The first one you probably don't know very well: this is the complaint that intends to move all concerned towards resolution. There is a commitment in the background to resolve the complaint, and remove it from existence.
I'll talk more about it later, but for completion's sake...
...let's see the second kind of complaint. I call it idle complaint.
Its main aim is to keep things from changing, while making you look good, be right, and not have to do anything differently than you are doing.
The background, some of the invisible part of this idle complaint is either said, or not said, but it says: "There is nothing I can do about that..."
Sometimes no one can do anything about it... but often it is aimed at other people, saying "If they just did what they were supposed to do... all would be resolved." Which is almost always leaving the complainer looking good, and innocent.
Ultimately an idle complaint is designed to make you look like a victim, a victim of another, a victim of circumstances, inner or outer.
Now, ultimately, a complaint doesn't lie 100%, it is instead a tool of creating the you in the world where you are nothing but a thing being blown about. Powerless.
The construct, the name of the idle complaint structure is called racket, and it is the most destructive of all the invisible dynamics, because it, unattended, takes charge of all of your life, and renders the world to match your complaint: you are a hapless, powerless victim, an effect, everywhere.
Once you believe it, it will be so. And life lived from that position is horrible.
When you can internalize that every complaint is the tip of the iceberg of this same machine, and every complaint can be turned into a tool, a lever for getting you to become a cause, you can be on your way to become a MAN... a human being.
This past weekend I realized that ultimately this is the reason why the meme, "you create your own reality" is true, can be true.
Of course it is entirely useless without knowing the how, and without knowing what is the enemy.
It's like a surgeon's knife used to butcher life in the wrong hands.
I had an instant this week that shook me to my core.
I remember coming from the bedroom to my office and feeling blah.
It is winter, and I have been weak and lacking physical energy for quite some time, so I jumped to a thought that maybe I am blah because I have nothing to look forward to.
That was a thought, I could see, that could be the beginning of a slippery slide into depression. Or into desire trap. Or into really low vibration, seeking something to look forward to.
I separated myself from this complaint for a day, so I can see it while I am doing other things.
You can do that with any complaint, with any emotion, or thought: keep it visible, so you can make a decision about it, about what to do with it.
The worst thing anyone can do to jump onto any slippery slide, because they have always done so...
I saw that the common person, when they are asked what they have to look forward, they always talk about some event, that is not part of daily living. Christmas, the birth of a child, their wedding, buying a bigger house, a car, or losing those unwanted pounds.
But life is about living, not about events. And living has its quiet silent beauty, that the event based life doesn't consider...
- The enjoyment of jumping out of bed, the easy contraction of the muscles is not an event.
- The sheet of ice that covers the northbound windows up to the top is not an event.
- The morning beverage that goes down warmingly and soothingly, is not an event.
- Writing an article, for me, is not an event.
- Reading a book that transports me to parts of the world unknown to me... is not an event.
- Even bickering about how people are bad in British series, is not an event, but joyful nevertheless.
I have about 14 hours of being awake and doing what I do to look forward every day.
And all I did was consider the idea "what do I have to look forward to" question the tip of the iceberg, a complaint, and not allow it to go the way most complaint take you: a few turns of the racket machine to crush your spirits.
Instead I looked if the complaint is even true... And if you ever follow me in this path, the Playground path, you'll realize that 90% of the complaints, are not even true. They are just pretty excuses to give up on life.
How about turning this idle complaint into committed complaint, and decide to put on the diving gear, and see what is in the hidden parts of that darn iceberg, so you can, armed with new eyes, start gaining some power over the machinery.
You pay for your ignorance with that... but ultimately, isn't that what you want for your life? Aliveness, joy, love, well-being and a sense of power?
This is what you can get through the learning and then skillful usage of the knowledge of the invisible dynamics I teach in the Playground.
Tiny bit by tiny bit, so instead of the illusion of knowledge, you get real working knowledge you can use and transform you life, tiny bit by tiny bit.
In the Playground and for the rest of life.
I will use my complaint that I work free or almost free and cannot make enough money to pay my bills. Both statements are actually accurate...
What one can notice, is one statement "I work free or almost free" is something that I can do something about... i.e. stop working for free or almost free.
The second complaint will or will not change as a result of the actions I can take to make my services not free or not almost free.
Raising prices is one unpopular step.
Refusing to do work that is not paid for is another unpopular step.
I run the risk of making people angry. Yes.
I run the risk of losing some... But all in all, what am I losing? People who want to get without giving.
The ones that remain and start paying for what they are getting, are also the people who will get the best results in my work.
The ones that are takers...
But even people whose base nature is not "taker" can be seduced by the availability of free stuff... very seductive. So being a giver is not without its sinister undertones... ugh, ugly.
Just watch people at an all-you-can-eat buffet and you can see that almost everyone will try to eat the house out of income... choose the most expensive dishes, etc.
People, the non-takers, hate themselves doing that. I never go to an all-you-can-eat buffet. I prefer not to be seduced into taking things, eating things, that will, on the long run, wreak havoc with my life.
So with a harsh email, a few slight changes on my pages, I have removed a lot of my complaint... not answering emails, or automated answering: email coaching is a product and you haven't paid for it yet... will solve all the complaint.
Yeah... was it hard? A little bit. Was it scary? Hell yeah.