I know it is a shocking and offending title. Neither shocking you nor offending you is my purpose. I want to teach you something… so bear with me… I need to take you through the steps, so you can get what I mean… see how you lie, and how it prevents you from growing and being happy.
What is language?
Language is a mode of communication, Humans communicate, animals communicate, plants communicate.
- Plants communicate with posture, with chemicals, with smell.
- Animals communicate with posture, with touch, with chemicals, and with sound.
- Humans also communicate all those ways, except humans, even though they could be aware, are unaware, unconscious of all those ways of communicating, and consider language the only communication.Not all humans, mind you, but the majority.
Humans, slowly have been “taught” that the mind is all they have, and the rest is mainly just a pleasure/pain device.
But the wisdom of Life doesn’t rely on your awareness, doesn’t rely on your conscious awareness. Life still operates and “talks” on all those levels of communication, below your conscious awareness.
I am sharing this with you, because I would like to bring your attention to the fact that you are a liar.
Every time you pretend, you are lying. You pretend being someone other than who you are. You pretend to be different than who you are. To feel different than how you feel. That you have a different attitude than you do.
We all lie, to some degree even I still lie, but nowadays I lie mostly by omission: I don’t say stuff that would make people judge me…
But I don’t lie with my body, with my feelings, with my chemicals, and I don’t lie with my words… other than lying by omission, i.e. not saying something when I don’t think you can hear me, that you are ready to hear me.
YOU lie all the time.
How do I know? You are here, and you are not getting better, in spite of all the stuff I give you… All the stuff you claim you have done… But why?
I had this insight this morning: when you lie, you have to hold the lie tightly, so it doesn’t slip out accidentally.
It’s a lot like suppression: you can’t just suppress one thing, you have to suppress everything.
So when you hold onto the lie tightly, you are closed, and you cannot be reached, you cannot let go so you can get what you are told, what you are given, what you could get… and therefore you cannot go where it would take you: happiness, joy, competence, fulfillment, a life worth living.
Your “hands” are full. You don’t have a free “hand” to get what you are given.
This is a very significant insight: unless you curtail your lying, you will not be able to take what I am giving to you. And without that you won’t be able to change anything about yourself, your attitude, about your behavior, about your worldview.
And if everything about you stays the same, your life will stay the same.
This is what happens when you go to “other” healers, teachers, gurus, masters, and such.
They give you what they give you, but there is no one there to “get” it, because you are still busy holding your little lies in check.
Now, why would someone want to read it? After all, you should KNOW if you are nice or not… But you want to read because you all pretend to be nice, or kind, or smart, or educated, or compassionate, or loving, or whatever is the flavor of the day, whereas you probably have no idea what you are, who you are, how you are, because of all those layers of pretense you are so careful not to disturb.
I watched a movie last night. It had a cult in it, called the Oblong Foundation. They taught that even the earth is oblong, so you can be imperfect. But, of course, no one was willing to allow their imperfections to show… everyone continued to act really holy and no one was willing to be ordinary, naked, innocent, authentic.
Authentic means: nothing hidden. It means that there is nothing hidden in the unsaid, the uncommunicated, the unshown.
I am 92% authentic on a 1 to 100 scale. I used to be about 20% authentic, about 10 years ago. I had hidden agendas, ego agendas, even lied, gossiped to make myself look better, exaggerated, etc.
One of the things they are pretending is that they are actually reading the articles… No, their eyes may follow the lines, but all they hear is their own commentary of what is written… Reading? Who are you kidding?!
Why is the average authenticity of my “clients” lower than the worldwide average? Because all new age, all so called “spirituality” is a pretentious way of being.
Also, if you frequent Facebook, there you are taught to pretend even more.
Authenticity and integrity are not the same.
I am not encouraging you to go around and TELL people your opinion, or the horrible things you have done.
I am encouraging you to remove pretense, layer by layer. And stop hiding. Not hiding doesn’t mean babbling…
All pretense comes from right and wrong… and that is where you probably want to start: get that right and wrong is man-made, and without humans babbling, judging, labeling, it would not exist. Right and wrong is the world of unreality… right and wrong is not real.
Being caring is not right, being selfish is not wrong. They are both possible ways of being.
So start looking at yourself and others, and DECLARE that how they are is just a possible way of being, neither right, nor wrong. If you practice this long enough, you’ll be able to let go of some of your pretenses, without even trying. Just make sure you practice diligently, while you are doing other things. Driving, cooking, watching a movie, making love, picking up your children, chatting with your friends.
The trickiest pretenses are the ones you can’t see. You may need me to uncover those…
I’ll talk about them in the next article…