You can go and learn anything, philosophy, theology, Marxism, and yet, at the root of your worldview, the way you look at everything was created by an upset 3-year old.
At age 3, with very rare exceptions, we are all, when I compare you to an adult, dumb.
Even geniuses, like the little boy who played chess… emotionally, even these young geniuses are little kids… no sign of mature sensibilities.
In the novel, Sense and Sensibility, the younger, overexcited sister, even at age 16 is emotionally immature.
Emotional maturity is being able to see reality independent of one’s desire.
Ohoo… that means that most everyone is emotionally immature, doesn’t it? Hell yeah, that is exactly what it means.
Because that early incident when you created your worldview never got resolved.
What happened in that early incident is that either
- You wanted something and it wasn’t given to you (thwarted intention),
- You expected something and something else happened (unfulfilled expectation)
- Somehow you could not be yourself and be accepted (undelivered communication?)
- The first gives you the worldview that ‘I can never get what I want‘
- The second gives you that ‘what I want should happen automatically, without me having to do anything for it‘
- And the third says that ‘I can never be myself.‘ That ‘I have to mold myself, discipline myself to be able to be acceptable, but that is all I can hope for.‘
So what is there to do? What CAN you do?
Even though I learned 30% of my methodology from Landmark, and 10% from Kabbalah, neither of them have EVER succeeded dislodging that worldview so the person (1) can have freedom, and room to be ANYTHING. (2) Do what needs to be done. (3) Be who they are.
I lead only experimental workshops. Even my one-on-one calls are experimental.
Experimental means: I don’t know, going in, what to do to take the client, the student, to the Promised Land… whatever that means to them.
I go where the conversation takes me.
Recently we have been going where no man has gone before… (Star Trek anyone?)
And some ‘useless’ tools suddenly become useful, like the three categories of upset… from Landmark.
In the Landmark seminar where I learned it… there it was used to dissipate upset… But it never touched the roots, the seed level… so it was a temporary salve…
Now, truth be told, we, this group and me, have been trying to look at the original incident from left, right and center… And so far we have been unsuccessful, or largely unsuccessful at changing the seed level: the decision.
The person with the particular worldview can rarely see themselves… I am the teacher and I have been sitting here for some time, guessing which one is mine.
Your worldview is hidden from you… like a blue drone would be invisible in the blue sky…
That is why it is silly to hope that reading an article can give you what you need…
Anyway, it is your life, what do I care…
The art is to be able to look at what is happening from a different angle without taking the mind to that new vantage point with the eyes.
The mind is what we call ‘backdrop’ in this work: it is more visually, kinesthetically accessible.
The DNA capacity that allows that is the Driftwood capacity, an aspect of the Swiss Army Knife Sight capacity… that has also the foresight, the astuteness in it.
Life depends on what you see. What you see depends on where your eyes are looking from at the situation.
The standard place to look from is from behind your eyeballs… i.e. staring in your backdrop behind what’s happening.
- This results in a life of ‘going to’… and never getting there. Seeking. Wanting. Needing. And never finding. Never arriving. Trying but never succeeding.
- Losing what comes to you by accident… (lottery winners are a good example. But it is true in relationships, jobs, and every area of life)
- Or having to be ‘Elinor from Sense and Sensibility’ in life… having to make sure you are not yourself and don’t do what you need to do for yourself.
Most of my students have the ‘magical’ worldview…
No matter which one you live by, you won’t be happy, fulfilled. You won’t live a life you love… because you won’t love yourself.
I just doublechecked which students has which worldview, and to my utter surprise, Source DARED! to disagree with my assessment. lol.
This is one of the advantages of studying with me: you are not left at the mercy of my own knowledge, feelings, or opinion. I muscletest everything to make sure it’s accurate.
It is very important to know what you decided when you were three…
You can’t catch what you don’t see… and you cannot change what you can’t see…
And if you are inaccurate, then your results won’t stick.
In two Invent your Self, your ‘who I am’ live sessions we’ll attend to both part of this: the original worldview and who you could be that your life would be a life you can love and live it powerfully.
I have tentatively scheduled the first session for the Saturday before Independence Day.
But I am flexible…
There are already three participants… so I can take another three…
Invent your Self, your ‘who I am’