I have to admit, I would have never thought to write this article, without reading Andy Shaw’s book, Creating a Bug Free Mind. He writes extensively about worry.
I never thought of myself as a worrier, but, of course, I still worry from time to time. Nowhere near as much as others.
They call it fear of failure, anxiety, but it is all worry.
Spending all your mental energy fretting about something in the future, while in the present things don’t get done. Hm. Really stupid, isn’t it?
Now it even sounds stupider, doesn’t it?
I know people who don’t pay their bills, only worry about them… it must feel like they are really working… but the bills still not get paid!
But the biggest issue with worry, as I can see, is that it acts like a filter, a filter that says: “Impossible, why bother, never going to happen” about good things, and “Certain that it will happen” about bad things.
And guess what? This kind of filter actually becomes instrumental in making that thing happen the way the worry says…
I have been experimenting with this for years now: when I change my attitude from doubt to certainty, from “worry” to certainty, I can blink, and reality changes.
I test this with something that is highly unlikely to actually change without me doing something, the layout of the cards in Freecell.
I see the board, and it looks absolutely impossible to resolve. I feel fear welling up in my belly (yeah, it’s normal. The survival machine considers everything a matter of life or death, no matter what level of the vibrational scale you are! So it happens over here too… my attitude towards it is allowing… making room for it… no big deal, not a guidance.)
They I say to myself (attitude is created with words, words of declaration, not ordinary words) “No matter what, I’ll see to it that this game works out”
The attitude is, let me explain, the attitude I am taking on is that I will cause it to work, no matter how it looks.
And then I look again at the board, and the cards changed… virtually… to me. And then the game resolves. And my mood is: Hell yeah!
So, the opposite of worry is not “not worry” it is more like “certainty”.
Certainty that whatever you will do will either succeed or fail, win or lose, and both are OK.