Capacities, possibilities, new constructive attitudes… How do you create them so you can have what you want?

Capacities, possibilities, new constructive attitudes…

  • What these share is that they are words first and foremost.
  • The second thing: saying the words will not make you that…
    And unfortunately, it turned out that turning on the capacities in the DNA won’t create permanent changes… unless.

So what is the technology of inventing and making these capacities, possibilities and attitudes real?

This is what this article is about. It’s about you learning how to have what you want.

Let’s first talk about what people want… What you want.

In thousands of conversations, personally, on the phone, in emails, I have come to see that people want to have.

  • There is being… The being allows for doing…
  • There is doing… and the doing allows for, creates the having
  • There is having… these are your results… the stuff, the relationships, the body, and even how you feel about all of that… Then you say: I want to feel loved… that is a having as well, even if it sounds like a being verb.

Which means that unless you have the being that allows for the doing, you won’t have the having part. EVER.

I hope that will convince you to actually listen with interest so you can see what you have been missing, and what you can do about it. 1

The first stage is being. Without being the kind of person who can, who will do, you will never have.

The being is the sticky issue… and capacities, possibilities, and attitudes are all beings in another word… So they are the sticky issues, the issues no one is really addressing effectively.

Two reasons for that… maybe more… we shall see…

  • The first reason beingness/attitude remains unattainable to you  is language.

Being this or being that is easy to say. The word just falls out of your mouth… Being happy, being talented, being a winner… but saying so doesn’t make it so.

Talking about flying isn’t… is how I express this discrepancy between talking and being.

I learned about being in Landmark Education, and its predecessors, whatever they were, 33 years ago.

I was a foreigner. I was doing my courses in a foreign language. I didn’t have the natives’ arrogance thinking that I know what the words really mean.

I had beginner’s mind without having to pretend that I don’t know. I didn’t know.

And it seems that having the beginner’s mind attitude, the “I want to know” attitude that I brought with myself from that foreign culture, I started to investigate in earnest.

I didn’t go to the dictionary. Dictionary is just more words that I didn’t know, that you treat as if you already knew it.

I went to looking, feeling, observing, testing, over and over, wider and wider.

The first being word I worked with was “generosity”.

I suspected that the way people mean the word is not accurate, that it doesn’t mean that. The way people mostly used the word “generous” or “generosity” is to mean giving.

But giving is easy. No generosity in that. Giving what is yours… that is a little bit more… it demands of you to give something up… and let them have more than you. And that lead to even more unearthing: allowing the other to be whatever they were, allowing them to be smart, or a leader, or maybe even allow them to suffer when they suffer.

Not trying to fix them so they have to change.

And then the last piece I could see: allow them to shine. Allow them to outshine you. Allow them to be more than you.

On some level, if it doesn’t hurt, it’s not generosity. Not what you expected is it?

Being, attitude, are the seed level of anything that you can want.

In my courses, in my energy work, in my coaching, I specialize in being/attitude.

But because talking about flying, thinking about flying isn’t… in order for you to benefit from anything I teach, you need to learn to generate being… generate attitude… generate capacities… DNA capacities.

If you ever wondered why I have so many capacities working for me, DNA capacities, this is my secret.

I did it myself.

For a few years I fancied myself able to turn on capacities for you, only to land on earth, land in reality, where you cannot keep a capacity “on” that you didn’t generate yourself.

The path to having capacities is the same path as having being available to you.

  • The second reason: world view

To date I haven’t found anyone who even considered doing the work of distinguishing the capacity they paid me to turn on.

Why? Because of memes…

Memes are those pesky statements that sound like the truth but aren’t.
  • Whatever you can imagine, you can have it… A whole industry of vision maps, mind movies is built on this meme… built on this lie.

There are a lot more that came from the “meme-pool”.

  • Here is an innocent sounding meme: All answers are within… it is another lie that makes you look for your lost keys where they aren’t… (the joke about the drunk who is looking for his car keys under the street light…)
  • Here is another one: if you understand it, you can do it… or something like it.

Many lies come from sales pitches…

If you could be generous enough, please comment on this post, so we can create a collection of memes that fool you into a delusional reality where you can get what you want by wanting it. Please? Thank you.

The truth about reality is that you have to work for everything you want.

Sometimes it looks like you don’t… but it is a mirage.

Example: if you plant a seed in unprepared soil, you will have no plant. Why? Preparing the soil to hold moisture, preparing the soil to have nutrients for the emerging plant is work that you have done ahead of time.

I have many skills that I built in my 70 years. When I do something, you cannot see all the work that went into preparing the soil for that new thing to be nurtured. You look and you fancy yourself being able to do it as well, because you saw me doing it.

And you’ll be wrong. Dead wrong. You even missed 90% or more of what is visible, because you don’t have the prepared soil, you don’t have the practical knowledge that you need to even see exactly what I did.

And that is what’s happening when you observe high achievers… you cannot see the work they did, or even the effects of the work they did for tens of years.

OK, on another note… seeing clearly what would make your life work, what would make your dreams come true is not enough.

I am reading this dude’s books… I have been, he wrote several books.

His vibration is 170. 2

This dude is very wizard-like in certain areas of life, like money, like making friends.

He writes about stuff that feels very close to the truth… but talking about stuff and being like it is so are two different things.

His being and his writing are not in sync, not in harmony. His inauthenticity number shows it.

So even when you know a lot about the attitude that would make or break your desires, you can see, that knowing won’t be enough.

You need to build legs under that being… with doing.

This step is the most missing piece of the puzzle.

Even Landmark Education doesn’t attend to it.

Why? because it’s a lot of work, and because, maybe, it is not in their best interest.

I am going to talk about Landmark Education technology that is flawed. If you don’t want to hear it, or if it doesn’t make sense to you, skip over it…

OK, Landmark teaches you to invent the attitude, the being, the capacity. They call these “possibility”. So they teach you to invent a possibility for yourself and your life.

They teach you the what. And a little bit about the how: make sure this new possibility is not fixing what is… or it is not a possibility. Otherwise they leave you alone, to your own devices, to invent.

OK, so you invented something that sounds like a possibility.

Then, Landmark says: to make it real in your life, all you need to do is to talk to enough people and make them believe that you are that.

Remember: a possibility (the Landmark term) is a way of being. They say: if you convince enough people that you are that way, then you have it.

Now, between you and me, depending on your understanding of what convincing people (they use the word “enroll”) that you are that, then you may be that…

But… and a big but at that: how do you do that?

You don’t know, and I promise you, “they” don’t know.

Why, because the work you need to know is a lot more complex. And takes a lot more time than convincing people that you are that…

Just look back at my inquiry and my work on generosity. Unless you know all facets of a being, you cannot truly be it.

I discovered yesterday that I was the kind of coach who wanted you to remain “under” me… How did I do that? I had one of my students surpass me, and I felt those pesky marker feelings of: Oh my god, I am being left behind!

I quickly identified it as lack of generosity, and promptly corrected it. We are talking about 30 odd years when this never came up, so I didn’t even know it was lurking there in the shadows!

You are always “to a degree” are you a possibility, have a certain attitude. With this correction I have raised that degree to 90%. Still not 100%.

Do I have any idea where that missing 10% will come from? Yes and no… you don’t know what you don’t know… Some of that 10% is me being OK with how you are, however flawed that is… I am still not good at that… 🙁

You grab a little corner of that attitude, that possibility, like the end of the thread in a ball of yarn, and snip it off… then find another little piece to snip off.

Eventually life will be able to come through that now cushy ball of yarn, and you can start having what you want.

There are 160 spiritual capacities built into your DNA. You can pick any of them to turn on.

The FAKE IT Method… make your actions consistent with what you are learning to be, that is what we, what I call faking.

An ex student of mine wrote to me about the capacity of being enough.

Let me spend a little time with that capacity, with that possibility, with that attitude. It is all three…

Ask some questions: what would someone do if they were enough? If they were a match to what they want in life? Or something specific: if they wanted to get off welfare, for example.

And start looking at people who seem to be enough. Do not look for the answers in your mind. There is no answer there.

You may see, that they are doing what they set out to do… You may hear them fretting, but the fretting won’t stop them. They do it and do it and do it, until it is done. They definitely not go to hoping and wishing.

Someone who is enough actually sees that it is up to them to produce what they set out to produce. That mother, god, or government won’t be coming. It is up to them. And because they are enough, they do it.

Can you do it even if you are not yet enough? Yes. This is the meaning of the meme: fake it till you make it.

It is not putting on appearances, it is actually doing work you can’t do well yet. But you are doing it… and it will become enough eventually. So you made it through that hurdle.

And in the process who you are for yourself changed to “enough”.

The faker died, just like the caterpillar dies, and the enough is born and taking flight.

Looks like a miracle, and it is a miracle… a miracle you created.

That may be all you needed to have what you want, in every area of your life. That relationship to yourself, where you are enough. A match for what you want.

PS: If you pay attention, everybody teaches you what to do. They may go a little bit into the how, but not enough.

Here is something that you’ll probably hate, but somebody has to say it: teachers can only teach the how of what they consciously did themselves. If you do things, if you were born that way, if you were unconscious as you learned to be that way, you cannot teach it.

This is why you can’t see how articles. This is why you see advice: just meditate, love is all there is, blah blah blah.

The vibration number is accurate. It tells you how many capacities, how many beings you can authentically bring to your own life. And to what degree you have those capacities in working order.

The Dude: vibration: 170… ! inauthenticity: 99%. Tai Lopez: vibration: 170. Inauthenticity: 90%.

Both are somewhat low…

I am still able and willing to learn from this guys. Why? They have the insight. Insights are words. I am able to benefit from those words. Why? Because MY inauthenticity is 10%…

Become that person who can learn from everyone! Be Abraham Lincoln! A discerning machine! A learning machine!

Their books, programs save me a lot of work of scouring the world for new discoveries of missing pieces of the puzzle. And I am diligently studying what these guys put out.

But, I would laugh if it were really funny, THEY cannot benefit from the wisdom that comes out of their mouths… because they don’t live, they don’t “be” what they teach.

They could, by the way.

But why don’t they?

Because in order to sell stuff to you, they have to give you only what is largely useless… and because that is STINGY, because that is DISHONEST, because that is INAUTHENTIC, because that is being in league with EVIL (desire to receive for the self alone), they can’t… or they will become schizophrenic… or poor like me… lol. Now, that is funny, imagining those two guys being poor like me. hahahaha

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  1. We don’t know of many people who documented how they became who they became. Benjamin Franklin is an exception. We learn from Ben Franklin that what made him THE Ben Franklin, in spite of his low birth, and lack of formal education, is his practice of growing his virtues.

    Virtues are the things we are talking about, the attitudes, the being, the possibilities.

    He also saw that anything that is not measured, cannot grow. So he measured his virtues every day. He cycled through the 13 virtues he set out to learn, one a week.

    I did it differently, I probably would be further ahead, had I tried his way.

  2. Here are his starting point measurements:

    1. your vibration (1-1000): 170
    2. your overall intelligence, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, body, relationship, etc.: 100 (pay attention to this number… you cannot go higher!)
    3. the number of spiritual capacities you have: 10 (pay attention to this number, his audience has 1)
    4. your soul correction (your machine): “Removing Hatred”
    5. do you have attachments? no
    6. the level of your health (1-100): 10%
    7. the level of your cell hydration (1-100): 10%
    8. your relationship to feedback and instruction: whimpering
    9. The level of discomfort you are willing to allow w/o trying to fix it. This is your TLB score… 1
    10. The size of your vocabulary: the number of words you can use accurately: 3500 (pay attention to this number! his average customer has this at 200)
    11. To what degree you think of yourself: 99%
    12. # of fixed mindset: 10%
    13. Ambition: 80% (this number tells you how much of what he wants he is willing to work for. The average number in the world for ambition is 4%, and of his audience: 3% meaning: not willing to work for what they want.)
    14. Desire: 10%
    15. Degree of inauthenticity overall: 99%
    16. Level of integrity 1-100: 80% (compare it with your… the average is 3%)
    17. how enslaved are you to memes? (what percentage of your life is run by memes?) 40%
    18. do you have a bridge between your precious “I” and your actual I? What is your level of delusion 7%
    19. To what degree you have access to your adult capacities 7%
    20. How teachable/how coachable are you? 7%

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