What Is The Attitude That Is Most Missing For You To Succeed?

Paradigm shift: what you see comes from the paradigm you stand in I got an email from a reader today, one of many such emails:

"Hi Sophie, I listened to your video but I didn't get the answer or find solution to my struggles in life! I am wondering, yes as you said, why I am not transformed in-spite of learning so many methods from attending seminars and reading books! I came from a broken family I tried to change my life but sometimes my life was up but mostly down!

Financially I struggle, bankrupt and thinking to end my life. . . But when I hear your story, I did not and I am now almost 5 years searching for answers? I have read the Bible many times from cover to end and everyday, I received emails trying to sell me self-improvement books but I am fed up, nothing works! I would appreciate if you can help me!"

So what can you answer to someone who has been struggling and considering suicide a viable alternative?

One major distinction I need to teach to all my readers, students, a distinction that if you don't learn it, you'll miss everything.

The distinction is called: Where are you listening from?

The from is the operative word here. It is your base attitude consistent with your "grounds of being".

We each are embedded in a paradigm. The insides and the walls of our paradigm are built from our belief system. Your paradigm has everything that you need to stay the same, and nothing to be more successful that you are, happier than you are, thinner, richer, more entertaining, more attractive than you are.

Your current life is exactly what's possible inside your current paradigm.

When you look at someone who has what you crave, you can be 100% sure that they live in a different paradigm with beliefs that can't be found in yours.

paradigm shift comes often by looking from a distance instead of being in the middle of it A transformational coach needs to be able to break through that paradigm wall and give you a glimpse of the belief that doesn't fit in with your current paradigm and can give you what you want, in this case success. Why? so you can hunger for a paradigm shift. 1

As a coach I can tell you that certain paradigm shifts are harder to accomplish than others. It is not a linear process, it is not adding a new belief to your paradigm. No, you need to leave your current paradigm, and for a little while be nowhere. For the ego, the aspect of you that wants to keep you the same, safe, sound, unchanging, this feels like death.

So you can see, for paradigm shift you need courage.

Some teachers say that simply seeing the new paradigm can shift you, but that is a lie. You cannot see the new paradigm from the old paradigm, can't see it at all.

Paradigm shift always requires you to have a big enough desire and enough courage to jump. And a certain willingness to face your mortality, although there is no real danger of death, but it sure feels like it's death.

People, like myself, who have gone from a deep and miserable place to a higher place have faced several paradigm shift deaths and they are better off for it.

The paradigm shift I teach in the the mustard seed video is particularly difficult, because the shift needs to happen on the most fundamental level: your grounds of being. The carpet needs to be pulled from under your feet.

Here are the two paradigms: the limiting one of the reader and the less limiting one I am trying to shift her into in the video:

In the limiting paradigm she is an effect. She is defined by her circumstances. She is waiting for someone to rescue her. She behaves as if learning more could make a difference. Taking courses, reading the Bible, hoping.

She lives in her mind that only cares about learning and remembering and feeling very smart. The religion she learned at home is that the deity will come and do something for you.

She hears Jesus talk about mustard seed of faith, and listening from the first paradigm she hears "faith in deity." 2

When someone from the second paradigm reads the exact same thing in the Christian Bible, they hear: "Faith in my ability to create, in my own deity. If I was created to the image of God, then I can do it!"

As children we all came with that "innocent" belief, but most of our upbringing beat it out of us real soon.

Catholics are especially in an unenviable position: they are in the most "sheeplike" state because of the way religion is taught.

Independent spirit, rebellion, real creativity, co-creating is literally non-existent when you are reduced to sheep. Flock? Not an accident you are called "flock" when you are a catholic. That was the ultimate purpose of religion to begin with. To reduce you to sheep. Religion, organized religion, is all about man's power over man.

Prayer, the words one says when one prays with their on words, sheds light to the mindset that it comes from and builds at the same time.

In the first paradigm you hold out your hand and ask deity to give you what you want. In the second paradigm you acknowledge that all creation is working for you, but it is your job to create what YOU want. So you ask for strength, persistence, faith in your own ability, inspiration, etc.

In the first paradigm you are the effect of creation, in the second paradigm you are creator. Cause.

So, if you are listening from the first paradigm, you are looking for answers.

If you are listening from the second paradigm, you create answers.

paradigm shift may not change what is in your world, but changes the priorities

How do I live in the second paradigm? How one lives in the second paradigm? an example...

Last night I sat down and created a video (for myself) to sort out what it is that I need to do to make sure I can pay my rent.

Know it or not, Google, the search engine, decided to play god and bring the seven plagues to website owners.

The third plague is coming up.

They decided to name them animals. The first was Panda, the second is Penguin.

They are as non-discriminating as the plagues were in Moses' time. The plague: 'death of the first born' did not spare the Pharaoh's first born... that is the nature of plagues.

So whether you had a website to scam people, or to sell sex, or to sell happiness, your site was hit if it met the criteria Google set. Google is a giant machine.

My site was hit, and it was hit hard.

My website traffic fell, overnight, from 1200 a day to 9 a day. And with it fell my income.

This next rent check, only 9 days away, is in danger of not being paid.

So, to force myself to rigorous thinking, looking and inquiry, I decided to record the process. Otherwise, I have tried before, I would go down into deep rabbit holes, or start something hastily without seeing the whole pictures. Or go to despair.

I created 3 questions:

1. What is so?
2. What are my resources
3. What is the goal

I looked and wrote it all down. I used a mindmap where it is not linear.

When all that I think is so, and all that I think are my resources, or possible paths, and all the goals were written down, I muscle tested each, if it is true in the what's so category, or if it is a good direction in the others.

Several of my beliefs about myself and about the situation, according to the muscle test, weren't true. And many of the directions I set out as possible drew a 'no' in muscle test.

Without muscle test I would have gone down those tunnels... among them was one particular: "I am not liked by my students..."

Why am I sharing this with you? Because this is a second paradigm way of looking at a crisis or breakdown.

I know it is all up to me. And I ask my Silent Partner 3 for his input in the form of a yes or no.

That is the paradigm where winners listen from.

It is my job, but I have a Silent Partner who can see the bigger picture. The Silent Partner is never in the middle of things, it is never in panic. It is calm and all-seeing.

I won't rely on the "limited perspective of the human mind" to make my decisions about directions. I defer them to Source, but I fully know that I am going to do the work. I am going to build the skills, the relationships, write what I need to write, say what I need to say. In a timely manner.

In coaching, no coaching is possible until the client is in action. No one can coach someone sitting on the sidelines, waiting for a miracle.

Miracles only come when you have done everything you could possibly do.

Madame Curie searched for a formula for three years, to no avail, and when she was tapped out, the formula came to her in a dream. And I could tell you that this is how it works, there are thousands of "miracles" in the world of science, documented.

I call them "the results of poking the box"

Poking the box is working in your current paradigm trying to go beyond it. Working around the edges. Trying new things. Taking risks.

Poking the box is uncomfortable, and a lonely job. You need a mustard seed of faith to continue doing it. Faith that poking the box will bring the result you crave. NOT faith in a miracle. No. faith in your ability to continue poking and find what you need to find.

If you look at my work, as a spiritual innovator, I am a box-poker... lol

I have no answers, so I poke. I poke. I poke. And at crucial points the solutions come to me in books, in movies, in dreams. When I am ready to hear them.

I use techniques of my own in poking.

My techniques often upset people. I use a potty mouth, I use insulting people, I use impatience, I use threats of dismissal. They are all ways I poke the box.

People, when they are allowed to be comfortable, do not change, do not try new things. I need to keep them out of balance.

My mail box is full of emails complaining about my methods.

The complainers are in the first paradigm. They expect me to do it for them, and they don't like that I don't...

The second batch of emails are full of good advice... all those good ideas don't make a difference. Why? Because if you want miracles, you won't do much, will you?

You will go to classes, you may even pay for them. But you won't practice, or if you practice, you practice from the mind... from the same place, the same old place, not the new one.

Until you can go to the new place "If it is to be, it is up to me" place, you are still practicing in the "sheep" place.

This is most evident when people come to healing calls. They come back every call with the same exact complaint they had the call before.

They come back for me to fix them, but they don't do anything themselves to remove the cause of those complaints.

They have the welfare mentality (that is another way to look at sheep mentality or the first paradigm!)

I ask them to leave. Why? Because everything I would do for them would just strengthen their belief that they can get something for nothing.

You are created to the image of the Creator. Just like the Creator isn't holding out its hand, you are also to be self-reliant. And co-create with the Creator. The Creator brings the guidance, you bring your work and YOUR brilliance.

Then you are a human being. Not until then. Until then you are a biological robot, a machine, a sheep.

PS: You can watch the Video of the mustard seed session. To get to it, please fill out the form below and click "submit"

PS: If you want to see the video I made of myself for myself to get out of the tight spot I am, send me an email. You must be on or sign up to my mailing list... the above form is perfect.

Footnotes

  1. Here are a few quotes what other websites say: A paradigm shift (or revolutionary science) is, according to Thomas Kuhn, in his influential book The Structure of Scientific Revolutions (1962), a change in the basic assumptions, or paradigms, within the ruling theory of science. It is in contrast to his idea of normal science. According to Kuhn, "A paradigm is what members of a scientific community, and they alone, share." (The Essential Tension, 1977). Unlike a normal scientist, Kuhn held, "a student in the humanities has constantly before him a number of competing and incommensurable solutions to these problems, solutions that he must ultimately examine for himself." (The Structure of Scientific Revolutions).

    Once a paradigm shift is complete, a scientist cannot, for example, reject the germ theory of disease to posit the possibility that miasma causes disease or reject modern physics and optics to posit that ether carries light. In contrast, a critic in the humanities can choose to adopt an array of stances (e.g., Marxist criticism, Freudian criticism, Deconstruction, 19th-century-style literary criticism), which may be more or less fashionable during any given period but which are all regarded as legitimate. Since the 1960s, the term has also been used in numerous non-scientific contexts to describe a profound change in a fundamental model or perception of events, even though Kuhn himself restricted the use of the term to the hard sciences. Compare as a structured form of Zeitgeist.
    "Think of a Paradigm Shift as a change from one way of thinking to another. It's a revolution, a transformation, a sort of metamorphosis. It just does not happen, but rather it is driven by agents of change. "
    "A paradigm shift, like a political revolution, can be seem as a decisive overthrow of the established order. But in another sense, a paradigm shift may not be as dramatic as a political revolution, in that it may have limited impact on people's everyday experience of the world. After all, the post-Copernican Sun still 'rises' and 'sets' as before. While the paradigm may shift, previously existing knowledge is not necessarily superseded: old data on planetary motions may be as valid as before, but it is now interpreted differently, to fit the new frame of reference. "

  2. “The kingdom of heaven is like a mustard seed, which a man took and planted in his field. Though it is the smallest of all seeds, yet when it grows, it is the largest of garden plants and becomes a tree, so that the birds come and perch in its branches.”
  3. Source

Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

award winning architect, magazine publisher, transformational and spiritual coach and teacher, self declared Avatar

2 thoughts on “What Is The Attitude That Is Most Missing For You To Succeed?”

  1. “If it is to be, it is up to me.”

    I love it. There is a lot to get in this post, but that is the take-away for me.

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