Everyone can get to the good life, but not everyone will get to the good life. Why? Because not everyone is willing to do what they need to do to get to the good life.
Tai Lopez said that.
And it is true on certain conditions.
Because abilities, the abilities that certain tests can measure, are important.
What do you need to get to the good life, other than time?
You need three types of intelligence.
Intelligence that the IQ tests measure
This classical IQ test measures several factors of intelligence, namely logical reasoning, math skills, language abilities, spatial relations skills, knowledge retained and the ability to solve novel problems. (Please note that it doesn't take into consideration emotional intelligence).
Emotional intelligence model
The model introduced by Daniel Goleman focuses on EI as a wide array of competencies and skills that drive leadership performance. Goleman's model outlines five main EI constructs (for more details see "What Makes A Leader" by Daniel Goleman, best of Harvard Business Review 1998):
--Self-awareness – the ability to know one's emotions, strengths, weaknesses, drives, values and goals and recognize their impact on others while using gut feelings to guide decisions.
--Self-regulation – involves controlling or redirecting one's disruptive emotions and impulses and adapting to changing circumstances.
--Social skill – managing relationships to move people in the desired direction
--Empathy - considering other people's feelings especially when making decision
--Motivation - being driven to achieve for the sake of achievement.
Goleman includes a set of emotional competencies within each construct of EI. Emotional competencies are not innate talents, but rather learned capabilities that must be worked on and can be developed to achieve outstanding performance. Goleman posits that individuals are born with a general emotional intelligence that determines their potential for learning emotional competencies.[
Spiritual intelligence models
There are several models... this is just one. These are the definition this model uses... My definition is very different, which makes the definition relevant when it comes to practicing the capacity
--Self-awareness: Knowing what I believe in and value, and what deeply motivates me.
--Spontaneity: Living in and being responsive to the moment.
--Being vision- and value-led: Acting from principles and deep beliefs, and living accordingly.
--Holism: Seeing larger patterns, relationships, and connections; having a sense of belonging.
--Compassion: Having the quality of "feeling-with" and deep empathy.
--Celebration of diversity: Valuing other people for their differences, not despite them.
--Field independence: Standing against the crowd and having one's own convictions.
--Humility: Having the sense of being a player in a larger drama, of one's true place in the world.
--Tendency to ask fundamental "Why?" questions: Needing to understand things and get to the bottom of them.
--Ability to reframe: Standing back from a situation or problem and seeing the bigger picture or wider context.
--Positive use of adversity: Learning and growing from mistakes, setbacks, and suffering.
--Sense of vocation: Feeling called upon to serve, to give something back.
Intelligence is the tip of the iceberg. It is the car you see drive by you... you don't see the engine
What is underneath intelligence is hidden from your view.
Now, if you paid attention, you could see that each type of intelligence is the manifestation of two things:
- a capacity, that is innate. Without an innate capacity one can become mediocre at the "practice" of the capacity, at best.
- the diligent and accurate practice of those innate capacities.
Capacities are expressed or unexpressed in the DNA.
Capacities are expressed in the DNA. The DNA consists of thousands of segments, each segment having a "code" for something or other. Each segment is either expressed or unexpressed.
According to my muscle test, there are 160 DNA segments that contain the code for intelligence. The 160 are either expressed or unexpressed.
Unexpressed means that the piece of DNA is muted by a coil that makes it unexpressed. When I turn on a capacity, I loosen the coil, energetically, and make the capacity expressed.
For economy reason, for the sake of homeostasis, the thousands of other pieces of DNA prefer that capacity unexpressed: making it expressed, or active will require a slight adjustment from the whole DNA tree. Among others, an expressed capacity needs energy... which you may not have any surplus of.
So you have a small window of opportunity to intelligently practice the capacity and prove it to the rest of the DNA that it's ok... it's useful, and it's safe. Oh, and that you need it. that you have use for it. And that using that capacity will increase the overall energy of the organism: you.
Energy economy of the DNA dictates, that anything you don't need should be turned off.
I have been turning on capacities for five years now. Turning on a capacity is easy, because with only a few exception, the DNA accepts and obeys my command.... that seem to be coming from All-of-it.
The issues are in the individual's willingness.
The biggest issues I have seen with the capacity "humility".
Humility seems to be at the crux of a person's ability to grow, or stay the same.
Which means, at the current level of knowledge, that without humility the whole DNA tree will reset to the state it was before; the DNA resets.
What does this mean?
You can take them to the level of mastery, or you can have them just as a potential.
Without activating additional DNA capacities, the list you just made is the capacities you have to create the good life. 1
Each individual has a unique set of capacities, at a personal level of mastery.
Nothing wrong. Adding capacities, activating capacities can take you further faster, if you have real use for them.
What I see as the most fundamental missing is ambition. Ambition is Life Force. Life wants more life.
By the time people get to me, their ambition, their Life Force is largely diminished.
Children are born with different level of Life Force already. It is encoded in the individual DNA... and is the outcome of thousands of generations.
If your ancestors were meek, complacent, lazy, pleasure seeker, and had a victim mentality, you were born with less Life Force available, than the next guy whose ancestors were aggressive, go-getters, ambitions, curious, etc.
Can you increase your life force, your ambition?
Yes, you can. I have. I was born with 30%, and now I have 80%. Life force is expressed in percentages.
Everyone has Life Force... there is no life without some Life Force. Different cultures call it different names, Chi, Prana. Fully expressed Life Force is 100%, and is rare.
With Life Force, the more you need the more becomes available. You just have to live a life that fully "needs" more life force... and then it gets released.
A well known phenomenon: Second wind... hitting the wall... and then getting more energy for Marathon runners...
...they run out of Life Force, but don't stop. They are running on empty. And then suddenly a rush of energy...
I know this all too well, this is how I increased my available Life force from 30 to 80%, through going way beyond than I could... I got as far as 14th wind... when I worked straight for eight days.
The problem is that you hope to get to the good life sparing yourself
The problem is that you hope to get to the good life sparing yourself, never breaking a sweat, never driving yourself to exhaustion and beyond. Culturally this is expressed: "take your time", "take it easy"... and you do.
So your Life Force is giving you what you need, which means, in your case, that it is shutting down.
Compare yourself in your teenage years to Bill Gates. He got up at 3 am every morning, and took his bike to the computer center, where he could use the big computer for 3 hours. Then he biked home, had breakfast, and headed to school.
While... while you partied? Watch television? Day dreamed about boys? girls?
But, it is never too late to start challenging yourself.
It is sustained effort. No event will do much... No campaign will bring the desired increase.
Sustained effort. You don't have to deal with every area of life.
One of the efforts Tai Lopez suggests is reading
One of the efforts Tai Lopez suggests is reading. Read. Books. Read a little more every week. Sustain the effort to read just a little beyond that it's comfortable.
Don't worry about the learning just yet. Just worry about increasing your stamina, your will power, your effort.
Don't worry that you lost your focus. Don't worry about being distracted. Just read.
The main reason you've lost Life Force, so far, is your tendency to only want to do what's easy. What brings immediate results, what feels good.
It's a slippery road... it will take all you got to turn it around.
- Capacities, without energetic turning on, become DNA capacities, expressed capacities, through thousands of generations of consistent use. So practicing something doesn't turn on the DNA capacity. I have found that this delusion is frequently in my students... "I don't need you to turn it on, I'll just turn it on myself..." they say. But alas, that is not the nature of DNA, that is not the nature of reality.