Go beyond where you normally stop… But where? How? Show me the path…

Prologue

I woke up disgruntled... almost ready to go into devastation (which is my "home page") but it all changed as I sat down and began to write. What was going to be a rant, became a celebration.

I guess I wasn't stuck with or invested in resisting being someone who rants when I feel beaten, or slighted, or hurt... It seems that I accepted, embraced, and it got out of my face... All unconscious competence, by the way. I didn't have to sit around and analyze it... it just happened. ...and I could look and see the whole picture... as much as I can see from it.

This is exactly what I teach in the Playground... this is the goal: unconscious competence in getting unstuck, and being able to see the whole reality, with all its beauty and all its ugliness.

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Go beyond where you normally stop... But where? How? Show me the path...

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Expectations, Self-Image, and your future results: should you expect the best?

illusion, beautiful illusionI have a friend who is around 4 years older than me, he is in his 70's. We have been talking once a week for about seven years.

He would like to retire, but his business is in decline, and there is nothing to sell: he is a glorified self-employed person.

Since I have known him, he bought about 15 money making programs, only to drop them after a weak attempt, after losing money with it, or even without trying.
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The difference between information (knowing) and transformation

As you know, I have been learning the difference between information and transformation the hard way...

Even though I have "known" this difference already ten years ago (I have a video of myself to prove it,) even the knowledge of that isn't transformation.

Transformation is when your actions are consistent with the new knowledge, consistently.

My basic training is architecture, and my five year training, plus the two years to do all the calculations (a second graduate degree), it was all about doing, very little about knowing.

I had classmates who knew all the formulas, but couldn't solve the problems. I could solve all the problems, if someone gave me the formulas, which I consistently and stubbornly refused to memorize. Continue reading "The difference between information (knowing) and transformation"

Do you spend time with yourself? Or are you trying to be busy all the time? What does that say about you?

Your soul, your spirit, knows right from wrong

If it only had an opportunity to talk to you, to be heard, you'd probably consider stopping doing the wrongs that you do, if only to have peace inside, to have less tension, to have more joy.

The two selves we all have are twins separated at birth... one grows according to DNA, the other according to outside influences... nature vs. nurture.

The further "nurture" makes the one twin (self) go, the worse the relationship becomes, the more, whenever they get to see each other, the one hates the other. Which one is doing the hating, you ask? Continue reading "Do you spend time with yourself? Or are you trying to be busy all the time? What does that say about you?"

How present are you? the common notion and the reality of being present

There is a video at the end of this post to test how present you are...

When I tell people to be present, or to get out of their mind, they understand it this way:

Be present to everything around you. The beauty, the ugliness, the sun, the wind, people.

Or alternatively, while doing guided meditation, pay attention to what the guide, the leader of the meditation tells you to pay attention to, your breathing, relaxing, whatever.

This type of notion seems to make it wrong when you are paying attention to what you are doing, thinking (as in problem solving), etc. Because you are present to one thing and one thing only.
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Bloodless, tearless transformation

A big winter storm is moving across America (I hear Europe isn't doing better) and people are holding their breaths... Waiting for Godot or waiting for death... hoping...

How you do anything is how you do everything. If a snow storm makes you hold your breath, how do you think you are when you are trying to face yourself? Hold your breath... of course. You cannot face the tiger... because you don't like to feel bad... anything bad.

The-powers-that-be teach you to keep your face to the light and avoid the darkness surrounding it. It eventually evolved to a slogan: Think Positive.

Result: a sissy humanity that is drowning in misery.

There are two kinds of lights: one light is like the Sun, life-giving and one light is like a fluorescent light or a candle... lets you see around you, but that's it. It won't give you satisfaction, it won't give you anything... it's small.
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This is, still, my favorite TED talk… Amazing TED talks to enrich your concept of emotions, feelings, and self-image

Here is one... what makes it stand out is the passion, and the using of sound effects... her own voice, really authentic... I really loved it.

But what makes it really my favorite, that my clients and students who have been in a quandary about who they are... are starting to see the importance of recognizing the pattern this TED talk introduces: how you make up a new identity that is wholly inauthentic to you.

I am on a roll... I will be watching, and posting if I find the TED talk useful.

Two things about this coming TED talk: the more views a talk has, the more the talker speaks the common man's language, beliefs, and stuff... words that are inaccurate.

Regardless, this is a good talk. Not excellent, but good, and worth your time.

I always check if my female students will relate to it... and if it is a yes, I'll post it.

This one passed the test... Even if you never got anything I said in The Playground, you'll benefit from this one... so please watch it. It can change your life, and start you on the path to what you always wanted: freedom, easy, power... Continue reading "This is, still, my favorite TED talk… Amazing TED talks to enrich your concept of emotions, feelings, and self-image"

I am starting to change my mind about Jordan Peterson. Here is a 60% truth value video

Yesterday I found a quote that shook me to my core... So I want to start with that. You could say: that quote accurately expresses my attitude about life... and I am moved by that

It is 60% truth value, not because 40% of it is not true, but because it doesn't quite distinguish the path, doesn't look at the invisible dynamics of life it a way, that people can catch themselves as they make themselves miserable...

It is never circumstances, nor other people that make you miserable, it is your inability: lack of distinctions, to see exactly what creates your attitude and behavior.

You can't catch what you can't see! And lack of distinction is the cause of it.

Distinction is the ability to tell two things apart, even if and when they are very similar.

Until you can... and to the degree that you can't... everything is the same for you as everything else... you are a bumbling idiot when it comes to life. Continue reading "I am starting to change my mind about Jordan Peterson. Here is a 60% truth value video"

What is evil… and who is evil? Is it what the bible teaches? And what is the state of evil in the world today?

It is, it has been hard to see, but I think I can see it now.

You want to get without giving. Anything, if possible, a thank you at most... so that

  • You shouldn't have to reciprocate
  • You shouldn't have to pay attention
  • You shouldn't have to do anything for what you want... especially not something that another person will or may benefit from

The worst of human nature is starting to take over...

You could call it stinginess... but I think we have gone past that stage... stingy was nice compared to... wait for it...

Circuitry: blocking even the chance of thinking about any energy going to the other... Block the flow...

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Learn the art of life-altering sharing

Share your incidents, success incidents with giving the fireplace wood before you expect/receive heat

It puzzles me to no end how difficult it is for humans to grok principles.

Principles are timeless, culture-free truths... the kind that is true everywhere... and has been true forever.

Rules, hypotheses, theories are cultural, dated, and rarely even true in the environment where they are first invented.

Like democracy... or what is right and what is wrong... and 97% of what you read in "informative" articles, courses, books, on the internet.

They may even hint on the some principle, like Michael Gladwell's books, or the Grit book, or many others... hint... hinting is not saying! They don't quite know what the principle is, or it may not be politically correct in this day and age. Or not sexy. Or won't sell books.

Just observe your refusal to consider any true principle... and you'll get why those articles and those "authors" put their emphasis on sexy... because you won't read it unless it is innocuous (not considered harmful or offensive) and in some ways tells you that you are greater than you are... Continue reading "Learn the art of life-altering sharing"