If it worked, and it doesn’t, then all the people who do affirmations, afformations, self-hypnosis, hypnosis, brain entrainment, EFT, would be the most successful people on Earth in the area that they are targeting.
They aren’t… and that is not surprising to me.
AA, Alcoholics Anonymous got it right first (and last?) in their declaration: I am powerless over alcohol… And in their introduction: Hello, my name is X, and I am an alcoholic.
Positive thinkers, people who think beliefs are important, are dumbfounded. Why? Because AA works, surprisingly for positive thinkers.
But saying you used to be an alcoholic never worked, and never will work. Why? Because it is not the belief that is deciding your life, deciding your behavior, it is a conclusion.
I have an addictive personality. I don’t act in an addictive way because I am aware of it, and I don’t like the feeling of an urge telling me how to live my life.
So, for the most part, the moment I notice that I have taken a behavior to an imaginary line where the urge is about to take me over, I quit the behavior.
I quit cigarettes that way, cold turkey, on November 3, 1983. I was climbing the steps and I was out of breath, wheezing. I had an unlit cigarette in my hand. I made the connection. I put the cigarette back into the pack, and never smoked again.
But I am still a smoker who doesn’t smoke.
That was one connection, that I have severed.
Here is another connection I am yet to sever: I am tired therefore I’ll have a cup of tea. I never just have a cup of tea, it is always a THEREFORE.
The word THEREFORE connects a situation or a feeling with a precise action. I pull the “therefore”…
- A client of mine feels stressed, therefore he smokes a joint.
- My brother is offended therefore he won’t talk to me for a month or two.
- My mother was angry therefore she beat me.
- You disagree with what someone said, therefore you are going to justify yourself.
- Reading is hard, therefore you won’t read.
- You feel lazy therefore you’ll watch TV.
- You admire a certain activity, therefore you’ll buy the program.
- You know the answer, therefore you stop looking wider or deeper.
- You feel smarter than others, therefore you volunteer to set them right…
You behave predictably, like a puppet on a string. Maybe you are unaware of it.
Therefore is the number one giveaway that you are not mature enough in a particular area. Not mature enough to put the word “and” there…
When you say therefore, you assign responsibility to what is in front of that word.
You declare yourself weak, a victim, a powerless twirp, with that word, therefore.
Now, you positive thinkers, think that you can simply eliminate the word, or replace it with something and then you’ll be suddenly mature… 2
I am a smoker and I don’t smoke.
Now, returning to what I say in the title: when I “pull” your dominant belief, I actually don’t. I pull the mandatory therefore… I sever the connection.
When that connection is severed, you have a lot of options of what to do when you feel in a particular way. You can do what you have always done, but this time without the therefore.
Or you can choose other actions.
Your feedback has been a mixed bag: some of you report on actions, some of you report on happy accidents, and some of you report on feeling different.
Please concentrate on the action. If you don’t know what it is, and I haven’t told you, then please ask again.
It is easier to be responsible, it is easier to cause your own freedom if you know what your choices are now.