I have been struggling to get through to this guy to be able to support him in using and keeping the activation of the capacity "causing."
I can see that most of the time he is on this computer, reading articles.
His emails to me belie that there is a big misunderstanding, that is probably the cause of the low percentage of participants who keep their capacities on.
So, here is the insight:
You are collecting stuff, including capacities, 'just in case'.
There are two different buying motivations:
- 'just in case'. You hope that down the line, at some point in time, you will need what you are buying. In case that circumstance happens, you'll have it.
- 'just in time'. You buy what you need now, because without it life is not good... You will use it to the hilt the day you get it.
When you have an alternative... it is always 'just in case'...
Buying has two component: the emotional and the rational. You want it, that's an emotion, mostly greed, and you justify your purchase by rationalizing that you will need it, you may need it down the line. 1
But, I don't know if you have noticed, this is not how life works.
If you put enough fertilizer on a plant, 'just in case', it dies.
If you water a plant... 'just in case', it dies.
If you sleep 20 hours today, in case you won't be sleeping the next night, you'll get a headache, and you'll be tired.
So life cannot use the 'just in case' reserves... and neither can you.
So it is a bad purchase.
I can see my mistake: on the exploratory workshop, I ask people to make a list of areas of their life that don't work, or don't work as well as they would like them to.
Result: people bring to the discussion areas that they can take it or leave it. With some exception.
If the ego picks the area, making sure you look good, but also making sure that what you'll get, insight, activation, won't be immediately applicable, then you got an insight, but your life still sucks.
For example, one of the participants keeps bringing her relationship to her husband as an area that doesn't work. Turns out that she is a drinker. Now, that should be an area for concern, but she is ok to be a drinker.
Life isn't. Life cannot work well in your life if you have escape strategies. Drinking, sexing, texting, drugs, eating.
As long as you have an escape route, you are not going to keep capacities on, because when you would need them, you habitually escape.
For many of you, it is family, complaining, driving your children, traveling to your grandchildren.
Am I saying that your life should have no family, no complaining, no driving the kids to sports, no visit with your grandkids?
No, that is not what I am saying.
Let's look at the phenomenon: escape.
Is that a doing? Is that a being? Is that an attitude?
It is a being and an attitude.
You are slinking out of vertical life and disappear into horizontal.
All you ever wanted is in the vertical, fulfillment, joy, a sense of self, a sense of accomplishment, inner peace, etc.
But it takes something from you to have any of it... to be in the vertical life, so you escape.
Ego is on the horizontal. Mind is on the horizontal, Emotions, body, are on the horizontal.
It is the land of personality, the land of the lower self.
Shifting into the horizontal life gets rid of the capacities that would make you not fit in.
I talk to my brothers. I talk to some people. But I don't make my life about them, they are people I talk to.
I read articles. I watch netflix. I eat. I fix my computers. I answer emails. I coach.
But I don't make my life about them. I make sure that I live in the vertical.
Paradigms are funny things.
When you live in the lower, the higher is invisible. The tools of the higher are not available.
When you live in the higher, all the lower is visible. All the tools of the lower are available.
Some of you have gone downright moronic as you lost your capacities to see, to distinguish, to listen.
So, getting back to the original topic: in case vs. in time purchases:
If you don't need the capacity you bought right away, you'll know because you'll have to look for opportunities to use it, or create opportunities.
The guy I spoke about, who bought the capacity "being cause" really needs it, but his life doesn't give him opportunities to use it, so it will turn off.
How do you use "being cause".
Well, it is a being, so you dwell in it. Every issue, everything to do, every conversation will be in that space of being cause.
But using the capacity that way is way-way-way higher paradigm than this guy is in.
I live in "being cause", I make tea, drink my tea, play Freecell, answer emails...
I am being that the cause of my actions is me. Not my thirst, not because the tea is hot, not because I like playing Freecell, and I am not answering emails because I have to answer emails.
No, I am doing every action for no reason. I am doing them because I am cause. Cause of everything. No decisions, no mental masturbation, no feelings. No. Just I being cause.
You can hear that you can't even fathom how to live that way.
So, on the level where you are, causing needs an occasion.
This is why causing, even on the lowest level of causing, is the dividing capacity between human and human being.
The vibrational level of 200.
Our guy is hovering there. He is neither there, and he is neither not there.
Poised for a breakthrough... Because it is a huge paradigm shift. I am watching him, like a benevolent big brother.
You see, birds are thrown out of the nest, and they either drop and die, or drop and flap their wings.
Flying is also a being. A strange being of causing flying.
In physics it is not possible to fly. So it is not from physics...
But unless the bird is thrown out of the nest, and unless the bird sees other birds flying, it will probably never enter the kingdom of flying... the consciousness, the being.
The journey from the low paradigm of being jerked by urges, of being at the effect of everything, and the paradigm of the vertical is tremendous.
There is even a paradigm in between: the paradigm of intellect. The learned, trained, the high functioning, the people who need 13-30 capacities to do their job.
Many of the trained lives in the lowest paradigm, so having gone to school doesn't take you to the second paradigm.
The dividing factor is probably this: do you need, do you use more than seven capacities for your daily work?
If you do, then the highest paradigm is within reach for you. If you don't, you don't have enough need for new capacities.
You may have ego need, but not real need. So even if I turn them on, they will turn off.
I am sorry to burst your bubble.
And this is the reason I have been looking to get a new breed of clients: people who need and actively use more than 13 capacities for their work and want more.
Now, I have some people who started out with only a few capacities, and have successfully added some.
How did that happen?
They were in a work environment where they suffered daily because those capacities were missing.
Mostly capacities of self-trust, and capacities in communication and relating to others.
They were 'just in time' capacities... there was no question how to find opportunities to use them.
Why do I emphasize work environment? Because there you better take care of things, or you'll get fired.
At home, you can say it's not your fault, you can blame, life, maybe even yourself, and still never really need the new capacity.
I know, this is a dark day... I just took away your new toy. Sorry bud, it's not a toy.
- I learned these distinctions, just in case, just in time, back in 2007, from the Internet business manifesto, by Rich Schefren. It was just in time for me. I have been, having this distinction, spend less energy and money on 'just in case' stuff. But when I do, it is always a warning sign: I am being pulled down into the horizontal. Here is the pdf, for you, if you are in business. If you aren't... please don't read it... it will be 'just in case' for you, another way you distract yourself from your life. Download TheManifesto pdf and an article by Rich...