Most people cannot properly, accurately identify what they feel inside. On one hand self awareness is low, on the other knowing what the inner dynamics are is not taught in any school, or by any ‘guru’.
Given that it is not taught, you’ll have a hard time, I guess, to accept that all pain is the result of resistance… emotional, physical… all pain.
But what about fear?
This article was inspired by two things, maybe three?
1. An article on Medium penned by an Irish dude… who suggests that all good things are on the other side of fear. I can see that.
2. The sudden drop in the number of people who read my articles
3. My conversation today on the Distinction Podcast.
Bonnie’s soul correction is Silent Partner. Very fearful soul correction. And the dominant attitude of people of this soul correction is resistance… avoiding domination, not wanting to be told what to do.
Some people with the Silent Partner soul correction take it to the max… they are belligerent.
My job as a teacher is to tailor how I teach to the preference of the student… so they can learn.
Whether it is how structured the material is, or what language I use, or what ‘modality’ I use to drive things home, it is MY JOB to make my teaching effective.
And I am resisting it.
It is a lot like getting into the cold pool… you imagine what it is going to be like, the horror of it, but once you are in it, it is quite invigorating…
I remember being the only person of my group who swam in an ice cold mountain lake in Russia, back in 1970… no one else was willing to do it.
It is not that I am fearless, but I am willing to try what scares me. What looks frightening. Because life could be an adventure…
But certain things even I resist…
What kind of things?
Things that my ego says will make me look bad.
So, the ego that cares only about looking good, so the ego loved it.
But doing something I don’t know how to do… that brings with it the danger of looking really bad. So I am experiencing resistance… you can call fear. I don’t.
I am clear that the feeling I have is resistance… mixed in with the sharp pain caused by the soul…
When I don’t do what would make me better but first it would make me look bad, both the ego and the soul are nudging me.
- My resistance to the soul’s nudging is the 42nd Bach Energy: No matter what I do… it won’t work…
- My resistance to the ego’s nudging is procrastination…
My distinction procrastination is not complete… it is at 10%… lots I don’t know about procrastination because I rarely procrastinate.
Procrastination is not doing what wants to get done and suffering from it.
There are a lot of things I don’t do, but I don’t suffer… A very few things I would get huge results with but the resistance to looking bad, mostly to myself, holds me back. Heck… that is procrastination.
Just like hate is eating the poison you mean for another, procrastination is suffering without any of the benefits the actual doing could cause.
Not a good deal.
The dude in the articles says: Ask: ‘What would I do if I weren’t afraid?’
My knee jerk reaction to that is that suggests that you should eliminate the fear… good luck with that! Not going to happen.
But when I get through my judgment, I can see that the question can drive up what is important, what the ‘soul’ wants you to do, what the soul is pushing for: doing what will make you become all you can become.
Sometimes you see who you could have become because you look at people who started where you started, and are no way ahead of you. That is hell.
Consider that what is more important than being smart, getting good grades, being liked, looking good, even being healthy is your ability to stop resisting and get going.
Many times what wakes me up is a little ‘teaching story’ where you are afraid to start something, and someone says: in five years, if you start, you’ll be an expert or well on your way to become an expert. But if you don’t start… you’ll be exactly where you are now.
You can call it fear, but after reading this article you know it isn’t fear. It is resistance. It is an unwillingness to look bad for a little while. To feel bad and insecure, maybe even stupid or inadequate for a little while.
It is time to sac up, to man up, to grit your teeth and do what you need to do so you can become all you can become, so you can avoid the hell we all face if we don’t.
In tomorrow’s Integrity Workshop, session #3 of 4 I’ll deliver a method to help you identify what it will take for you to 10x yourself and your life.
You can buy the recordings of the whole course, or you can just buy this method… I call The Clarity Exercise to 10x yourself or your business…
Priceless. It is recommended that you do this exercise once a month, maybe even once a week.
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