What is the most important skill you could master?

It’s been one of those days…

Virus attacks on some of my old websites. Lots of updates. Then the computer upgrade I ordered arrived… I was scared… and oops, it didn’t fit my computer. Why? I don’t know. I ordered another one on Amazon, printed the return label… and we shall see.

It’s 1 pm, and for all intents and purposes, I haven’t even started my day. I’ll have appointments in the afternoon, and I could be all whacked out… but I haven’t broken my stride.

It is all in a day’s work, I say… Errors, even virus attacks are par for the course.

The interesting thing is: if I haven’t done the Amish Horse Training Method, I would be pulling my hair out, or would be in bed with a serious case of whatever you call when life goes to shit.

I am hearing the voices. One of them repeats, about every 30 seconds, that I should really kill myself.

It’s been doing it every time things don’t go exactly my way, for about, give or take, 70 years.

I laugh. It is actually funny. The voice doesn’t get tired… lol.

Consciously hearing the voices is the secret. If you hear it, then it isn’t you speaking. It is something pretending to be you…

So you can safely just include it as noise.

What happens if you don’t? You get out of whack… lol.

And your tug of war with the voices result in too few things getting done, and too much energy wasted for the war…

Or if you just succumb, then you probably are playing video games, or eat, or went out shopping, or do some diversionary move… to get away from your life.

The goal of the Amish Horse Training Method is so you can keep your head about you. That you can tell who YOU are and who the “other” is, including all the nasty voices. Or all the smart voices. Or all the voices that want you do get already done, be somewhere where you aren’t, be faster, smarter, better… and feel better… and on and on an on.

I looked at an article earlier this morning that talks about the most important skill in your life… he says. He says: thinking. I quote it at the end of this post…

But what he cannot see, proving my point, that unless you can see… all the thinking won’t help you.

Ayn Rand, Aristotle say this a lot: if life seems to have contradictions… Contradictions do not exist. Whenever you think you are facing a contradiction, check your premises. You will find that one of them is wrong.

Premises are those things that you don’t see… whereas all the things you suppose, or maybe even think you know are false 60% of the time… So if you COULD check your premises, if you COULD look and see, you would find that most of your life is founded, based on premises that just aren’t true.

The Amish Horse Training Method with the voices, the Memes method with the sentences, written or spoken, the frames, the perspectives, and then A is A are all part of the methodology to take you to a place where you can actually see.

Where most of what is not true, not real, and not relevant, is seen as such.

What you are left with may not be the whole truth, or only the truth, but it is a whole lot closer to what is so.

Of course being knowledgeable is still needed… but only after you unwrapped reality from the big and bulky packaging created by the voices, and the memes, and the expectations, and all that jazz.

As you practice you get better at it… like I can hear the “go kill yourself” voice and laugh… Not even the stab of pain in my gut I used to feel every time I heard it… Nothing. Noise.

If you seem to be confronting a contradiction, then at least one of your relevant beliefs is false.

You have thousands of memes that you adopted as beliefs. They are at odds with reality… and you bump up against them, be tripped up by them all the time.

They are about how you should be, how life should be, how others should be, how you are… what you can or can’t do… how smart you are… what you know.

All untruths.

And these untruths are the premises with which you do your thinking if you do any thinking.

So this is why I am saying: the article writer was putting the horse in front of the cart… like you do all the time.

Start at the beginning. Pare down all the things you are sure about, all the things that tell you want to do.

And then, maybe then, some thinking will be useful.

Oh, here is the article I am arguing with…

The Most Important Skill in Your Life

Humans have a tendency to overweight surface-level benefits.

Everybody wants to be more productive. Everybody wants to learn the hard skills that will make them more successful. Everybody wants to know how they can build smarter habits and cultivate better routines.

These skills have a visible reward that’s very apparent once they’re mastered, and as a result, they get a lot of attention and resources dedicated to them.

If you learn how to manage your time better, you’ll be more equipped to do something useful with it. If you learn to code or to write, you may have a career ahead of you that you can pursue beyond an office. If you build better habits, you can make a lot of difficult tasks easier.

These rewards are clearly valuable. That said, they’re ultimately not the highest leverage skills that you can nurture in yourself. In fact, the skill that is perhaps the most potent of all is also the most neglected.The Most Important Skill in Your Life

Humans have a tendency to overweight surface-level benefits.

Everybody wants to be more productive. Everybody wants to learn the hard skills that will make them more successful. Everybody wants to know how they can build smarter habits and cultivate better routines.

These skills have a visible reward that’s very apparent once they’re mastered, and as a result, they get a lot of attention and resources dedicated to them.

If you learn how to manage your time better, you’ll be more equipped to do something useful with it. If you learn to code or to write, you may have a career ahead of you that you can pursue beyond an office. If you build better habits, you can make a lot of difficult tasks easier.

These rewards are clearly valuable. That said, they’re ultimately not the highest leverage skills that you can nurture in yourself. In fact, the skill that is perhaps the most potent of all is also the most neglected.

Continue reading… https://web.archive.org/web/20190315155321/https://medium.com/personal-growth/the-most-important-skill-in-your-life-7154f7b92012

Oh, one more thing: 1.8 thousand of readers clapped for the article… In a few months you’ll laugh at them… poor schlocks, cannot see from their eyes, with their eyes…

Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

True empath, award winning architect, magazine publisher, transformational and spiritual coach and teacher, self declared Avatar