Her soul correction is Fear/Fearless. In the conversation it was becoming obvious that she had read "Feelings" the book I have been so excited about. So the conversation was on a more even footing that most of my conversations: she has been paying attention and recognizing at least some of the dynamics the feelings have, and has been managing her fear quite well.
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You have always wanted to get out of your head. You tried meditation, drugs, to no avail. Because the way out of the head is through the feelings... the body, where you feel the feelings. Your control center. Overriding the mind nearly 100% of the time.
My introduction to this concept, that life is a conversation was in October 1987... The month of the big stock market crash.
I was an architect in the luxury architecture business... custom vacation houses on the tropical islands... and suddenly the clients lost all their money in the crash... and the projects were put on hold.
I had no savings, I had no other income, so this new idea, that I have the power to say, to create a conversation how to hold the "I am probably going to lose this job and my income" with something other than panic and anguish... And I did. I invented stuff, sometimes hourly, and could keep up my sunny disposition.
I did get let go, but whenever this company needed an architect, they called me, per diem, and I survived and was fine... thank to this new way of looking at life.
I could say "I am depleted" as I have always said: I am running on empty. I could also say: I feel emotionally and intellectually empty. But like you, I can benefit from adding to my vocabulary of state-expressing words, and feeling-indicating words.
When I don't feel energized, when I am not full of creativity and when I don't have three new articles almost ready to write, when I don't feel like I have new programs to launch, then eventually I start to wonder, maybe even worry.
The process of raising your vibration is a spiritual process. It is a process where you regain your power, you restore your soul to its rightful place, where you restore your Self to its fullness, and you become an individual.
If you are like most people owned by the Dark Side, i.e. you are 99.3% of the population, your whole existence, your attention is directed outward. You expect everything to come from there, meaning, love, respect, value, knowledge, even spirit. You think that by connecting to Source (outside of you) you become spiritual.
Therefore the most important action is to turn your existence, your attention away from the outside.
The purpose of meditation, real meditation, is not to calm you, but to take you away from the outside.
But real meditation is a meditative way of living. Mrs. Roosevelt said best: What other think about me is none of my business.
Getting out of the mind is easy to do, hard to teach...
Mainly because the words are misleading: you don't want to control your mind, you can't. You want to control and direct your attention. Your mind is not controllable... But your attention is.
Once you get the hang of it... have an experience outside of your mind, life starts to open up.
The trick is not to try to change your thoughts... that would still trap you in the mind. Or change your fear... or change your desire... or change anything.
What works is to take your attention off the mind and put it on something, anything, in the present. My favorite is to download the Heaven on Earth and follow the path of the energy bundle through the 40 stops. It goes slowly, and it does work on all the 40 locations in the body: removing blockages, one after the other. I don't remember where I teach the stops... so I may have to recreate it... I'll add it to this post. Email me if you want it.
Another way to move your attention off the mind is to do the "find your feet" exercise... search the site to find it... I share it in some other article.
A third way is to start examining minutely your hand... you can even do that while you talk to someone, or listen to a lecture...
What is wrong with the mind-control type of teachings?
the mind-control teachings, the teachings that say: control your mind? After all they say that if you can control your mind, you can achieve anything...
And the Law of Attraction teachers/fans say: if you hold the image in your mind, and hold onto it long enough, it will happen...
And the Positive Thinking people say: if you can turn everything into its opposite, or just avoid saying anything negative, you'll be happy, and blah blah blah...
A pattern is when something is repeating, form, essence, pitch, sequence, day of the week, month of the year, etc... something that connects seemingly unconnected things together.
Seeing patterns can save lives, and animals living in the wild still have the capacity, but humans living in a comfortable world, have lost it... to their detriment.
I have written about increasing your vocabulary, I have said it in coaching calls, I have been asking people to do what it takes, and the answer is... nothing.
One possible reason is that you don't know what I mean.
I have two students, one of them ex... 🙁 who, while reading books, wrote down words with their meanings, and learned them like a second language.
I, myself, look up every word on my kindle when I read, I not, and then promptly forget the word. I have to look it up again the next time it comes up. And yet, I "sport" an ever growing vocabulary, that has gone from 1000 in 2011 to 5000 nowadays.
My new 20-day skill learning challenge is to listen and internalize 20 videos by Hungarian, now dead, psychologist, Peter Popper.
Why am I doing this challenge? What will this give me?
I am self-taught... or more precisely: I have an education that is hodge podge, eclectic: I gathered knowledge from all over the place, and I have gaping holes, that until this day I had no idea where to fill or how.
The gaping holes are so big, that some of my students could slip through: Whatever I knew didn't help them to become all they can become.
With that said, I listened to a Dr. Popper masterclass on youtube, sadly, it is in Hungarian, with subtitles that you need to set to your own language...
I left Hungary 37 years ago. And yet, when I hum, half of the songs are Hungarian, from before I left there.
I trust that when a song pops into my head, it is some kind of guidance. So when the song that was somehow related to the Counter-revolution in 1956, Que sera sera sung in Hungarian, when that song popped into my mind, I said to myself: pay attention. What is it saying?
I was nine years old at the time, and I was puzzled why the song would be put on the black list... I still can't see why.
Yesterday I was on the phone with a client.
