Emotional intelligence is the best known intelligence of those that aren’t measured in the IQ tests, but there are many different intelligences… Emotional intelligence is spoken of because that is something everyone needs and everyone needs YOU to have it.
In your starting point measurements, eight out of the 12 measures depend on your emotional intelligence, and if I want to be quite truthful, even your health number depends on your EQ as well. So in a roundabout way I test your emotional intelligence.
If you find yourself upset by what other people say, or what you hear they say, etc. chances are the problem is with you, namely with your ability to consider that what they say says more about them than about you.
If you think of yourself all the time, if you think things are personal, then you haven’t become an adult emotionally.
Your life is self-righteous suffering, and you are quite insufferable to have around.
One great way to test and then increase emotional intelligence is to brainstorm.
With other people. On someone else’s issue. Use your considerable intelligence to throw out ideas without much worrying about being considered stupid, or smart.
If you have your “I” invested in being thought of in a particular way: you won’t do it…
Obviously some or all of your ideas will be rejected. That is not the important part. What is important is that you break out of your own concerns about yourself…
Community brainstorm to practice emotional intelligence
I listened to a step in the 67 steps, the principle was: Begin with the end in mind… or said in another way: Win wars, not battles.
One of the things he (Tai) used to illustrate this principle is your income. If you are short by a thousand dollars every month, and your end goal is to raise yourself out of scarcity, you need to look at what is the end goal: an extra thousand dollars a month, or broken down to days, and extra 33 dollars income a day.
Instead of fretting, justifying, worrying, crying, complaining, etc. you state the goal and ask a question: how can I make, reliably, $33 a day, every day. Seven days a week. Extra. Beyond what I am making now.
Now, if I asked you to think this through for yourself, depending on your emotional intelligence, you would probably get stuck, etc.
But I ask you to brainstorm with me. For me.
We can do it in writing, we can do it on a webinar. If you were me, what would you do that makes an extra one thousand dollars a month… say, building up to it, by the end of October?
Now, remember that this is an exercise in emotional intelligence. If you start throwing out stuff without first finding out what is the situation you are dealing with, you just expressed low emotional intelligence.
You can send me emails. Or you can peruse the brand spanking new discussion forum http://yourvibration.com/discussion/forum/brainstorming/
If this works, we’ll do more of it…
This exercise tests your emotional intelligence, because your behavior reflects it.
- Do you share?
- Do you care?
- Can you share with the recipient in mind?
- Can you care about being understood?
- Are you boring?
- Only think about how you are perceived? etc. etc. etc.
In the “seasons” step of the 67 steps Tai talks about the anthropomorphic view of the universe, the earth-centered view of the cosmos… and similarly the egocentric view of the world…
Egocentric anything is sign of lack of emotional intelligence. You are not the center of the universe. It is not all about you.
The further your map of reality, what you consider true, from what is true, aka reality, the less intelligent you are.
Your misery, I say, is proportionately increases with that distance between your map of reality and reality.
And you probably think that it is not fair, that you deserve more.
But you don’t deserve more. You deserve what you are getting…Because you bump up against reality all the time, and reality is merciless.
For many of you, you blame the cruel world, the cruelty of other people, you say they are bad people.
But you never consider changing your ways. Finding out how things are and adjust your steps to it.
Naw, that would take a little bit of intelligence… I am sarcastic, and I apologize for it.
But come on… snap out of it!
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https://www.fastcompany.com/40434451/this-emotional-intelligence-test-was-so-accurate-it-was-creepy: Experts believe that emotional intelligence is the job skill of the future. So I had mine tested, and the results were scarily correct.
PS: Afterthought: after I pushed “published” I realized that many of you may consider that I am condescending in this article. Not really, although that would be normal with my soul correction.
No, the truth is that my overall intelligence number (my measurement!) is 70. The maximum would be 100… so I struggle with the same issues you struggle with, but I am a tad further along in this fight to become all I can be.
So no, I instead have a mixture of compassion and distaste… what did you expect? That I am going to stand here and cheer you on? There are plenty of people who do that… and the result: you don’t change. So, no thank you, that is inauthentic for me.