Life is unnecessarily hard for us. How do I know? We are in it together…

I have found, that the biggest "deterrent" for me from getting something new done is a version of visual/mental overwhelm: when my wires get crossed.

Any occurrence of not understanding something begins the process.

As a dyslexic, this happens quite often, especially when there is a form to fill out: what is most likely normal for people with a normal brain is gobbledygook 1 to me.

Now, it is not necessarily their fault...

As I am working in tandem with my marketing client, it is clear that he has none of my difficulties. He has other difficulties, but not brain scramble difficulties.

Now, why am I sharing this? Because unless you observe what is going on, and consider that it is a symptom of something, you'll be stuck and won't be able to move further, or higher, because of the meaning you assign.

I assign the meaning: dyslexia... visual confusion. Very unpleasant, and wants me to run for the hills, for something calming and simple, and obvious... but that is not the only way.

I have found that there is more than one way to skin a cat... and that I can test and employ different approaches that may work even though I have this disability.

Your TLB score shows your ability to hang in there, bear the discomfort long enough to look for ways around or through an obstacle.

The temptation is to avoid situations where you are not "brilliant"... which, for most of you, means: you'll never grow. Moreover: you'll never do anything worth doing, because you are stuck with doing what you have always done...

So what do I do to overcome this serious impediment?

The first thing is: I decide to NOT throw up my arms. Not decide that I can't...

This doesn't make it easier... because the feeling is nearly unbearable, totally disproportionate to the threat to my precious "I"... What I can or can't do doesn't really effect my "I", only the delusion of it.

So I wait. Don't get busy with something else, don't try to pretend it didn't happen.

The goal is to stay engaged on some level, despite the discomfort.

By the way: if you follow these instructions, you can watch your TLB start growing.

And in my world, your TLB is the number one indicator how far you can go...

Life will not be smooth, people on your side may suddenly express displeasure or disagreement, and if your TLB is low, it will throw you to a loop... that is hard to recover from.

Let tell you. Most of us don't feel good about who we are, 93% of the time. So you are not alone. I am not alone. This is what Sigmund Freud was talking about in his Civilization and its Discontents... that life is hard for us... This is why it's hard... because we feel all the time that we are wrong, that we are not as good as we should be, that this is wrong with us and that is wrong with us... with them... with it... with the world.

No matter how high achiever someone is. No matter that they do lots of things well... And no matter how confident they look to you... Most people don't feel good about who they are.

Our brain is trained to focus on what's wrong... it must have an evolutionary spurring you on higher significance, but it it definitely not pleasant.

And if you have a low TLB score, it works the opposite way than it is meant by nature.

This is why writing down every night the five successes, achievements, I practiced at some point in my life, made such a difference. Maybe I should revive that practice... especially now that everything I do or try to do is a disaster... lol.

This is going to be a short article... because I am in the middle of this... I will report on the different experiments I am making to get myself out of this tizzy... this ditch... and onto an upward trajectory.

Stay tuned.

Footnotes

  1. gob·ble·dy·gook noun informal
    language that is meaningless or is made unintelligible by excessive use of abstruse technical terms; nonsense.
    synonyms: gibberish, claptrap, nonsense, rubbish, balderdash, blather, garbage

Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

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