around the context."

You don’t love yourself. You don’t respect yourself. How could you?

you don't love yourselfA little understood aspect of integrity that screws up your integrity...

Integrity is between you and you. There are things you do with other people, but integrity is an inside job... if you don't like what you did, if you don't think you did a good job, it doesn't matter what other people think... you are not happy with yourself.

And so far so good, most anyone can get that... but the story doesn't end here.

Sometimes you do everything you said you would do, you do it on time, you did it complete and thorough, and yet you are not happy with yourself.

What is the reason? Continue reading "You don’t love yourself. You don’t respect yourself. How could you?"

Where attention goes, energy flows… but can you direct your attention by your thoughts?

I've read somewhere that we live in the age of attention. Everyone fights for your attention, and you have little or no control... unless you can control your attention.

How much control do you have over your attention?

Why is that important?

Two reasons:

  • 1. where attention goes, energy flows. But... as you'll find out, not all attention is equal...
  • 2. While you are "paying" attention to one thing, you are ignoring everything else.

Attention is a single pointed arrow... it is not very wide cone either.

  • Your cone of vision is already narrow... why? Because fear, wrong, desire all narrow it... automatically.
  • Fear, wrong, and desire also urges you to fix what seems to be threatening you... by avoiding it, or by doing something drastic to it.

What happens when you see something that seems to be threatening you? Essentially what happens is that you take that "thing" completely out of context... because in your puny cone of vision you cannot see the larger picture, you cannot see the context.

Context is decisive. It decides what you see when you look... You can only see what agrees with the context.

Continue reading "Where attention goes, energy flows… but can you direct your attention by your thoughts?"

I want I want I want… holiday weeks malady

  • stress is wantingI want this to be different than it is
  • I want to feel different than I am feeling
  • I want to be treated differently than I am being treated
  • I want to have more money
  • I want to do more interesting things
  • I want to have some skills
  • I want I want I want

What is underneath that wanting?

For one, a sky high desire number. Maybe even a desire trap. Coupled with a low, weak, tepid ambition number.

Holiday times are especially trapping... I can even feel it myself.

Desire, by its unrealistic nature, robs you of the energy to bring what you desire about.

Why? How? Continue reading "I want I want I want… holiday weeks malady"

Somewhere else is better than here… Something else is better than this… Someone else has it better than me

Yesterday, still recovering from my strenuous weekend, lol, I watched TED talks for a few hours, all on Emotional Intelligence.

They were all profound, and nice, and useful... and yet.

Emotional intelligence, measurable in percentages, is the ability to be appropriate to life, to dance, to get stuff done, to rest when it is time to rest, and work when it is time to work, and to love, and appreciate, and say what you need to say, when it is appropriate.

To look at things from more than just one fixed point of view, to be able to empathize, have compassion, express instead of stuff it...

You see why emotionally intelligent people get ahead in life... they are easy to be around because they are OK with themselves.

What people, psychologists, writers, etc. teach is surface.

Much like telling you to cover up chicken shit and enjoy the praline... Praline is an expensive candy... for those of you who don't know. Continue reading "Somewhere else is better than here… Something else is better than this… Someone else has it better than me"

It’s all in a day’s work… what does it mean?

3 years oldWhat's the invisible dynamic that makes "It's all in a day's work" so transformative?

I have a different relationship to work than most people.

People at large want to do what they want to do, and don't want to do what they don't want to do. An attitude, a behavior, a maturity level of a 3-year old.

It is the level where most people got stuck, and now they are unhappy, because the world doesn't respect their wishes, their rules, their "right"... so they are angry, pissed, reluctant, belligerent, feel slighted, lazy, stupid, clueless... whatever it takes to avoid playing life at life's terms.

It's easier to see it on misbehaving 6 year olds, than on adults... but it's there. Continue reading "It’s all in a day’s work… what does it mean?"