"Why am I tried all the time?"
The most frequent complaints I hear is that people don't have enough energy for life. They feel drained, tired all the time.
The two items little corner stores have to stock and re-stock are cigarettes, little bits of chocolates, and energy booster packages. People buy them like without them they can't continue.
All the "raise your vibration" sites teach methods to pick you up: obviously you need pick-up if you are low on energy, if you are tired.
It's an epidemic. And eating super foods, ginseng, exercising, laughing, and all the stuff "they" recommend are treating the symptoms not the cause. Just like Western Medicine, they try to change the fruit without changing the root... Trying to get apples from a cherry tree...
This article deals with that complaint from an unusual angle. We are going to shed light at the invisible roots of this condition, so you can get your energy, if you are willing to change the roots: your behavior, and say good by to tiredness.
Now, because I start, let me make sure you understand: It is not your fault.
You live in society ruled by what society believes is the right way of being, and you learned that from your parents, teachers, doctors, and peers... They are doing the same thing. And they are all unhappy, unhealthy, unfulfilled, at best putting up a cheery front. But with the following information you can separate yourself from the crowd and start to live a life where your energies will not leak every hour of the day, where your energies will be available to you for something that you would like to accomplish in life.
So, here is the article. Fasten your seat belt.
This above statement is true in all of life, but it's especially true to the path of enlightenment, spirituality, connecting to Source, All of it.
There is a book I used to love, The Path of Least Resistance, that teaches that if you make what you truly desire have so much energy that your relationship becomes equivalent to a mountaintop and the valley... just like the river you will go down the path of least resistance and get to the valley.
Imagine trying to gather a cup full of water from falling rain... may take you months!
If you hold your cup under the downspout of the gutter: it may take seconds.
The gutter acts as a restrictor, it prevents the water to go on the path of least resistance, it restricts it.
Hunger, the desire to breathe, desire to feel good are like the rain: if they are restricted, they are a mighty power, but if they are not, they will literally starve you while you seem well fed.
Let's take hunger. Nowadays no one is ever hungry, at least not where I live, in the United States of America.
I shop once a week, and have the habit of watching what people buy. For the most part they buy 70-80% snack items, and only 20-30% meal items.
Meal items, in my world, are the ones you combine to create a nourishing meal. Meat, fish, vegetables, eggs... they are raw and need preparation.
People are never hungry. They feel hungry, but they are only starving for nutrients, not just any food. The tiny pleasures of snacking rob people the hunger that is required to prepare good food, eat it, and digest it. Yes, without a real hunger, a real fire in your belly, you can't digest your food properly.
Same thing with breathing. On the drill calls, which are essentially breathing meditations to step out of the mind, I teach people to breathe deeply, into the belly, so all the anguish, fear, despair that block their chest can disappear.
As an empath I can tune in and experience, with you, exactly how you breathe.
People are shallow chest breathers. They empty and fill about 20% of their lung capacity at every breath.
A hundred years ago the air had over 30% oxygen, nowadays it's down to 17%. You need to breathe deeper and longer today so you can be well.
Oxygen is what made life possible on this planet. Not enough of it: your health will suffer. Your clarity will suffer. Your whole being suffers.
My hope with teaching your breathe is that through breathing you'll learn a huge distinction: you are leaking your power and energy through almost everything you do. The result is you are tired, low of energy, underachieve.
It takes energy to live a life worth living! But your energy level is so low, you subsist on it, for the most part.
I watch people and they seem to run on the pilot light... at best you can maintain your miserable existence on that level of energy! Dragging yourself along, tired all the time. Maybe even depressed...
Another area where you leak energy is sex. If you observe yourself, you have sex as a tension reducer, as a "I deserve a little pleasure" activity.
Your sex life lacks passion, lacks depth, lacks real pleasure. Often it's not more satisfying than say going to the bathroom, but it does reduce your tension, does reduce your get up and go... it puts you on a "oh well, life isn't working, but at least for a few minutes I am not worried about it..." like a junkie that is looking for a quick fix.
You tie up your energies on one hand, leak them on another.
Let us look at the way you tie up your energies, shall we?
In my coaching practice, and in the conversations I have, I can tell that people's favorite activity is stuffing-it.
Stuffing their feelings. Stuffing their resentments. Stuffing their grief, fear, sadness, jealousy, envy, greed, etc.
Even perpetual complainers complain on the top of a mountain of stuffed grievances.
Whenever there is another (which is always, any other person is such) you experience thwarted intention, undelivered communication, unfulfilled expectations, about yourself, about the other, about life.
At work, at home, with friends, in crowds... you are offended, violated, put upon, passed-by, insulted, looked down upon: life is full of smaller or bigger insults: and then you stuff it.
I remember growing up angry. I suppressed it.
The rule of suppression: you can't just suppress one thing: you suppress it all when you suppress. Hate, anger, love, like, compassion: all of it.
Why? You are afraid of the consequences. You lie and you pretend and you put on a face then another one and then another one.
By age 30~35 you have no energy. You have no capacity to love, to enjoy, to get out and make something happen.
You may sign up to some courses, workshops, but you withhold, wall your insides off: you don't want to find out that you are not as pretty as you want to look to people.
Some course, for a time, release a lot of that suppressed energy, like the Landmark Forum for 20-30% of the participants. The rest of them is not willing or not able to let the inner pressure up.
Unfortunately, just like you need to brush your teeth every day, you continually need to reduce the inner pressure.
As you see, your energy is both lost, and tied up. In any case, it is not available to you: you are running on empty.
It often masquerades as depression, depression is an energy insufficiency disease.
The antidote to depression is desire. Desire that is big enough to lift you up from the hole you've dug for yourself.
Your chemistry adjust to the patterns of you life: no wonder Thoreau said, about you:
"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation. From the desperate city you go into the desperate country, and have to console yourself with the bravery of minks and muskrats. A stereotyped but unconscious despair is concealed even under what are called the games and amusements of mankind. There is no play in them, for this comes after work. But it is a characteristic of wisdom not to do desperate things."
My programs, especially the Unconditional Love Activator, can change the picture I just painted and restore you to life.
It removes most should's from life, so you'll resort to leaking your energy less often, so you will be less hurt by other people's thoughtlessness towards you.
Life becomes a whole new "ball-game" after the receive the Unconditional Love Activator.
Warning: It takes about 40 listening and re-listening for the Unconditional Love Activator to fully replace the unhealthy inner habits that are fueling your misery.