Own what owns you

Fritz Land film MOwn what owns you

One of my favorite movies is M, a 1931 German thriller. 1

I have watched it many times, it shakes me up every time.

Now, I have written about it, and here I go again.

This time I want to bring your attention to a different aspect, a way to watch it, that will make a huge difference for you.

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This is triggered by a call I had with a 67 step coaching client, who needed some help designing his life so it is principle based.

I was quite hesitant to have that call, because in every single call I have ever had, this result was not forthcoming.

I went to the call without preparation, ready for anything, going in any direction that will show up.

And about an hour into the call the direction showed itself.

But what made the direction show up is the clients unusual willingness to observe themselves, and to see what they see.

I won’t talk about the call more… I may, in some other article, but in this article I want to talk about looking to see what you see. Self awareness. Looking at yourself, your attitudes, your behavior with sober eyes.

M, a 1931 German thriller

Peter Lorre, the murderer (M) in the movie, has a scene. I have put the clip up in another of my articles, but without the context it is not as horrible as seeing the whole movie.

Now, if you are a TLB 1, you don’t have stomach for a murder mystery. Or you only want to look at nice things. Or you are afraid that even the thought of something bad will make bad manifest.

You need to know, I am not talking to you. You are not my ideal reader, and the only reason I don’t lock you out, because I technically cannot.

If you have no toughness in you, if you can’t stare at horror and see it for what it is… I have nothing to contribute to you.

But if you can, I welcome you.

And here is what I’d like you to do:

I’d like you to consider that you are a version of this Lorre played character. You may not kill little girls. But you do other bad things, and you know they are bad. And you do them nevertheless.

And if anybody asks, you grovel the same disgusting way as the Lorre played character.

You really need to see that about yourself, and about others. That not willing to take ownership and responsibility of what owns you, what runs you, what drives you, is disgusting, on every level… as disgusting as the scene by the Lorre played character.

Nothing more to say.

You think you are better because your failings, or your addictions, or your behavior falls within the socially acceptable limits of what is acceptable.

But you are as powerless and you are killing life as much as this murderer.

OK, now you have it.

Are you going to get an insight of this, or will hate me forever and tell all your friends that I am a weirdo?

The rest of your life depends on what you do now.

That’s it. Watch the movie. Click over to Youtube if that is easier for you.

Amazing insight… I am still shaking from it.

PS: You may ask what owns you.

And the answer to that question is: I don’t know. And you don’t know either.

Why? Because most of what runs you, rules, knowledge, attitudes, are invisible to you. I can see them, but you can’t.

They belong to the “you don’t know that you don’t know”.

All power comes from that…

The client I spoke with yesterday didn’t know that he had a rule that he needs to effort, needs to hurry, needs to do something all the time.

He didn’t know it was a rule. It’s been running him, and running him ragged.

Where did it come from? It doesn’t matter. It is not a relevant question. It is there and it is running you.

abyss that threatens to swallow you, unless...Now, some rules are also your “anchor to doom”… you circle the doom around a short leash.

The anchor to doom says: Unless you do, and hurry, and are busy, you are going to die.

Is this true? No. Is it scary? Hell yes.

This anchor I can pull, it is actually a self-attachment. Nasty.

When I pull, I also need to teach you how to guide you away from the doom… The doom is like a huge vortex leading to the abyss… or it won’t work.

You can try it alone, and you can book a call with me. It’s up to you.

So, what should you do now? If you find that you are compulsively avoiding, compulsively trying, hurrying, pushing, forcing, etc?

Pulling the anchor to doom is $25, but because I really need to connect to you, I can only do it if I know you. If I have done your Starting Point Measurements, I know you.

If I haven’t… well, get it done, or I can’t do the work for you.

Once you get my answer, as soon as I pull that pesky anchor to doom attachment, I’ll let you know if I can help you with a call.

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  1. At some point in my life I wanted to have a life about movies. I didn’t know I was an empath, but I knew that I got a lot more depth out of movies than anyone I knew… and I knew that I had some unique ability to say something that was new, about every movie.

    Life didn’t work out that way. I am OK with that. The world may be worse off for it.

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