I once had a boy friend who bought tree ornaments as gifts every Christmas. Even to people who didn't have a tree... ;-/
One of the barriers to real knowledge, I have found in my students, is compartmentalizing.
The opposite of compartmentalizing is the integrative approach...
I first saw this phenomenon in 1988, when i first read the famous book, What Color Is Your Parachute.
The core of that book is completely wasted on 99% of the readers. The core that talks about portable, transferable skills.
The reason people don't get it, because they cannot see the integrative aspect...
All in all... if we look through spiritual capacities, the issue is that people look through a narrow cone of vision.
But even if you look at the world through a wide cone, unless you can detect patterns that connect seemingly disparate stuff... you'll still lack the capacity to have a latticework of knowledge that will give you the worth a damn factor.
Seeing patterns is another group of capacities. It consists of three... one of them is to be able to filter out the irrelevant and accidental.
What is irrelevant and accidental? The elements that are not repeatable.
Like cloud formations. Or winning the lottery.
If and when you cannot connect the dots... a new piece of knowledge will go through you like a sieve... or will be an isolated piece... useless.
I remember when I was in a training program and we had to read the Art of War... I could not, for the life of me, see why that would be relevant to anything.
Which means: I didn't pop out of my father's head in full armor, like Pallas Athene from the head of Zeus.
I had to develop seeing, connecting the dots, looking for the similarity.
Which means: this capacity can be turned on by appropriate action... looking for the connection.
Your childhood activities, sports, musical instrument, languages, choir, photography, without creating a context that shows their proper place in creating a life, and a latticework of knowledge, is quite useless.
Unfortunately most parents don't know any of this and cannot help. And the same with coaches, trainers, teachers.
Unless they are personally part of the 1% that has life as a context, unbroken, seamless life... no compartments, they will not be useful for you.
There is an expression I really liked in Misbehaving, the book by Richard Thaler, 2017 Nobel Prize winner in economics: "Theory induced blindness"
You can replace the word "theory" with "what you know", religion, dogma, what is MY profession, what is MY degree in, what do I know how to do... and you can see that all of those induce blindness... and a kind of stupidity... and inflexibility.
This unwillingness to look is still a puzzle to me. I don't understand it, and therefore I have no coaching to unstuck it.
Sometimes this is not unwillingness... this is still not looking, but caused by some meme... like I should already know... or why would I have to look... or if it were important she would have told me.
Or maybe for the same reason as horse owners put blinders on horses... so they don't get overwhelmed by the big wide world?
All my life I wanted someone to hold my hand. To share the hurdle with me, so I don't have to invent it for myself.
Someone who says: it is as important to me that you learn it as whatever is important to me.
This is where talk is cheap. Showing it is cheap. Only caring will do... unfortunately.
When I discovered that I have the ability to feel what someone is doing inside... it started to help me as handholding would.
And that is when i truly started to learn.
There is only one problem: it only works when you are attempting to do it on your own. Darn... eh?