Humans are animals with a mind... and the mind is forceful. More forceful than the selfish gene...
The selfish gene is clear on what it wants: it wants to increase itself in the gene pool. That is all it is interested in. It negotiates with nature, with other species, with toxins, with members of the same species continually to lead to evolutionary stable strategies.... ess in short. It adapts or it dies. The more adaptable, the more aware the gene and the vehicle, the more successful the gene is in propagating itself, and it thrives. It cannot afford to be forceful: forceful comes from blindness, and the repercussions is extinction. Forceful means: unaware and uncaring...
Whereas the mind is blind and stupid... it won't see its own errors, won't even notice that it is heading to kill its vehicle...
We could say that humans are vehicles to the selfish gene whereas the mind regularly overrides the genetic commands, to the detriment of the specimen...in your case: you.
We could also say that humans are animals with the ability to raise their consciousness... beyond the forceful and blind mind.
Ability doesn't guarantee results. Only deliberate practice of the right things... You can see a lot of people with high abilities and low results everywhere. I do.
What does this mean?
Simple, but hard to accept...
This means that human base nature is extremely forceful... The forceful mind overrides the genes, and tries to kill everything other than what agrees with it... with what is in the mind... Linear, set, inflexible.
Life itself is not forceful. Animals are not forceful. They may be aggressive, but not forceful. Harmony is impossible when forcefulness is present.
Peace, love, compassion, freedom... none of the high values can co-exist with forcefulness.
One of the sources of inner tension is the tension between this dual nature: between the mind and consciousness, this forcefulness of the mind.
We all have to go through an inner transformation from forcefulness to allowing... to become someone in harmony with life. You are born without mind... and you are run by the genes... survival. Then mind comes and starts controlling the genes and your whole self. Forceful. And then you get a whiff of consciousness... and either it remains a whiff or living it becomes a reality... depending on you alone.
I know this from inside... through my own example, and I also know it from working with people...
Most people cannot see that they are forceful... many don't want to see that they are forceful...
No matter who you are, you are forceful, and it could be said that your vibration is consistent with your level of forcefulness... forcing yourself, forcing others, forcing life.
You can't catch what you don't see (this is still my favorite line I learned many years ago from a four-year old...)
Coaching is causing you to see what you don't see. Refuse to see. Can't see.
Once you see it, once you bring it into conscious awareness, the forcefulness becomes a choice.
Life comes without a manual, and for each of us, life needs to be learned. And our teachers never learned it... so our teachers are as clueless as it comes.
What is missing, what is always missing is distinctions.
Distinction is, simply put, a specific and new way of looking at life... Depending on where you look from, and through what filter, you see different things... Once you see what you see, you can bring consciousness to it.
For example I just finished reading a book, Think Like a Warrior: The Five Inner Beliefs That Make You Unstoppable... (Discover the five inner beliefs shared by the world's greatest achievers.)
The book shows the life of a football coach, his trials and tribulations, his failings through five distinctions... How he goes from failure to success, from arrogant prick to a leader.
The same life could be shown through different distinctions... This is what Landmark Education does, by the way; every course, every seminar, every training program shows life, the same unproductive forceful behaviors and attitudes, through a different filter, to create a 360 degree view of what doesn't work.
Why show life and errors and failings and misery in so many different ways? Because everything is multi-dimensional in life... only mind is linear. And the selfish gene...
Forceful is linear... but life, success, peace, happiness, fulfillment are all multi-dimensional.
Your gurus are all forceful. None of them is willing to take the multi-dimensional look at life... Why? No money in it.
This whole article was triggered by an invitation by Vishen Lakhiani, to watch a masterclass of his...
Vishen Lakhiani: Teaching forcefulness... forcefully. His whole consciousness engineering is exercise in forcefulness.
And he is occasionally teaching something worth learning.
I signed up. I have now trained myself to make room for a teacher's forcefulness, their errors, their arrogance, their unpleasantness by doing the 67 steps (yes, Tai is forceful) so I am sure I will benefit from attending this class.
But I can trust myself only because I can now tell the truth from untruth, because I have a large body of knowledge to integrate it with. And, of course, I have muscle testing while connecting to Source.
Even books... every book is forceful. Every book, therefore, has a low truth value... Truth like a line in a drawing... one line... Is it still worth reading? Yes. Why? Because their forceful linear look at life is probably different from where I/you have looked so far... each book offers another vantage point, and what can be seen from there...
I have noticed that visiting a city with a guide, even the city you live in... taking a guided tour, gives you a whole different vantage point of what you thought you knew... because one of the ways All-of-it is unknowable is this multi-dimensionalness... it is hard to invent new ways to look at the same thing... Other people, and especially books, are incredibly useful in that.
This forcefulness dominates every area of life... Health, money, relationships, politics, spirituality...
The art is to allow all forceful "threads" to be. Refuse none, and accept none as the one and only solution.
It's not easy.
Why? Because of your equipment.
The mind refuses to accommodate multi-dimensional.
The difference between human and human being is the degree to which consciousness is doing the decision making... the degree to which multi-dimensional is allowed to be seen by the person.
As long as you look at everything from your own mind... even imagining what an other person thinks... feels... you are still on the level of the mind... and consciousness hasn't been activated.
I have been trying to teach stepping into the vantage point, looking and listening from behind another person's eye balls, while also being, at the same time, behind your own. This bilocation is the starting point of consciousness.
So far it's not working.
Good writers can do it... it is much like a self-imposed schizophrenia... lol... not the illness but the capacity. The ability and the willingness to not be stuck with your linear relationship to all-of-it.