Are you the gift, or are you the gift giver? Do “they” feel they need to give you a gift?

you-are-the-giftI was looking at Christmas this morning and I saw something that I had never seen before.

Your relationships can be described in terms of gift giving and receiving.

For some people, in your life, you may be a gift. You and your life. And for others, you substitute that by giving them gifts at the predetermined gift-giving time... and buy another year to not be a gift.

I know, I know, I am off my rocker... but maybe you are! Have you ever thought about that?

I was looking at my relationships. Allowing the other to be a gift takes generosity of spirit. And to be a gift yourself and your life takes a level of consciousness that is rare in the world.

Most people who live a meaningful life, whose job is meaningful, if they told you the politically incorrect truth, would say that they are a gift, their work is a gift... no ego about it, just a fact.

I had this conversation with Sarah, the woman who drives me every Tuesday to do my shopping and such. And I had this conversation with my chiropractor.

I had a sense that both knew that they were a gift to me. Sarah also saw me as a gift. My chiropractor didn't.

When you have the capacity of Flexibility, you can ask such questions and look through the question. Sarah has the capacity in spades... and tons of other capacities. We have a give and take relationship, where she is really there for me, beyond the call of duty.

My chiropractor, who doesn't have the capacity of Flexibility, sees himself as the service provider, the giver, the gift, and any possible contribution from me won't be as such... we are role defined: an uneven relationship.

My goal is to have a give and take relationship with you. Where you know that I am like Roark: I don't work to have clients, I have clients so I can work... So if I accepted you as a client I love you, I am grateful to you, and you are a gift to me.

The-Best-GiftsAnd my goal for you is to have relationships where you are a genuine gift and where the other is a genuine gift to you, whether they know it or not.

Why? Because that is a definite sign of higher vibration, more capacities working, including generosity.

Can't ask different questions? Locked into the power structure of being the parent, the boss, the wife? You may want to unlock yourself, because it is a frozen, dead, lifeless position, and, no surprise, the relationship is dead too.

And when you have dead relationships, you are dead too... 🙁

Is this a skill? Is this a capacity? Please comment below...

Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

award winning architect, magazine publisher, transformational and spiritual coach and teacher, self declared Avatar

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