Life, your life, is the way it is… you have what you have, you do what you do, it looks the way it looks.
The problem is not with life, not even with your life. The problem is with the questions that you ask.
In my free webinars we list areas of our lives that don’t work well. When we look, there is one common denominator in all of the student’s issues, and that is the questions that they ask.
We, humanity, think that questions are just questions, and the don’t make much of a difference.
The truth is, that the question you ask will be more important than the answers you seek.
With regards to our lives, we mostly ask why questions. Why am I the way I am, why can’t I…? Why doesn’t he love me? Why do I procrastinate? Why don’t I love my life?
But if you go beyond the surface, the why questions really come from the simplest and basest questions of all: what’s wrong?
The why questions point to the what’s wrong. Your questions actually give you your life… or at least your view of life. Your questions direct your attention, give you your choices, and keep you stuck.
Asking what’s wrong will make you want to fix, change, make better, and surely take you out of the present moment where there is never anything wrong.
So if asking the kind of questions that you ask is bad for you and keep you stuck in the fix cycle, what kinds of questions could you ask that would return you into the flow of life, and stop the waterfall of life from crushing you?
The question we ask in the webinar is this: “What’s missing? What’s missing that if we put it in that area of life, it would suddenly return into flow?”
It’s a great question. First off, you need to look at your life as if you were looking through your fingers, like Mr. Monk in the TV shows… The missing is not there, so you can’t find it in the area, and yet, it is there lurking in the spaces between what’s there.
The most useful missing to put there is an attitude. An attitude that doesn’t fix anything, and yet… It doesn’t fix anything, instead it lifts you above the issues, above the problems, above the stuckedness… where there is nothing wrong with you, you are OK the way you are.
The attitudes we’ve been inventing on the calls are as varied as the people… “I am fun,” “I am already loved,” “Let the chips fall where the chips fall… I can always self-correct!”, “If it is to be, it’s up to me!” are just some of my favorites.
You can pick a different attitude every day, you can change the attitude midday, it doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is that you get out of your rut and into the zone… into the flow… into the “there is nothing wrong here…”
Try it, you’ll be surprised how well it works. If you want to try to do it with my help, come to one of the webinars. You’ll love it.
You need to have a headset, or you can’t participate. You can’t be an observer either… I’ll boot you from the call. In the ham and eggs, the pig is committed, the chicken is just there… no chickens on my calls. 🙂