George Bernard Shaw wrote more than a hundred years ago: "This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy." 1
And what he wrote about you, being a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances... is more true today than it was in his time.
No one has offered a solution to that issue until now. 2
It's emotions. Or more precisely: emotional reaction to thoughts, words, rules, should be's and shouldn't be's... to what is right and what is wrong, to what is good and what is evil. 3
In effect it all comes from the Original Sin: accepting the Tree of Knowledge as the ultimate guide to life... and grossly ignoring the Tree of Life... aka Reality.
If you want a different life from the direction your life is heading at... your job is to unlearn what is largely invisible to you: the water you swim in... that emotions are important, that emotions are reality.
Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player,
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,
And then is heard no more. It is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
That was Shakespeare, talking about you, about your life, about how you live your life.
What he means to talk about is a life lived by emotions... without using the brain, the organ of rational thinking, the organ of perceiving reality, or more importantly telling apart the drama, the emotions and reality... and base life on reality.
Until now no one blamed your proclivity, your tendency to choose to look into what you feel, your predisposition towards feelings, on your miserable life.
When you use your emotions to guide you, you
- 1. make decisions that don't serve you, don't serve the mission, don't serve anything worth serving, other than misery
- 2. you have no idea what you think, what you want, who you are...
- 3. you feel stupid and justified... after all you acted on the "right thing", the human thing, your emotions. 4
For you everything is the same as everything else... except that not always.
Even the way you eat... you put a sauce, ketchup, or whatever you put on every food to taste the same.
You have no inkling what reality tastes, looks, is like. You never look there. You could have no eyes, no ears, and you would behave the same way.
Some of you got into my programs because I could not hear what you said.
I just distinguished this... I didn't fully have the distinction either.
I accepted you by mistake.
You had no interest in changing what you do, changing where you look, you just hoped that you can do the same thing, feeling differently about it or about the same results.
I am adding a new measure to the Starting Point Measurements, starting today. The new measure will tell me to what degree you honor your feelings as reality...
It is the number that will tell me to what degree you are unsuited for a life of effectiveness, a life lived successfully.
Until and unless that number comes down to maximum 10%, you'll be that little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.
It should be obvious by now, that the course I teach this in, the course where you can learn how to do this, and practice it, is the Playground.
Because the world is full of emotionally guided people, because that seems to be the rule of the game for the inferior, and because you've been trained to be that, the course will take at least a year to make a major and lasting difference.
Daily practice... instead of exams, no cramming for exams... the learning is all practical: where do you look?
I am a woman: was it easy for me?
It wasn't. Then again, I am not your "normal" woman. I was born and raised without love. I have a rubber face, expressive, animated, but it doesn't belie about a rich inner life of emotions that could lead me astray...
Once I handled the handful of issues every person has, I settled into a life of no emotions.
Of course, without knowing the principle, it took me a lot of trials and errors, false starts.
When I go back in time to see who were the literary heroes I admired, and wanted to read their adventures again and again (still do) all those heroes are like me: not guided by emotions. Informed, but not guided.
And then there is the huge army of emotionally guided others: they are the enemy. The enemy of life... as I see it.
I have been looking at what is common among people who I can train, who are interested in what I have to offer.
I have found that people who relate to their job, their occupation, their activity emotionally, are the most miserable, and therefore the most likely to look at that as a problem, and maybe actively look for a solution.
When you live an emotionally guided existence, you have no guidance available to you, innately, because there are too many feelings ravaging you.
So, left to your own devices, asking the questions you have been asking, will not be effective guidance towards finding what activities would be able to provide fulfillment, work that you can do well and enjoy doing.
I had the same issue back in 1966. I had already applied to architecture school, 20 times overapplication, 5 lots of work... or having my own TV show, play my guitar, sing, talk to people... and be a celebrity... maybe. No guarantees there.
I was clear enough to be able to do a thought experiment, at least about the better known life of a TV celebrity... and I saw the obvious traps there: men, sex, alcohol, and mostly waiting for the show to come up... idle waiting.
Even the thought experiment could tell me that it's a boring career, so I opted for the architecture school.
I started to see clearly when I could see that I can watch TV at my drafting board, and the job was getting done. I felt my brain atrophy... and me become bored and boring.
No music, no dance, no talking, no discovery, no learning anything... tedium. A life not suitable for me.
I saw that I needed an occupation where every day was filled with discovery, taking personal risk, penetrating the mystery of the universe, and dance and words for self expression. Play. Be quick on my feet... Be able to be with just about anyone... that is a life for me.
It all became crystal clear with my own Juice Exercise... I saw that bringing the Divine to Everything is the principle that gets it all unified for me, makes it all enjoyable.
Sometimes I say: It is all in a day's work... that is bringing the Divine to whatever I am asked to do, even if the activity is not a pleasant one... even if it involves tedium, pain, or bad smell.
It is all in a day's work... because when your life is your work, you can include everything.
But you need to know yourself. You need to know what makes your life your work... and for that you need help. My help.
Finding Your Work... with the famous Juice Exercise, and then probably follow-up calls... just knowing won't lead you to enough clarity to pursue the new direction.
But it all starts with the hour-long session... That I am willing to run a special on for a while, to see if I am wrong about you, or right about you.
Whatever answer I get is the answer I need. If you are not interested... I want to know.
Can't afford it right now, but want it? I want to know. No obligation... just feedback.
Comments or questions are welcome.
- It is hard to look, hard to see beyond your selfish little interests...
It probably won't surprise you that the most successful people, the producers, are able to separate their emotions from reality, and they more often act on reality than on emotion. And when they act on emotion, they are just as stupid, inane, ineffective as you are.
- In a previous course of mine, can't remember which, I use a metaphor, or simile... reality is empty, or mostly empty. It is the sky. And the emotions are the clouds trying to hide reality, cover up reality, replace reality... competing for your attention.
- each available spot had 20 applicants competing for it