Distinction vs examples
One of the reasons you are not as astute in life is because you can't see the forest for the trees.
Seeing patterns is a higher function of the brain, and needs to be developed and nurtured. I call this astuteness, or the using the astute capacity.
Everyone's brain is capable but not everyone is willing. 1
Mathematics and physics was the path you didn't take... You know who you are.
Why Mathematics and Physics? Because they don't work with examples, they don't work with the trees... they see the trees through the forest.
If you don't know what this means... it means you haven't experienced this.
You will either learn or you won't.
So how does the difference show up for me between someone who can see life through patterns, and someone who tries to see patterns through examples?
In my coaching program I have people with or without the ability. I love them all... and I see the difference. The main difference is how they use guidance. Or said it a different way: how guidance guides them.
Both types need guidance, but they will use it differently, they will hear it differently.
One will interact with the "trees" while the other will internalize the forest.
We all want to have integrity... but depending whether we have the "astute" gene active or not, we'll have a whole different approach.
Here are two approaches to integrity. The first one is the unpopular "distinction" format, mathematics-like. The second the popular examples... One out of half a million will see value in the first... While almost all humans see value in the second.
OK, here is the distinction (mathematics) "style" approach to integrity:
"Nothing hidden, being truthful and honest, doing complete work, working from an empowering context, and doing very well what you do; doing it as it was meant to be done or better, and without cutting corners.
"In other words, HONORING ONE'S WORD: Doing what you know to do, doing what you said you would do and on time, doing what others would expect you to do even if you haven't said you would do it, and saying when you are not doing this as soon as you realize you won't be doing it or won't be doing it on time."
or an even more mathematical way... incomprehensible for most:
The Impact of Integrity As A Positive Phenomenon
We define integrity as the state of being whole, complete, unbroken, unimpaired, sound, in perfect condition – clearly, the definition of a positive phenomenon. As is the case with any positive phenomenon – for example, gravity – there are effects caused by actions related to that phenomenon. The action of stepping off a cliff will, as a result of gravity being a positive phenomenon, cause an effect (whether one likes
the effect or not). Likewise, action that is consistent or inconsistent with integrity will, as a result of integrity being a positive phenomenon, also cause an effect (again, whether one likes the effect or not).
When integrity is revealed and dealt with as a positive phenomenon as it is in our model, the relation between integrity, workability and performance is as follows:
1. Maximum workability for an object, system, person, or other human entity (such as a partnership or corporation) is a necessary (although not sufficient) condition for maximum performance,
2. Integrity as we distinguish and define it (the state of being whole, complete, unbroken, sound, in perfect condition) is a necessary (and sufficient) condition for maximum workability,
3. It follows that for an object, system, person, or other human entity integrity is a necessary (although not sufficient) condition for maximum performance, and
4. It follows that as integrity declines, the opportunity for performance declines.
5. This leads to the empirically refutable proposition that, with other conditions remaining the same, as integrity declines, performance declines.
Did you ever expect that declaring yourself unfit to learn mathematics will have this "heavy" consequences for your life? I bet you didn't, and I bet that no one told you. Not your parents, not your teachers. Why? I bet they didn't know it.
OK... here are some examples for the trying to see the forest by looking at the trees. The popular way of approaching life... the approach most people use that destroy the planet... and causes untold suffering.
13 Characteristics of People Who Have True Integrity
1. They value other people's time.
They value their own time so they also value the time of other people. They know you have plenty of other places you need to be and won't hold you up. If you spend time with them, it is likely they will thank you for that as well.
2. They give credit where it is due.
They do not take credit for things they did not do. They will always credit those who deserve it. If you help this person with a project he or she will likely mention your name so you can take credit for your work.
3. They are authentic.
They are their truest forms. You won't catch them in a lie or being fake.
4. They are always honest.
They are honest people that feel no need to lie as it is important for them to get to where they need to get in life honestly.
5. They never take advantage of others.
They are not the kind of people who will take advantage of someone else. They love to build people up and help them get where they need to be. Taking too much from someone else will never be an issue with someone who has a lot of integrity.
6. They do not argue over disagreements.
They will talk through things in a civil manner or not talk at all. You cannot and will not force this person into arguing over something completely ridiculous. I find this to be a very respectable trait.
7. They give most people the benefit of the doubt.
They try to see the good in everyone. I think this is because they feel like maybe there are more people in this world that also have integrity. That being said, if you take advantage of them too much they will get rid of you.
8. They know when something is bothering someone.
They have a great intuition that lets them know when something is going on. If someone is down in the dumps they will notice. Chances are they will actually do what they can to cheer you up.
9. They believe others.
They accept your word as truth until it is disproven. That being said, they do not take lying well. And once you lie to them, it is unlikely that they will ever take your word again.
10. They apologize first.
If they have done something wrong they will come to you and apologize. This is just how they are. They own up to their mistake and try to make things right.
11. They are humble.
They do not quite know their own worth. While they are very important and do so much good they don't quite see it. You should remind them of it.
12. They do good when they can.
They are always helping other people. They love to know that they have improved someone's life. It gives their lives meaning.
13. They are always kind to those who need it.
Giving kindness can go a long way. When someone looks like they need a little pick me up these people deliver. They can brighten up almost anyone's day.
If you are someone who has true integrity, thank you for being who you are and thank you for all that you do. You really do actually make a difference in society, please keep up the good work. If you feel no one else is proud of you, know that I am.
Now comes the hard part, but I'd appreciate if you gave it a try: Try to activate the astuteness capacity:
Now, see if these trees, the 13 ways THEY SAY people with integrity behave CAN OR COULD be part of the integrity forest.
I expect 2-3 people to try. Please be one... and fail at it if you must. But at least give it a try. 2
OK, now go and practice the moves of people who can see the forest for the trees. It is a capacity that needs to be nudged awake... You have it, but you have it dormant.
Without it being awake and functioning, you can't see what you are doing, or what you are doing wrong, because the context, the forest is missing.
- Puzzles, I am told, are also a great help.
- Certain parts of the IQ test checks if this capacity is awake or not...
- And surely I see it in the 67 steps to what degree you can see the principle... The principle is the forest. The examples are the trees. All that talk... only to confuse you? lol.
- Seeing seemingly independent pieces of information as belonging to the same group because of a pattern that is likely invisible to others. The tool, the verb, is called distinguishing. In the dictionary:
1.recognize or treat (someone or something) as different.
"the child is perfectly capable of distinguishing reality from fantasy"
synonyms: differentiate, tell apart, discriminate between, tell the difference between
"distinguishing reality from fantasy"
2. perceive or point out a difference.
"bees are unable to distinguish between red, black, and various grays"
3. manage to discern (something barely perceptible).
"it was too dark to distinguish anything more than their vague shapes"
synonyms: discern, see, perceive, make out; More
4. detect, recognize, identify;
literary: descry, espy
"he could distinguish shapes in the dark"
What the dictionary doesn't say, because the dictionary is the reflection of civilization, and astute people cannot be suppressed and used like most people... ugh... is that by seeing the sameness and the differences in one view, one can see what is the dynamic of things, what is the underlying order, the deep simplicity of things.
I have been following the reading list of Charlie Munger, the billionaire. I have seen that really high achievers are really high achievers because of this one capacity... and they know it. So they sharpen it and keep sharpening it.
While ordinary people see maybe one area of life with enough astuteness to make a living...
- A tailor can distinguish many different shades of a color as belonging to the same color group... aka the forest.
- A gardener can distinguish many different weeds, and pull them out so they have a beautiful garden.
- A mother can distinguish many different ways a child cries and give the child what the child needs.
Most of us have only one area of life where we can see "shades" of something, and yet we have no ability to distinguish... even though our brain is capable of it. The mind sees everything is the same as everything else, except that not always.
That turns us powerless in the face of the many different ways life comes at us.
Once you have the "power of distinguishing", the capacity awakened, you seem like a psychic to people, because you can see so much more than them. The TV show "Psych" featured a young man who was trained by his policeman dad to develop this capacity. And, of course, there is Sherlock Holmes...
- PS: This whole topic was triggered by an article I read about women who give men what men need and they get devotion in return... versus most women, myself included, who are taken for granted, and end up alone, or wish we were alone... because even that would be better.
I'll buy the "course" the article pointed to, and if it is good, I'll point you to it.
What I saw in that seemingly different area of life (a different tree!) was that when you have no idea about the distinction, the forest, then you may do the "right tree" move but it will backfire on you.
And that may be the story of your life... to some extent, in the area of relationships, it's been the story of my life.
Update: I bought the course, and I am halfway through it. It's brilliant. I am sold... I will write more about it as I am learning new skills... But for now, if you want to get it, here is the link: http://bit.ly/2ynz7MR